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Unusual bank withdrawals all to girls names

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Toryjane · 06/03/2023 15:41

My husband does our online banking ,he was away last week and we had an issue with our bank so I logged in. I have found lots of withdrawals ,I know nothing off & they mostly have single girls names beside them ! Does anyone have any idea what they are ,my mind is racing thinking my husband has been cheating .I can’t find anything online ,I’ve posted a few examples but there at least 10 other girls names showing similar withdrawals .he already says I’m paranoid but I have caught him on dating sites ,messaging escorts in the past .I thought this behaviour was behind until I found these .

Unusual bank withdrawals all to girls names
Unusual bank withdrawals all to girls names
Unusual bank withdrawals all to girls names
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ShakespearesBlister · 06/03/2023 18:28

Toryjane · 06/03/2023 17:39

Sorry to many to reply to & seeing kids in from school ,my husband is still away presently.This isn’t a account I generally need access to or use ,my husband has a very good job and pays all our bills etc .I also have a separate account which is one I regularly use myself. I know it’s definitely not drugs op tested regularly through his job ,he has had gambling problems previously . The money in account is not mine personally I have never added funds.op does bitcoin & crypto which he puts money in from I don’t really understand . Everyone asking why I didn’t go previously,,leave marriage .we have been together 19 year ,3 children . We briefly split up 9 year ago ,6 month later we got back together & since married .Two year after recoinciling I opened a old phone and found evidence dating sites ,escorts they were sent before we had split up. I know he didn’t meet ,everything was a lie ,not a description of him & stated he lived 100s of miles from our home so no chance of meeting up.he doesn’t work away & never usually away from home . For all he has a good job we also do not have money like this to spend , I wanted others opinions as things have been so good & it took me a lot of years to stop bringing up what I had found previously.I don’t want to accuse and it turn out to be some kind of payment into one of these crypto ,bitcoin things as I have no understanding how they work . Girls names are not references they are name of account holder ,which usually has a surname unless a it’s a business name .

Please tell me you're not really this naive?

twoandcooplease · 06/03/2023 18:34

I'd be less focused on the name and more that your husband said he didn't do it and you didn't do it so phone the bank
I worked for a larfe bank fraud department- they can check how it's been done, the app or internet used and if it's the same phone/laptop/computer that's been used as a genuine transaction.
Fraud departments are usually open 24/7

Callingallskeletons · 06/03/2023 18:34

I’m so sorry OP but I’d be fairly confident they’re hookers (Maria definitely seems to be regularly earning a small fortune if not) the smaller amounts id think maybe only fans content or other escort services?

Sorry 🥺 what a fucking arsehole

Ballcactus · 06/03/2023 18:36

pay pig I reckon 🐷

Helpfulhaddock · 06/03/2023 18:38

Surely the best way to buy drugs is from a joint account? Isn't that what it's for?

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tensmum1964 · 06/03/2023 18:40

Cam girls would be my first thought too.

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Weallhaveavoice · 06/03/2023 19:00

Wow Maria made £900 in one day ( that’s a Monday )

Id contact the bank and ask what these payments are.
If your dh is denying them then ask the bank to investigate.
Meanwhile I’d cancel all cards

That will

  1. give dh the benefit of the doubt
  2. if someone has your card number this fraud will stop
  3. if it is dh he will stop, kindof
whynotwhatknot · 06/03/2023 19:02

if it was fraud wouldnt you h have noticed that by now its been nearly a year

SlightlyJaded · 06/03/2023 19:04

OH OP

It's pretty clearly sex related

Whether its Pay Pig / Cam Girls or another site - the names and the amounts ae pretty damning.

I'.m sorry but I think it's obvious. I hope you are ok

TheChosenTwo · 06/03/2023 19:09

I’d never heard of the term pay pig until reading this. Just the name is grim. How is this so well known 😱 Do i just live under some kind of rock?! I do watch and read the news every day, promise!

pompei8309 · 06/03/2023 19:10

Toryjane · 06/03/2023 15:41

My husband does our online banking ,he was away last week and we had an issue with our bank so I logged in. I have found lots of withdrawals ,I know nothing off & they mostly have single girls names beside them ! Does anyone have any idea what they are ,my mind is racing thinking my husband has been cheating .I can’t find anything online ,I’ve posted a few examples but there at least 10 other girls names showing similar withdrawals .he already says I’m paranoid but I have caught him on dating sites ,messaging escorts in the past .I thought this behaviour was behind until I found these .

