Dating Thread 239 - spring fling

[Thisisworsethananticpated]

I couldn’t think of a decent as it’s been so fractious ! Will post rules shortly

Now I just get asked if I wear stockings Oddly enough, no one has ever asked me that 🙈 & the answer for me would be “only at weekend”

MrJ still seems convinced that we had a date arranged. He is now questioning whether he is losing his mind.

I feel like I am being gas lighted…

I haven’t responded. OLD is really toxic. Thank goodness for this chat. I would be lost without it!!

Women have asked me odd things, but never that ?
may they are worried that mine are nicer ?

I just don't get the mentality of the men who ask this as their opening message.

Are there women who actually respond in a positive way?

I'm now curious what weird things women ask men

😂😂

Well I've just had the most lovely morning with an absolute gentleman. So my quality is most definitely improving.

Sadly I didn't fancy him so I had to text that. I wanted to because he was really interesting but no.

So, next....

He hasn’t got plan for tomorrow so you would have to do…

Good for you Worsy…I’m super happy you want a lot more and you deserve it too.
The FWB was a phase in your life and that is ok too

One woman said she had never dated a man with a beard & could I shave it off, I felt like replying “ I never dated a bald woman, would you mind shaving your head”

questions about salary are not uncommon, one lady politely asked about “size” 😬,

most stick to music and films, regular chit chat

Wow! I feel 'lucky' I've only been asked about clothing and not about changing my appearance or money.

Good to hear you are getting some normal chats and dates.

Amazed that a woman asked about size!!!! And how cheeky to ask for the beard to be shaved!

@NellyTheCake i found OLD hard because in real life, im probably considered a decent catch. But you go online and your confidence can be seriously knocked. I have friends who have children and havent got children, all attractive, successful and more, but still no real luck online. Im just saying dont knock yourself down because you aren't having much luck - it's really not you.

I do think things to remember are to have a full life outside online dating, so you dont over focus on people/irons. Also, i do feel like generally people seem jaded by online dating though i dont know how else they meet people. With the guys i know, they really threw themselves into swiping, spending lots of money boosting their profile. All met people but only after hours and hours spent swiping. Also, not sure if its a thing but they all date women who dont earn as much as them!

Also, not sure if its a thing but they all date women who dont earn as much as them!

I have almost always out earned the women I have met online, not sure if that is a thing or not, maybe that’s where the questions around salary come from, women want to make sure there is at least financial parity ?

I know ! , people eh ?

LostidentityM
Thank you
It's hard when everyone I know has a partner. In my group of friends, I was the first to get divorced and I'm the only one still single.
Even the men I've had relationships with have either married or are living with their partner.

There is someone out there for me. Just have to find him.

@NoDatingForOldMen this may cause a big discussion but i believe men on some level like a woman who earns less than them, so they can be a provider of sorts. And vice versa, i think a woman likes a man to be successful in what they do and either financially equal or earning more than them

@NellyTheCake i think it genuinely is easy to look at others with rose tinted glasses - theirs may/may not be idyllic situations. But i think you just have to look after yourself and keep your boundaries strong and high so when that right person comes along, you are able to recognise him. I do think online dating makes us question ourselves a lot and whilst we all have flaws, it makes people so so self critical/feel judged. So many times i've read here how despondent people are, whereas actually they are probably great parents, partners, managers, staff, friends in their real life. I dont want to feel bad simply because some random doesnt think im his type.

Maybe, personally I like financial parity

Interesting re financials.
I have always felt that financials are equal so expect we share 50:50.

But you said yourself all your partners have earned less than you

My view is that women like it 50/50 or the man earning more yet men subconsciously like someone earning less

Yes & there is not really much I do about that unless l get the women I match with to send me their P60 🤷🏼

yet men subconsciously like someone earning less

what an odd comment

Not a slight on you!

Was this a hello from your man ? Have you responded? If it is him I am glad there has been contact.

Evening @Stepcount. Yes it was from him. I only responded a wee while ago and sent a very casual "I'm fine thanks, how are you" which he hasnt seen yet as hes at work to 9.