Dating Thread 239 - spring fling

[Thisisworsethananticpated]

I couldn’t think of a decent as it’s been so fractious ! Will post rules shortly

Yeah
Totally out of context and not encouraged
The last he'd heard from me was how much I like him but that I couldn't cope with his lack of interest and my time being wasted etc
Then I got that

Bizarre.

Could it have been meant for someone else?

I know I had one of those when I was 'talking' to someone. It made no sense in the thread of our conversation at all.

But then maybe he's just telling you what he'd like. Quite bizarre

Thanks! Had a look but none seem to stand out for me at all. 😔

@EncroachingLoaf
Im pretty clueless too and came on here for an education and support 🙂. Sorry to hear you’ve had a tough time following your split from your partner. It’s not a nice experience especially after a long relationship. I left a 23 year marriage two years ago and the divorce is still dragging on so it’s been hard on me emotionally. We were just like friends - it was pretty obvious…no sex/affection/intimacy for many years. I had to accept that I just didn’t feel that way about him. I love him but not like that. It wasn’t fair on either of us.

I’m very naive with men though having only ever really had the one boyfriend (DH). I think this is probably the reason that I ended up the way I did as I had ‘bought the first toy in the shop I saw’ rather than played with a few before buying!! 😂

I joined a couple of dating sites and get plenty of likes but no-one is standing out to me. I don’t think it’s the right forum
for me but I’m worried I won’t meet anyone in real life (busy job etc.).

I‘m almost 51 and the clock is ticking 🙁.

Good luck out there!!

Charming!!! Think he deserves to be blocked permanently!!

@Definitelycross no I think it was meant for me
I was holding out hope that he wasn't a total arsehole but now I have my answer

qqq82

thats totally weird and nasty
is he usually like that ?
anyway , another little disappointment I suppose

No he wasn't usually like that
I wonder if its because he's pissed off that I dumped him but I was very clear why I'd done it and that I liked him
He just wasn't prepared to put any effort in and just told me it's the way he is and can't change

I thought it was such a strange time to send it too, 2pm on a Wednesday so not a drunken Friday night message

@qqq82 it doesn't even deserve a response - just block and delete 😒

I’d actually be tempted to reply to a nasty ass message like that
just to call out the vileness of it

See I wouldn't because I think he was trying to get a reaction/creep her out so I wouldn't give him satisfaction. There's no way he doesn't know its vile

I wouldn't either. Silence is far more effective
And another thing I've learnt, if you block someone, decide not to see them, your gut is usually right. I've always regretted giving someone a second chance in the early stages of dating..

I agree with MyFabby…second chance is usually a bad idea. I dated a guy who came to our first date completely drunk. We were in nice resto and he was off his head. We did have phone calls before meeting and on paper he ticked a lot of boxes. In second date he did not drink but he was a party animal and totally unsuitable
Also silence is the best treatment for nasty guys…if you answer..
they retaliate with ever more idiocy

I agree no contact either.

I've let four men be horrendous (I do take part of the blame for not respecting myself enough) and I took time out to text them what absolute c they were. No point. Ignored me. One even sent back a laughing emoji.

Latest just blocked but more importantly deleted him from my phone.

Currently having messages on POF - what's your favourite sexual position? Me - in a stable, committed relationship.

Another - do you wear panties or thongs - my reply long johns.

These 'men' are asking me this early on a Sunday afternoon.

Why????

Jesus Deffy…total wa%@#rs…how sad are those guys…

I’ve just had my second date with solvent
sadly don’t fancy him enough
know this as went to his flat for a cuppa and yeah , I just wasn’t feeling it

it is what it is

qqq82
everyone’s right it’s a waste of words
but why ? You had a connection presumably
just makes me cross when people can’t be human beings and just be basically nice

Maybe this is why we ghost

on that note I need to not ghost - but it can wait a day or so

Definitelycross

they are lonely have spent all day watching TV or gym and fancy a late Sunday hard on text

muppets
own goal

It must be the weekend for them!
Mr Anorak, from yesterday, decided to send me an abusive message complaining that I'd blocked him on WA.

Except that I hadn't blocked him. I'd just deleted his number so my pic disappeared.

So he's now reported on POF.

Second one I've reported this week on POF.

Oh dear… imbecile men all round. Sorry to hear this. It will get better Nelly…hang on in there

Definitelycross
I like your replies to the stupid questions. But why do they do that?

Does anyone actually give them a serious reply?

I would report them.
The one I reported a couple of days ago had his profile removed within 12 hours.

NellyTheCake

whaaaaaat

(1) didn’t he send the message anyway?
so what’s he complaining about ?
like what’s his problem ?

(2) I don’t think that deleting their number makes YOUR photo disappear ?

I’ve been texted by loads of people and I don’t have their number and their photo comes up

and I deleted pretty much all my irons and they seen to pop up again

Well I asked them if women fall for it and apparently so.

I'm not reporting them though. It's been very lighthearted from my side all the way through - if they got a bit nasty then I would have.

Thisisworsethananticpated
I deleted his number on WA. My pic on there is only visible to my contacts.

He's obviously looked on WA and seen there's no pic and assumed I've blocked him. Like you say, what does it matter? We agreed we had no connection and ended with polite messages. It wasn't like we were going to stay in touch.

But he went on POF looked at my profile this morning and this evening sent the abusive message accusing me of blocking him. And calling me a few choice names.

I think I had a lucky escape there

Hi ladies, I'm a newbie here 🙂

Broke up with Mr. Florentine (I named him so because he was great with treats). I liked him, he didn't think so. I cried for 3 days straight. Then something amazing happened. Suddenly I felt happy, even a bit hopeful. Like, I could see THE END writ large, and I told myself "This is my Book Of Life and I'm writing one page".

@qqq82 Strangely enough, Mr. Florentine also replied me along the line of "this is how I am and that cannot change" in our final day together. Maybe it's a red flag and I dodged a bullet here!

NellyTheCake

definately
id day anyone that’s pretending to be someone they arnt and then reacting so negatively clearly has some issues of some type

and probably isn’t someone you’d want to be with even if you did fancy him