Unusual bank withdrawals all to girls names

[Toryjane]

My husband does our online banking ,he was away last week and we had an issue with our bank so I logged in. I have found lots of withdrawals ,I know nothing off & they mostly have single girls names beside them ! Does anyone have any idea what they are ,my mind is racing thinking my husband has been cheating .I can’t find anything online ,I’ve posted a few examples but there at least 10 other girls names showing similar withdrawals .he already says I’m paranoid but I have caught him on dating sites ,messaging escorts in the past .I thought this behaviour was behind until I found these .

They could be names he has put in to the app so he knows what the money is for.

Eg I have a savings account but on by bank app it says holiday spends if I pay money to oh it says hot stuff. Nail bar is Kerry. Hairdressers is Odette. Gym is fat club etc.

So instead of only fans Maria, massage Parlour or Brothel's Mariana Back ally hand job Trixie etc

Cloned card? What did the bank say? I had similar round number amounts taken out of my account a few years ago to random one off names and it turned out was a cloned card.

It might be cam girls, or he’s a sugar daddy perhaps. Either way, it’s not looking good is it?

if it’s a joint account, I’d move all the money out of it into another for “safe keeping” because you think you’ve been scammed and then call the bank and tell them about the suspicious transactions you don’t recognise. Then tell DH. How he reacts will tell you all you need to know I’d have thought.

Noooooo, surely that's a sugar daddy. A paypig is one you dominate and he sends you money and gets a kick out if it.

( How the hell do I, a respectable matriarch know all this?? ) 🤣

It doesn’t look good.. also why has he not discussed spending last he sums of the family household money frequently.. I would imagine you would with him

*sums

I’d send him a message saying: shit, am about to phone police and bank as we’ve been hacked. Just seen loads of payments to random first names - someone is draining our account

see what he comes back with

109% this

Text him the screenshots and tell him you're going to go to the bank tomorrow to find out where these payments have gone as you think you've both been victims of fraud... Then don't respond. See what his reaction is.

I work for one of the banks, these are faster payments to bank accounts so made on an app or Internet banking directly to these peoples accounts. Its highly likely to be cam girls or sex work of some kind.
It's not card payments and doesn't follow the usual pattern for fraud.
This sort of spending is often seen alongside gambling.
Sorry OP there is no way this is related to crypto investment.

One of those names is the full name of a woman whose address is given on 192.com ...

I’m going to go against the grain here. Set up a transfer from the joint account to your own sole account @Toryjane

Label the transfers something like ‘Chantelle’.

Then start transferring £100 twice a day and see what happens…….

Either way he comes clean to you, or he blocks the account with the bank and you get your £900 or so to spend on a new coat, pair of boots and you know he will never challenge you on it. You get a new joint account and can receive your letter and car reader in the post and insist all money now goes through it. After all, 4 eyes are better than 2.

Op, can you please remove the transactions?

You can also zoom in and read Mia's surname - I looked her up and she should be a 21 years old. Is that what your husband likes? Saying he's a pig is an offence to pigs.

I'm so sorry, this is disgusting

Mia West will be a very common name. Plus I doubt these girls - if they are cam girls/prostitutes use their own names (ie the name they use on social media)

Are you going to contact the bank OP? I think this is the most sensible option. Smoke the rat out!

I’d be getting the diary out and seeing if I could work out where he was during those dates but it looks like cam girls.

@Justforlaffs good point and I'm so naive - you're right they definitely would use a "nom de plume". I am just surprised OP is dithering I would have been on the phone to my bank immediately.

Me too.

And move all the money out of that account in case it's been hacked or something ... see what he says.

I really feel for you, OP, this must have been an awful thing to discover.

There is no positive explanation here.

If he was scammed he would know straight away and have his card blocked as the amounts are huge.

If it’s him transferring it to other accounts of his own he wouldn’t use all girls names and wouldn’t have the mixture of some surnames and some only first names.

I too think it could be cam girls as it seems he’s got carried away and kept hitting the send button which is why the amounts are the same for each woman.

I’ve seen one where it’s a cash app thing where you upload your details first and then on the videos it’s literally a one click button to send cash so the person goes a bit further or just to ‘show your appreciation’.

It’s sad how many men will send women money on these things.

havent read all posts but has anyone else noticed the date? may 2022.

OP ill set up your own account.

Its not looking good if this has been going on over 6months. (hugs)

Given the fact that he already has previous for this I would think the logic would be that his at it again. Men like this never change. You accepted his shit last time so he thinks he can do it again. Just get rid

Could @Toryjane empty the account completely and put as reference Maria?

Eh ?

Had to look up cam girls. How come everyone here’s so familiar with the phrase?

How can you not be ?

These transactions were last May! Nearly £1000 in one day to Maria, I guess you fint really know how much he earns if you didnt notice all this money going. Is it still going on currently?