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BF not happy with 'sex work'

178 replies

Wineforever · 24/02/2023 20:04

No judgement please, just advice. Basically finally told BF (we've been together 3 months nearly) how I make money. I went back to uni last year and to support myself Ive been selling worn items online, got 4 regular buyers now and its been a steady income with not much effort, which is ideal with studying, literally just wear the items for a day or two, dont even pay for postage as i include that in the total. Don't meet any of them, no camming, no naked photos or ever show my face, however he's not happy and is saying he'll support me while I'm studying, but I don't want him doing that, or having to ask him for money, especially so early into the relationship. I like being independent. And i feel like he's judging me, which doesn't feel great, especially since doing this work it's actually made me feel a lot more self confident (I'm at least a stone or two over weight) and now since our argument i just feel bad about myself again.

Its not that i dont get why he's annoyed, but studying is important for me and I'm earning money whilst not having to go out and work, and i dont want to be indebted to him, and feel generally like he's trying to tell me what to do, so really conflicted. He's mentioned moving in together and ive told him its too soon for that. I wish now I'd not said anything but thought it best to be honest. He's never asked before, just knew i was studying full time.

OP posts:
YellowAndGreenToBeSeen · 24/02/2023 20:53

Ah man, I’ve reported this thread. ‘How do I sell my spoiled clothes’ is a) not in the spirit of this site (there are many other places on the internet that will help with this question) and b) gonna attract the less savoury types currently doing the rounds of the site.

I’ve no doubt the OP is genuine and is here asking for relationship help but it’s disintegrated into ‘how do I sell my soiled clothes?’ and you just know the less salubrious are enjoying this.

britneybitch23 · 24/02/2023 20:54

YellowAndGreenToBeSeen · 24/02/2023 20:53

Ah man, I’ve reported this thread. ‘How do I sell my spoiled clothes’ is a) not in the spirit of this site (there are many other places on the internet that will help with this question) and b) gonna attract the less savoury types currently doing the rounds of the site.

I’ve no doubt the OP is genuine and is here asking for relationship help but it’s disintegrated into ‘how do I sell my soiled clothes?’ and you just know the less salubrious are enjoying this.

Spoilsport

OhNoNotThatAgain · 24/02/2023 20:54

3 months nearly?

You could still count that in weeks. Some people wear their underwear for longer than that. Just dump him, life is too short to be bothered with controlling jerks.

determinedtomakethiswork · 24/02/2023 20:57

OhNoNotThatAgain · 24/02/2023 20:54

3 months nearly?

You could still count that in weeks. Some people wear their underwear for longer than that. Just dump him, life is too short to be bothered with controlling jerks.

Not the op. Two days of wear and then they are in the post!

Cherryana · 24/02/2023 20:59

Oh I wanted to know how much you make for this too. Sorry to be blatantly nosy.

Talkwhilstyouwalk · 24/02/2023 21:00

Do as you wish but he equally has the right to find it unappealing. Would be a massive turn off for me if my partner was selling his worn boxers.....

MrsDSalvatore · 24/02/2023 21:01

YellowAndGreenToBeSeen · 24/02/2023 20:53

Ah man, I’ve reported this thread. ‘How do I sell my spoiled clothes’ is a) not in the spirit of this site (there are many other places on the internet that will help with this question) and b) gonna attract the less savoury types currently doing the rounds of the site.

I’ve no doubt the OP is genuine and is here asking for relationship help but it’s disintegrated into ‘how do I sell my soiled clothes?’ and you just know the less salubrious are enjoying this.

Lighten up..dont get your knickers is a twist 😅

VerityUnreasonble · 24/02/2023 21:05

I think he has the right to not want a partner who makes a living doing this (also the right to not want a partner who is a nurse or a lawyer or an engineer or anything else really). You also are entitled to make money any legal way you choose. Basically you are not compatible with each other.