All of those are very common eastern european names , they’re cam girls. Get out , f…k the 19 years, they obviously doesn’t mean anything to him , why would you care ?

Ramunea · 06/03/2023 19:13

Either a cam girl, a prostitute or a SUGAR BABY

juliettesmother · 06/03/2023 19:18

Erm... can girls.

Weallhaveavoice · 06/03/2023 19:22

TheChosenTwo · 06/03/2023 19:09

I’d never heard of the term pay pig until reading this. Just the name is grim. How is this so well known 😱 Do i just live under some kind of rock?! I do watch and read the news every day, promise!

You're not alone. 🙃

ProfessionalWeirdo · 06/03/2023 19:23

I’d never heard of the term pay pig until reading this. Just the name is grim. How is this so well known 😱 Do i just live under some kind of rock?! I do watch and read the news every day, promise!
**
You're not alone. 🙃

No, me neither. I've obviously had a very sheltered middle-age.

PhantomOfTheAquarium · 06/03/2023 19:30

UnePetitDeKelvin · 06/03/2023 16:19

Onlyfans is billed as "onlyfans" I believe.

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You "believe" 🤨

j81 · 06/03/2023 19:31

I would definitely bring it up
To your husband to see see what he has to say and then I would contact your bank

applebee33 · 06/03/2023 19:32

Escorts or he is a sugar daddy/ one of those type creeps. Guys pay for foot pics, used underwear etc . Cash pigs they call them . I'm sorry I'd go insane with the amount he is sending on top of what it's for !

Babybab · 06/03/2023 19:33

The amounts look more like cam work than escort/prostitution. However it’s unusual to send money directly to the women, and to have the bank name as a business in their stage name. Usually the payment would go to the hosting service and they take the cut and distribute to the women. Several of the cam sites also take payment in cypto, which given he deals in that - you’d think he’d use.

Also for those saying Prostitutes may have a legitimate business account. It’s possible, if they’re thinking about buying a house etc but it’s highly unlikely you’d find that many women who all had their own legit businesses set up in that way. It is better for them, and the punter to take payment in cash. And business dealings with bacs would only ever really be via a wider parent company, that would show differently and not have lots of different names for each girl.

Something doesn’t add up. Sex sites are the obvious answer but it just doesn’t ring right. I’d call the bank if he doesn’t give you a clear answer.

Hydrangeatea · 06/03/2023 19:33

No one earning that amount of money could be that thick surely?

LuluBlakey1 · 06/03/2023 19:35

What is his explanation?

Hydrangeatea · 06/03/2023 19:35

Babybab · 06/03/2023 19:33

The amounts look more like cam work than escort/prostitution. However it’s unusual to send money directly to the women, and to have the bank name as a business in their stage name. Usually the payment would go to the hosting service and they take the cut and distribute to the women. Several of the cam sites also take payment in cypto, which given he deals in that - you’d think he’d use.

Also for those saying Prostitutes may have a legitimate business account. It’s possible, if they’re thinking about buying a house etc but it’s highly unlikely you’d find that many women who all had their own legit businesses set up in that way. It is better for them, and the punter to take payment in cash. And business dealings with bacs would only ever really be via a wider parent company, that would show differently and not have lots of different names for each girl.

Something doesn’t add up. Sex sites are the obvious answer but it just doesn’t ring right. I’d call the bank if he doesn’t give you a clear answer.

Echo the bottom paragraph....something doesn't add up.

I can't believe someone would be so stupid as to pay a prostitute or cam girl or whatever through a joint account that there wife would see, especially not someone with that amount of money to spare who obviously has done well enough to get themselves into a reasonably financial situation. There has to be more to this.

VariantHela · 06/03/2023 19:37

Holy shit OP I'd be filing for divorce.