Dating Thread 238 - Sex, Beer and Sausage Rolls (for the lucky ones!)

[OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss]

Hi All welcome to a shiny new thread as we proceed into 2023 with support for those riding the rollercoasters of the world of dating.

The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

Just back from hot date #4 with the splendid MrMaker.

We swapped Valentine's gifts - his all homemade and beautiful, mine to him not by me but kind of and the same so we have matching his n hers.

Had a luscious steamy sesh in his camper where he declared he's not fussed on orgasming himself but very much into making sure I do. Wtaf?
Diaries were brought and kid free slots (his) were written down (into mine).
He's a very special human

He is!!!!! Wonderful!!!

Wow! @OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss… really pleased that it is all going so well!!

Hope date with #9 tonight restores your faith in men @Definitelycross after POF and shite #8 dates.
Looking forward to the update already when you get a mo.

Happy valentines !

only update is that the whole ‘no contact’ rule for a breakup whilst brutal is somewhat effective
it’s been a whole month now and a curse has been lifted and I’m less sad and less pining

and I managed that without flirting or using other men (well ish …)

so as my phone sits there in dormant silence
I’m ok

@Thisisworsethananticpated it's the silent phone that is the hardest thing in these modern times of dating & relationships

Well done for staunch sitting on hands (I've forgotten who your now ex iron was and how long you were together - Balkan?) and glad you are beginning to feel robust and ok. A brighter future to be had with you moving away for things that weren't right

OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss

you are correct on name , and a whole year !
jesus , we live and learn don’t we !?

but no regrets - but a lot of lessons learned as we all do

Very happy for you Worsy. Going in the right direction

Oncey… that is a good lover. You may have hit the jackpot with Mr Maker. I love it he’s made you some trinkets just for you

MrEx is like that and enjoys my body and making love to me slowly. Last night we had epic bonkathon and I realize I don’t think I can ever have this kind of pleasure with anyone else. I’ve never had this amazing sex with anyone else either. He has the same issue. It’s been impossible for us to call it a day before and I am resigned if we break up my sexual life will take a turn for the worse
I don’t believe there are lots of men out there you are massively compatible sexually with. I’ve tried and didn’t work. He tried and didn’t work either.
He’s taking me to posh place for Valentine’s lunch in west end and I know we should just enjoy the lovely moments and not overthink

Deffy , best of luck with Mr 9 and enjoy yourself. Mothership awaits gossip !

@mila love hearing your updates and am jealous of how calm and collected you are about your situation. Definitely agree with the enjoy and not overthink concept despite struggling with this at times! I'm going to a family party of his at weekend and we are very naturally integrating into each others lives now so I am feeling a lot more secure. I also agree that we are not massively physically compatible with many others and like you am enjoying a fabulous time that way hence why I was thrown by his recent comment.

I think we could not have enough of each other 247 like maniacs 7 years ago. But right now I understand better personal time and degrees of intensity. We both have had to deal with small kids… now they are older and pre Uni the lot of them so it’s very different. We have separate projects and separate profesional life too. We are at different stages too. So before we throw in a tantrum think Luckylinda … is this something key in my relationship with mr ? ( I don’t know his moniker)?
If it is not… relax and find a time later on to discuss it. Now enjoy the weekend and family/friends and wait for a different moment to raise any questions you have

Agree totally @mila. Your situation and mine are very similar, both have very separate lives, hobbies etc but great together physically. Really dont think it's a major issue, maybe in hindsight possibly performance anxiety on his part which was totally unnecessary based on our previous encounters. We have a beautiful intimacy that extends way beyond sex so I'm just going to chill for now.

LuckyLinda3

i wouldn’t worry about the break comments

when the relationships very sexual and the gents in later 40s onwards they do need a bit of time to recover and get going again

more than we do , us lucky multi orgasmic creatures

Aw thanks @Thisisworsethananticpated. I'm much more content about it now. We had a lovely time away but weren't as sexually intimate as I'd have expected but had loads of intimacy in other ways if that makes sense. I'd never want to put pressure on anyone that way but our physical connection is strong and I do find myself thinking about him that way a lot!! I think I was just taken aback but he has been texting about us getting together again so I'm happy out. I love what we have and love pleasing him as he does me so I want that to continue for us both.

Stay strong @Thisisworsethananticpated … you have got this!! It is really tough but, there is someone better out there for you.

OLD is bizarre!!

MrP… we DTD on date no 4 and he turned all frosty on me and we haven’t seen each other since… is still txting. Nothing specific, just moaning about his back, scatia, rubbish broadband connection!!
He txted this evening and gave the impression that he was expecting me to ask him out… I think that he is just bored and desperate!!

New iron… seemed really promising. However, I have just realised that I had to take legal action against him for a client… 🤣🤣…

Next!!!

Thisisworsethananticpated
Well done on managing a month of no contact. It's not easy!

I tried and failed with Mr MindReader. I bumped into him a few days ago. Literally! He came round a corner in a shop and I couldn't avoid him.
He stopped and said hello and we exchanged a few pleasantries. So now I'm sitting on my hands trying not to message him.

Meanwhile I cancelled my date with Mr Leisure centre after he tried to change the time and place again.
I think he was fitting me in between doing something else. Possibly another date.

Nelly…Mr leisure center was always suspiciously not very interested. Good riddance.

Molly…Mr P is a waste of time. Another one of those not that interested and possibly with other cards to play. Next

Thanks @Mila14 … I will stop engaging with MrP now. I only responded out of curiosity… I am bored with it all now!!

New iron… seemed really promising. However, I have just realised that I had to take legal action against him for a client… 🤣🤣…
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Next!!!

@Mollymolloy 😂😂😂

Yep, as a younger man it was quantity (when possible), over quality,
now is quality ( when possible)

The old joke:
to 40 tri-weekly
40-60 try, weekly
60+. try weakly

😂😂

once a King 🤴 always a King 👑, but once a Knight is enough !

🤣