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Could he be having an affair???

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heartbroken26 · 04/02/2023 11:41

Name changed for this!! I don't even know why im posting!! I don't know anything yet?! Im hoping it's all innocent!!

Today my husband told me he was going off to golf! No problem, it's a hobby he's taken up in the last 6 months and goes off most weekends! He always said it's a good de stresser as we have 2 children under 5, one of which is an baby. So of course I've had no reason to suspect anything untoward!!

My friend text me saying she's seen him with a woman shopping in the next town over!!! She doesn't think he saw her.

I don't know what to do, say, do I ring him? Do I confront him when he's home? I'm hoping my friend is wrong 😩

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Swannning · 06/02/2023 07:21

OP Flowers

It does sound a little like your friend is enjoying the drama a bit much. Why couldn't she have told you on the phone. Very cruel of her to drag it out for you.

Inserthiliarioususernamehere · 06/02/2023 07:21

Ok here’s my theory: He wears the same
outfit to golf every week right? So it wouldn’t be hard for him to ask his friend to post an old pic on his Instagram today so it makes it look like the picture was taken today? I’m sorry OP, but all signs to point to him being dishonest I’m afraid. My ex was a prolific cheater and the lengths he went to to cover it up were honestly outrageous until I started trusting my intuition and finally caught him out.

user40643 · 06/02/2023 07:25

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Oh the fucking troll hunters are at it again. If you think it isn't genuine then report.

Hobbi · 06/02/2023 07:27

Inserthiliarioususernamehere · 06/02/2023 07:21

Ok here’s my theory: He wears the same
outfit to golf every week right? So it wouldn’t be hard for him to ask his friend to post an old pic on his Instagram today so it makes it look like the picture was taken today? I’m sorry OP, but all signs to point to him being dishonest I’m afraid. My ex was a prolific cheater and the lengths he went to to cover it up were honestly outrageous until I started trusting my intuition and finally caught him out.

There are literally no signs of him being dishonest if you read the thread.

WTF475878237NC · 06/02/2023 07:29

What's the oldest story in the book? It isn't friend makes shit up to destroy friend's marriage...

Inserthiliarioususernamehere · 06/02/2023 07:32

I have read the thread. He has turned off his location sharing, he’s changed his password, he looked “panicked” when her friend said she had been to the shopping centre that day. I think all speak to a level of suspicion

rainbowstardrops · 06/02/2023 07:32

Oh the fucking troll hunters are at it again. If you think it isn't genuine then report.

Apart from my opening sentence of basing my post on it being real (I have no reason to think it's not) and to be honest, the more time I spend on MN - and I've been here years - I think it's healthy to not take every post as gospel, my entire post was throwing shade at the so called friend!!!
Maybe wind your neck in and stop jumping to conclusions of me being a troll!
I am quite capable of reporting posts that I believe to be fake thanks.

journeyofinsanity · 06/02/2023 07:33

@Hobbi no signs other than him changing his passcode and looking panicked when he heard friend was at the same shopping centre.

sweetsuzie · 06/02/2023 07:48

Look what if it the friend cheating with him? Offer to follow to the pub and all.

Maybe she’s sick of him not revealing it to the wife.

booboo24 · 06/02/2023 07:48

I've just read all of this and was so relieved, however the cliff hanger from your friend has really made me think that maybe she is the ow here, either that or she's trying to cause trouble for the hell of it, either way I don't think she's as good a friend as you think. I hope I'm wrong but I would take what she says with a pinch of salt and keep your powder dry until you've investigated it all as best you can. Do you have another friend who could give some insight?

sweetsuzie · 06/02/2023 07:50

I recently listened to a podcast in which the OW needed so badly to reveal it she took a photo of herself and man naked and put it in office window of wife. She still did not divorce the hubby. Be careful of revenge trapping of a man even if he’s fooled around

elderlee · 06/02/2023 07:51

Just to say, if it’s iPhone sometimes it times out with location (my boyfriend and I have each other’s) and you have to turn your phone off and on again for it to work. But when it timed out it says ‘not available’ so it could be that.

user40643 · 06/02/2023 07:52

rainbowstardrops · 06/02/2023 07:32

Oh the fucking troll hunters are at it again. If you think it isn't genuine then report.

