BF not happy with 'sex work'

[Wineforever]

No judgement please, just advice. Basically finally told BF (we've been together 3 months nearly) how I make money. I went back to uni last year and to support myself Ive been selling worn items online, got 4 regular buyers now and its been a steady income with not much effort, which is ideal with studying, literally just wear the items for a day or two, dont even pay for postage as i include that in the total. Don't meet any of them, no camming, no naked photos or ever show my face, however he's not happy and is saying he'll support me while I'm studying, but I don't want him doing that, or having to ask him for money, especially so early into the relationship. I like being independent. And i feel like he's judging me, which doesn't feel great, especially since doing this work it's actually made me feel a lot more self confident (I'm at least a stone or two over weight) and now since our argument i just feel bad about myself again.

Its not that i dont get why he's annoyed, but studying is important for me and I'm earning money whilst not having to go out and work, and i dont want to be indebted to him, and feel generally like he's trying to tell me what to do, so really conflicted. He's mentioned moving in together and ive told him its too soon for that. I wish now I'd not said anything but thought it best to be honest. He's never asked before, just knew i was studying full time.

There was a article about a young couple that sells the guys boxers,socks and smelly gym gear. He adds his picture wearing the gear, and they swarm too buy it 😬.

It gives me the creeps that some weirdo would be wanking and inhaling my knickers. Probably puts them too on FFS. I definitely wouldn't like it if a boyfriend was selling his skiddy boxers. Why do women end up selling whatever to please men again? There's always threads about wives discovering husband's being porn, prostitute users. It's sickening.

I have to agree with this tbh.

Although I wonder if there is a market for selling DHs used undies? I don’t think I would have much of an issue with selling of used clothes. I wouldn’t class it as sex work but some obviously do. If I though that DH and I could make enough to retire from work by selling our pants then I would and he probably would too.

Do the get picture of just the gear or you wearing it? Please stay safe.

What how? Where do I sign up?

Maybe he is controlling. But in his place what OP is doing would put me off massively, and I'd probably just break up with her. I'd think that she should get a proper job, not do what I agree is sex work, "helping" men with their fetishes.

@Wineforever I went back to uni last year and to support myself Ive been selling worn items online, got 4 regular buyers now and its been a steady income with not much effort, which is ideal with studying, literally just wear the items for a day or two, dont even pay for postage as i include that in the total.

How would you feel if your BF was selling his underwear to guys on the internet?

Hmmm so I may be alone in this, but I find it a HUGE red flag that he’s possessive enough to have an issue.
I cannot stand controlling men. I’d be out.

you’ve found something that works for you. So let him be unhappy with it. Grown adults should be capable of managing disappointment. He doesn’t get to control you. You’re not doing something that harms him.

I didn't even know this was a 'thing' anyone did.

I thought you meant you were selling clothes on Vinted or somewhere like that.

I wouldn’t be too happy about my girlfriend doing that either to be honest but if it makes you happy he can’t stop you and you were doing it before he met you so he’s free to end the relationship

I don't think there's anything wrong with your choice to do so, but I do also understand why he's not ok with it. I don't think I'd be ok with an oh doing this, even if I support a person's right to do so. Ultimately, you may need to make a decision whether your relationship can survive such a difference between you both.

Not just you no :)

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Oh don't be a tell tale tattle tit.

I also want to know where one can flog their pants.

Carry on, OP. It sounds fairly tame.

It amazes me that people are prepared to pay for this.

Is there a post box under that bridge?

i feel like he's judging me, which doesn't feel great, especially since doing this work it's actually made me feel a lot more self confident (I'm at least a stone or two over weight) and now since our argument i just feel bad about myself again

This is what you should attend to OP. You are basing your self-esteem on what your BF thinks and/or what strangers on the internet think (your buyers), rather than on what you think and feel. You don't need to do what your boyfriend wants, but you don't need to care what strangers buying your worn clothing think either. By all means do it as a transaction to support your studies, but don't let it carry any more weight than that.

He has just as much right to be put off you for what you do, as you have to be put off him judging it. I wouldn’t like my partner or children selling worn clothing to fetishist either. However, it does seem too early for him to suggest he supports you and I would be wary of that. But otherwise you have fundamentally different views on your business so perhaps it may be better to go your separate ways.

How much do they go for a pair OP?

Presumably a lot more than the new ones you need to buy to replace them.

Do they buy any old knickers, like white cotton full briefs, or do they prefer little lacy numbers?

Asking for a friend.

he wants you to give up your income and live with him, claims he will support you=he wants you powerless and at his mercy
RED ALERT RED ALERT
WARNING WARNING

We can all start tomorrow if Op ever comes back to tell us where. Instant £, no interview. Maybe even Dragons Den for more investment and expansion

yep, count me in, although granny knickers may not be in demand :)

‘They’, the knicker people!!

Oh gawd no. You’ve only just met. 3 months, that was beginning of December, why does he think he can tell you what to d?. He is trying to control you.

But what happens when the post office clerk asks you what is in the parcel?