Slightly off topic I wonder if anyone would buy DHs used underwear because I would glady sell them his "extra well used" boxers.

JaffaCake70 · 24/02/2023 21:14

BigglyBee · 24/02/2023 20:13

When you say "worn items", what does that actually mean? Are we talking about skirts and shirts, or used undies?

To be honest, I wouldn't want my boyfriend (if I had one) selling used clothing on the internet for strangers to sniff at/wank over. It would put me right off. But I would just decide that this was not the person for me, and end the relationship.

This

Changemaname1 · 24/02/2023 21:15

Totally missing point but where do you sell and is never showing face common and still likely to get sales

asking for a friend 😂

3luckystars · 24/02/2023 21:16

Sounds like easy money, I want in!!

I might encourage you to leave the industry, but only to make room for me and the others on this thread.

Theseboobsweremadeforwalking · 24/02/2023 21:17

I too want to know where to sell as I thought this was a saturated market, if you'll pardon the pun.

underneaththeash · 24/02/2023 21:20

Stop posting its another troll

Oohoohwee · 24/02/2023 21:23

MrsDSalvatore · 24/02/2023 20:25

This ☝️ do please share 😅

I’ve been trying to find those used sock people for years.

Arthurflecksfacepaint · 24/02/2023 21:25

If some sad tosser wants my used pants and socks, I’m game.

3luckystars · 24/02/2023 21:27

What about those earbuds for cleaning out your ears? Would there be a market for them?

MyBloodyBrother · 24/02/2023 21:28

OhNoNotThatAgain · 24/02/2023 20:54

3 months nearly?

You could still count that in weeks. Some people wear their underwear for longer than that. Just dump him, life is too short to be bothered with controlling jerks.

I bet there would still be a bloke out there that would pay for underwear that had been worn for 3 months.

Pfeiffle · 24/02/2023 21:28

britneybitch23 · 24/02/2023 20:54

Spoilsport

😂😂😂

Oohoohwee · 24/02/2023 21:30

3luckystars · 24/02/2023 21:27

What about those earbuds for cleaning out your ears? Would there be a market for them?

😂😂😂

Suprima · 24/02/2023 21:32

Pretty sad that perverts buying your clothes has apparently raised your confidence

men would literally fuck a Big Mac. They are depraved. Self worth coming from their perversions is just sad.

he is completely within his rights to not want a girlfriend who does this

Socrateswasrightaboutvoting · 24/02/2023 21:33

Brookes99 · 24/02/2023 20:11

You do you. I don't think he has anything to complain or worry about, but maybe keep your eyes open for red flags as I'd be worried he may have some controlling tendencies that you should be open to seeing.

This.

Lookstrangeronthisisland · 24/02/2023 21:34

Him talking about wanting to move in with you after 3 months, and saying he'll financially support you at this stage is a much bigger red flag than you selling worn stuff to weirdos on the internet.

YellowAndGreenToBeSeen · 24/02/2023 21:37

underneaththeash · 24/02/2023 21:20

Stop posting its another troll

Even if the OP is genuine, many many will not be. And if I’m wrong, MN should not be encouraging sex work. Supporting sex workers, yes. Allowing advice on where to see your soiled clothes? Nah.

MrsDSalvatore · 24/02/2023 21:38

Oohoohwee · 24/02/2023 21:23

I’ve been trying to find those used sock people for years.

Honestly got to pay bills somehow, if some weirdo wants my used smelly socks (or any other items for that matter 😅) I'll happily let them buy them 😆 I've even got a bag full of odd ones I'll be willing to sell for a bargain price 🤣

bobbytorq · 24/02/2023 21:38

Suprima · 24/02/2023 21:32

Pretty sad that perverts buying your clothes has apparently raised your confidence

men would literally fuck a Big Mac. They are depraved. Self worth coming from their perversions is just sad.

he is completely within his rights to not want a girlfriend who does this

I agree with this. It's sad.