Dating Thread 239 - spring fling

[Thisisworsethananticpated]

I couldn’t think of a decent as it’s been so fractious ! Will post rules shortly

@ibelieveinmirrorballs …how are you lovely? Mr Nice and Mr M convo… what’s up in your world?

I have one via work

Not as much as I liked having sex with him . He's the best I've ever had by a country mile and I don't mind admitting I've been around the block a few times 😂

I went out for drinks and dancing last night with my friend and whilst dancing away in the last place I bumped into Mr City 🤦‍♀️ Spent rest of night flirting with, gropping with and snogging with him 🙈 so now im back to square one and need to forget him all over again 😖

qqq82

well of course , why else do we stick with these emotionally unavailable people …..

sex 🥵

Slothmomma
ohhhhhh nooooooo
how was he ?

I’ve got my sex date tonight
so have just shaved exfoliated and oiled every inch

its weird as I did fancy him
but don’t feel like texting him at all

maybe I’ve learnt the hard way that WhatsApp does not maketh a connection

@Thisisworsethananticpated he's good. His first time out since his procedure 😄 My best friend got to meet him which was nice given how much I've chewed her ear off about him in the last year 😄

Ooooh good luck with the "date" @Thisisworsethananticpated 😈

Slothmomma

what did your friend think of him ?
is he still totally unavailable ?

‘date’ is stretching it a bit
but I joined FEELD as an experiment and he’s cute and local and want to see it through

my friends are like why are you doing this
find romance and someone to look after you
😂

She liked him and can see why he appeals to me and yeah I think still unavailable 🤦‍♀️

Slothmomma
sigh
people never change

youll be all 🥵🥰😵‍💫 for a few days

but it will pass

why are people like this - very frustrating

It is frustrating as we have a real connection but he doesn't want to date me I guess. He messaged when he was going to bed in the early hours and this morning and is now liking my pics on social media from last night but then it'll go back to hearing no further again - but yeah I'll get over him again 🤦‍♀️

Oh Slothy…😱😱…Mr City strikes again… stay away from him lovely

@Mila14 I won't hear again - and I won't chase him - so it will go back to as was. It was probably likely I'd bump into him out at some point given he lives in the city centre and goes to similar places to me. It was a fun evening though and nice to have a good snog if nothing else 😄

@Slothmomma why wasnt Mr City interested in more than a fling?

@LostidentityM I don't know. He said he wasn't really in a place to commit to it with work etc and didn't want to be accountable to someone as would feel guilty that he couldn't offer more of himself. Whether this is just a line he fed to me I obviously don't know though as far as I know he's remained single in the 8 months I've known him.

@Slothmomma I'm sorry to hear that. It sounds like he likes you but not enough to commit to seeing you exclusively. You do deserve more than that.

@Slothmomma I would avoid interacting as it would just make me feel like why am I good enough for sex and fun but nothing more

To everyone who was lovely in the week when I was having my sex/intimacy freak out, you were right. I had the best sex of my life Friday 🙈

So thanks for the encouragement x

You lucky thing - I'm so pleased and so jealous. Mr 11 tonight - great fun but no spark. We go again

Slothmomma

yes it’s rather unfortunate you bumped into him and stirred all those feelings again

well I had my sex date

I cannot fault the sex BUT the rest wasn’t really a fit for me
and I got a bit teary for ex (again 😵‍💫)

nether has texted the other and I think we leave it there

Worsy…don’t worry…this is normal. It can happen. Just love your little self today and let’s see who comes next. Maybe you can date FWB and normal date too…like 2 prong approach…I don’t know…

Mila14

im exhausted ! the mental and physical run up to a sex date is high . And did he notice my pedicure ? No

But agree

I’ve got FEELD through to mid March (doubt anything will pop up) then I’ll hit normcore Hinge april

its all learning
and as long as I include some exercise in my dates I can justify the time wasted

How’s MrEx and his headspace ?

Oh no. And not even noticing your pedicure - rude!

But seriously, you've tried it, you had great sex but it left you feeling hollow. I can totally understand that.

As Mila said be extra kind to yourself today. I know you're very good at making light of it but I also know the teary side.

So I'm going to be really very un-Mumsnet and send you a hug 🤗🤗🤗

Definitelycross · Today 08:59

bless you darling - and I’m actually ok

i was so happy to come home and see my kids and my clean 🧼 house 🏡

That said I need a rest , i don’t know where you have the energy to get to 11 !!!