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DP googling how to fix my boobs

162 replies

Speechlass · 21/02/2023 19:14

Just looked on the history of our shared computer for something related to my work, and saw some websites my DP has searched/clicked on.

These include:
•How will my body change after breastfeeding
•Tips to reshape your breasts after breastfeeding
•And how to fix saggy breasts
•"How to make breasts go back to normal after weaning" (a direct search)

I've stated insecurities about this before whilst breastfeeding our three DC, but not recently. He has made insensitive comments before but generally, tries to compliment me and tell me I look great. Just a bit shocked to discover this.

Should I mention this? Genuinely not sure if I'm overreacting since I have mentioned being unhappy with my breasts before. But also feeling very WTF

OP posts:
TicketBoo23 · 24/02/2023 12:03

God your standards OP are so low.

I also find many of the loudest, least tactful voices are living with the same or worse, but conveniently forgot about that.

TicketBoo23 · 24/02/2023 12:04

Op counselling won't make him a not superficial asshole.

You'll have to live with him as he is, or not.

I'd just put yourself in a position to get rid of him if you want to.

Eyerollcentral · 24/02/2023 12:04

TicketBoo23 · 24/02/2023 12:01

God your standards OP are so low.

You need to go to tact school.

Like op needs that when she's in an LTR with this bloke, with 3 small kids involved.

While the subject of pork is very contentious it's also worth saying that the majority of men, and some women, do use it. And their partners tolerate it or torn a blind eye.

The being caught googling how to "fix" her boobs is something else. Maybe it's been more likely to happen because he watches porn,maybe it would have happened anyway.

He's immature, superficial, unrealistic, and seems to think his partner should be a sex doll as well as a mother, person, partner etc.

He didn't intend to get caught of course.

His knee jerk reaction to getting caught and called out on it was the DARVO accusatory bullshit. Doesn't reflect well on him either.

The apology is either genuine... Who knows ... Or motivated by getting back into the house and reconciling.

Op is is an unenviable position (and not as straight forward as "he cheated" , "he's regularly verbally abusive" etc. There are plenty of women who take a while to leave cheaters, for example or never do.

She doesn't need comments like yours.

Thanks for being the thread police, whoever you are. Are you a thwarted school prefect? Don’t try to police what I say again.

ItchyBillco · 24/02/2023 13:30

Don’t try to police what I say again

😆

TicketBoo23 · 24/02/2023 14:30

Eyerollcentral · 24/02/2023 12:04

Thanks for being the thread police, whoever you are. Are you a thwarted school prefect? Don’t try to police what I say again.

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If I am, you're the school bully.

TicketBoo23 · 24/02/2023 14:30

ItchyBillco · 24/02/2023 13:30

Don’t try to police what I say again

😆

I know.

Lol

Eyerollcentral · 24/02/2023 16:04

TicketBoo23 · 24/02/2023 14:30

If I am, you're the school bully.

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Lol well there would be a first time for everything I suppose. I’ll let you get back to your burdensome duties telling people what you think they are and aren’t allowed to say to people on these threads, you must never get a wink of sleep.

Eyerollcentral · 24/02/2023 16:05

TicketBoo23 · 24/02/2023 14:30

I know.

Lol

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And I’m the bully 🤣

ChrisTrepidation · 24/02/2023 17:40

Sorry but an apology by text after the shit he's pulled just isn't good enough.

He's just telling you what you want to hear. He will continue to watch porn on the sly because really he doesn't think there's anything wrong with doing so. Hence the calling you paranoid in the phone call.

Life really is too short to be made to feel shit by an immature and sexually incontinent man.

Carlycat · 25/02/2023 11:01

He's a twat 🤮

Lookingoutside · 25/02/2023 12:01

‘If my partner knew I was self conscious about my boobs and googled ways to help i would appreciate it’.

Aren’t you amazing. Two fucking idiots together.

QueefQueen80s · 25/02/2023 16:59

Lookingoutside · 25/02/2023 12:01

‘If my partner knew I was self conscious about my boobs and googled ways to help i would appreciate it’.

Aren’t you amazing. Two fucking idiots together.

Exactly 🤢 he should be filling her with confidence as she is, not looking at ways to "fix"..

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