Unusual bank withdrawals all to girls names

[Toryjane]

My husband does our online banking ,he was away last week and we had an issue with our bank so I logged in. I have found lots of withdrawals ,I know nothing off & they mostly have single girls names beside them ! Does anyone have any idea what they are ,my mind is racing thinking my husband has been cheating .I can’t find anything online ,I’ve posted a few examples but there at least 10 other girls names showing similar withdrawals .he already says I’m paranoid but I have caught him on dating sites ,messaging escorts in the past .I thought this behaviour was behind until I found these .

The ones to Maria are £100, then there is a payment of £90 and then £10. To make another hundred. That's what's bugging me here.

How are you going to approach him OP?

These are old transactions, why do some of them say they are pending payments?

With my bank I have to create a 'payee' before I can transfer money to them, and I can look a list of 'my payees' with the account number and sort code.

Are you able to do this?

Where is the OP?

There's no good explanation for this. Sorry.

Get your affairs in order (pun not intended) to leave him, and then confront. I'd also phone the bank first too for more info.

That's a hell of a lot of money going out.
You've got a Mia,Maria,Marian and a Mariana. That looks like it's his own personal code for something to me.Bit of a coincidence otherwise.

Well that was an expensive wank.

Raging with you OP. Any payees set up will surely be available to you to see so check there also. This will be OnlyFans or the Cam Girls for sure.

Looks like financial dominatrix type stuff to me. Oh my word, I would be so upset.

Cam girls/ findom.

I just can’t get my head round him doing it from the joint account…That part makes no sense.

, OP.

It’s pretty obvious OP
Time to move on from this man. You already know he uses dating sites and escorts. He hasn’t changed.
Ensure you ONLY put money for shared household bills in this joint account going forward so he doesn’t wipe out all of your money before you are rid of him.
Good luck x

Does this account have your name on it? If so, you need to call the bank to say there are payments you don't recognise.

But if you've caught him talking to escorts in the past then I'd say this is obviously the same sort of thing. I'm so sorry.

Depressingly I had a loser of an ex many years ago, so I know that some prostitutes take smaller deposits for appointments and large hourly amounts, similar to what you’ve posted. They do take bank transfers, but not normally to their own account (so men don’t know their real name, but also because most of their money is taken by exploitative agencies) so those will be the fake/website names of the prostitutes he’s put as a reference so the “driver” or agency recognise the payment.

My mind is jumping to Only Fans but I'm not sure how that would appear on a bank statement

The fact that he’s been caught out before means it’s a pretty safe bet it’s something dodgy

I have found lots of withdrawals ,I know nothing off & they mostly have single girls names beside them ! Does anyone have any idea what they are ,my mind is racing thinking my husband has been cheating ... I have caught him on dating sites ,messaging escorts in the past

Sorry, OP, but unless these transactions are fraudulent, I think you've answered your own question.

So this is your joint account? He's not even trying to hide it.

I just can’t imagine anyone being stupid enough to make it so obvious from a joint account. He must have a modicum of intelligence given the wealth he has.

Sorry to many to reply to & seeing kids in from school ,my husband is still away presently.This isn’t a account I generally need access to or use ,my husband has a very good job and pays all our bills etc .I also have a separate account which is one I regularly use myself. I know it’s definitely not drugs op tested regularly through his job ,he has had gambling problems previously . The money in account is not mine personally I have never added funds.op does bitcoin & crypto which he puts money in from I don’t really understand . Everyone asking why I didn’t go previously,,leave marriage .we have been together 19 year ,3 children . We briefly split up 9 year ago ,6 month later we got back together & since married .Two year after recoinciling I opened a old phone and found evidence dating sites ,escorts they were sent before we had split up. I know he didn’t meet ,everything was a lie ,not a description of him & stated he lived 100s of miles from our home so no chance of meeting up.he doesn’t work away & never usually away from home . For all he has a good job we also do not have money like this to spend , I wanted others opinions as things have been so good & it took me a lot of years to stop bringing up what I had found previously.I don’t want to accuse and it turn out to be some kind of payment into one of these crypto ,bitcoin things as I have no understanding how they work . Girls names are not references they are name of account holder ,which usually has a surname unless a it’s a business name .

OMG definitely something going on. Sorry OP.

Exactly - this is what I don’t get.

If there wasn't past evidence of issues, I'd say don't jump to conclusions as it could be fraudulent withdrawals, but given what you've said, yes, he's getting some sort of kicks off cam girls or similar in all likelihood.

Watch his reaction when you say you're going to contact the bank because you think there's been fraudulent activity on there,..

Have you googling the names followed by escort or cam girl? I tried Mia W and got a whole escort service. Don’t know where you live so might not be the right area but I’d be seeing if they did phone calls or live camera. Sorry OP doesn’t look good