Apart from my opening sentence of basing my post on it being real (I have no reason to think it's not) and to be honest, the more time I spend on MN - and I've been here years - I think it's healthy to not take every post as gospel, my entire post was throwing shade at the so called friend!!!
Maybe wind your neck in and stop jumping to conclusions of me being a troll!
I am quite capable of reporting posts that I believe to be fake thanks.

So if you don't think it's real report it.

You're troll hunting, pure and simple. It's against the rules.

rainbowstardrops · 06/02/2023 07:55

@user40643 which part of my explanation did you not understand?!!!!
I clearly explained that I was throwing shade at the shit stirring friend and doubting her motives towards the OP! I made it quite clear that I am able to report the OP if I feel the thread is fake. I don't.
Once again, my entire post was questioning the integrity of the friend!!! Jeez 🙄

XJerseyGirlX · 06/02/2023 07:58

Oh god, cruel to make you sleep on it why doesn't she just tell you over the phone ?

user40643 · 06/02/2023 07:58

rainbowstardrops · 06/02/2023 07:55

@user40643 which part of my explanation did you not understand?!!!!
I clearly explained that I was throwing shade at the shit stirring friend and doubting her motives towards the OP! I made it quite clear that I am able to report the OP if I feel the thread is fake. I don't.
Once again, my entire post was questioning the integrity of the friend!!! Jeez 🙄

It doesn't matter if 1% or 100% of your comment was troll hunting. You made a troll hunting comment and I'm calling you out for that comment.

IAmWomanHearMeRoar1 · 06/02/2023 07:59

Hobbi · 06/02/2023 07:27

There are literally no signs of him being dishonest if you read the thread.

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@Hobbi Did you read the whole thread? There literally ARE signs of him being dishonest:

He has turned off his location sharing,
he’s changed his password,
he looked panicked when her friend said she had been to the same shop.

rainbowstardrops · 06/02/2023 08:04

@user40643 so because I started my post with basing my reply on the thread being real (which again, I have said I have no reason to think it isn't), and the rest of the post was doubting the friend's integrity to the OP - so supporting the OP - that's being a troll. I give up. Maybe go and have another coffee and enjoy your day.
I will.

user40643 · 06/02/2023 08:05

rainbowstardrops · 06/02/2023 08:04

@user40643 so because I started my post with basing my reply on the thread being real (which again, I have said I have no reason to think it isn't), and the rest of the post was doubting the friend's integrity to the OP - so supporting the OP - that's being a troll. I give up. Maybe go and have another coffee and enjoy your day.
I will.

Where did I say you were a troll?

You troll hunted which is against MN guidelines.

GettingStuffed · 06/02/2023 08:16

It may not be an affair. If someone had seen my (totally platonic) male friend and I having drinks they would probably have come to the same conclusion.

If it's Swindon outlet they could be looking for a present for their partner.

I'd wait and keep an eye on him, the tracker sounds good.

Oakbeam · 06/02/2023 08:22

He has turned off his location sharing,

Is it turned off, or just not working? It isn’t 100% reliable in my experience.

AmwajAnnie · 06/02/2023 08:33

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@AmwajAnnie OP's friend told her that her husband is cheating, HOW is this OP's fault? What is wrong with you??

SlashBeef · 06/02/2023 08:41

I don't think you're a troll but I do think you've got far too into the drama tornado created by your mate.
If this were my husband I'd just be up front. "My mate said she saw you out with a woman while you were supposed to be at golf. Why would she think she saw that?" Then let him answer and see what you think of his response.

Instead you've put yourself through a day of absolute chaos.
For what it's worth, your friend seems to be enjoying this far too much and I'd be wary of what I believed from her.

Heyboooo · 06/02/2023 08:45

Been following and hoping you have your answers soon! Whether they be good or bad x