Dating Thread 239 - spring fling

[Thisisworsethananticpated]

I couldn’t think of a decent as it’s been so fractious ! Will post rules shortly

@LuckyLinda3
Mine is like this too...

@Slothmomma thank you. Yes today I do feel strong because I know what I brought to the party. I am a 100% in person and I gave it my best. His friends would often tell me they had never seen him so happy and I found myself again with him after my separation. In that sense we both benefited so much from our time together and if nothing else go forward with more insight and hopefully as better partners. I'm old school in ways and I need to feel the commitment, have plans yet I won't draw on all someones time. I know it will hit me and I am sad to lose him but I need to be valued for the partner I am.

Aw @VanillaSox really? I know it can be draining. How long have you been together and how do you deal with it?

LuckyLy
Sorry @Stepcount should have added he meant leave the relationship altogether

what??? Massive overreaction…is he tired of your relationship? What else is going on? You need to talk to him and understand what is happening. If seeing you is hassle this does not bode well…if he prefers his social life when you are just starting and should be all over each other like rabbits…there is something not right here
Just make sure you are calm and in no hurry and sit with him. Please…tell him first you understand he’s under massive pressure and blah blah blah but you want to make sure you both are ok and safe

Great sex can be a bummer…here’s me 7 years on and I can’t imagine better hot vanilla 😂😂😂

LuckyLy??? Have you sat down together to have a chat?? I don’t understand

Hi @Mila14 no we havent met. He texted yesterday to say he would call but I was flat out busy as I normally am every Saturday. We only usually see each other in evenings on a Saturday. My daughter was away with friends and I was due to collect them later on. I said it didnt suit and he replied saying he couldn't win with me, couldn't do it anymore wished me all the best and said we should leave things.

LuckyLinda3

hes a fuxking Muppet isn’t he ?

as hell get over his dip and he’ll come knocking again
But he can’t do this every time he’s dipping

Correct @Thisisworsethananticpated we are adults, talk it out, ask for space but dont mess with peoples feelings like that.

@LuckyLinda3 aren’t you about 2 years into this relationship? I’m taken aback that he feels it’s an appropriate way to end what you have. You sound like you’re okay with what is happening and you can see that he wasn’t giving you what you need in the relationship but even so just to walk away without tying up the loose ends would be difficult for me.

@Stepcount yes we are over 2 years in and I dont feel it's an appropriate way to end things either. He has a busy sporting/social day today so I dont think he will give us much thought. I'll just get on with it here for now and see what the next few days bring. Right now I don't feel like reaching out so I'm not going to. Thank you.

@LuckyLinda3 absolutely, I can fully understand why you don’t feel like reaching out. You probably are in his thoughts but because it was him who instigated this then he’s unlikely to reach out either at the moment, particularly on the back of his difficult week. He may come to realise that he almost definitely transferred some of the stress he was feeling onto the wrong person-you.

WTF??? He’s a total twat. You do not end a 2 year relationship like that… it’s unbelievable. Seriously
I agree with Worsy…he’ll come knocking again
Do yourself a favour and erase his number. He’s really NOT INTO YOU and was looking for whatever excuse to ditch you
Massive disrespect

LuckyLinda3

hes very silly and foolish doing this

and as step said he’s taken it out on you

plus haven’t you met his family , kids ?

i suspect like my ex he will crawl back to you

anyway I’ve just a rather hot new date and a nice snog in the car

this one I think knows exactly what he’s doing
sexy

so Linda
as we all say (and we never believe ) there are many more fish in the sea

@LuckyLinda3 it does look like he's using this as an excuse to dump you. You've been on/off this thread a while with these ups and downs. He may change his mind but is this the kind of dynamic you can cope with?

Thanks @mila and @Thisisworsethananticpated. I have to disagree though, I really dont think he was looking for a reason to end things. We were at a family party of his the weekend before and had many events coming up on his side that he had asked me to. I think he had a really tough week with his son and 4 13hr shifts last week. I think I may have took some of the brunt of this in his dry replies/lack of plans but I do agree that you dont end a 2yr thing by text or without tying up loose ends. Maybe I'm making excuses here. Either way can I say I very much appreciate the support on here.

So date #1 went okay, women was nice, about 5 years younger than me, couple of kids, meeting went well, nice conversation but no “spark”, I suspect she date’s quite a lot as she was quite direct and to the point.

onto #2 next week

Linda I don’t necessarily agree he ‘was using this as an excuse to dump you’

thats not what I see

but he’s behaved like a tool and he can’t shit all over you and walk away because he’s in a bad way
well he can ! And he has

but it’s nasty and immature way to behave

Good for you @NoDatingForOldMen, nice to get back out there and meet new people and another date in the pipeline to look forward to.

Definitely is nasty and immature @Thisisworsethananticpated. Sorry my mistake @mila suggested he wasnt into me and looking for reason to dump.

NoDatingForOldMen

So no spark with miss business like

ive got a second date with mine next weekend
hes sexy , and I rather like him - could be myself with him and no red flags 🚩
yet !!!

Oh YES WORSY! He still has to be good in bed so… let’s wait and see how this pans out 😈😈

Mila14

i have a strong feeling he will be

and we firmed up the next date on the date which is a good sign ?

anyway he gets a 😊

I think he was just having a knee jerk reaction, which I know is no help to you but I really don't think given your history and plans that this will be the last you hear from him.

So proud that you know exactly what you will and won't put up with. Strong woman 👍

Aw thank you @Definitelycross 😊