Page 18 | Dating Thread 238 - Sex, Beer and Sausage Rolls (for the lucky ones!)

OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss · 2023-01-20T09:57:36+00:00

Hi All welcome to a shiny new thread as we proceed into 2023 with support for those riding the rollercoasters of the world of dating. The Rules: 1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating. 2. Develop a thick skin. 3. Do not invest emotionally too soon. 4. It's all BS until it actually happens. 5. Trust your gut instinct. 6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault. 7. Know your worth. 8. If it's not fun, stop. 9. Loo update is mandatory. 10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy. Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

Mila14 · 05/02/2023 20:25

beepbeepme · 05/02/2023 19:57

I think the moral of the story for me is don't trust anyone on OLD!!

I still don’t understand what happened??? I saw a message erased and not much else? Could you resolve doubts with Mr Bike? It’s all mystery to me… have you guys broken up???

NoDatingForOldMen · 05/02/2023 20:27

Thisisworsethananticpated · 05/02/2023 17:23

NoDatingForOldMen

no you need those power tools back
that’s mean

she should leave them in a safe waterproof place , nicely dusted

I want you to get your tools back ! 😂😡

I’m going get a new cordless drill so I can boast about how big my tool is ⚒️😂😂

Mila14 · 05/02/2023 20:27

Dhama · 05/02/2023 19:49

So I had two very successful dates yesterday and today.

Yesterday was with Mr Silverfox (as named by my son) I can’t remember what I called him earlier 🤦🏼‍♀️ he was lovely- had a few hours together, had a walk and coffee, seeing again for drinks on Wednesday.

Today was Mr WallSex (also renamed, not by my son but my friends as he’d definitely be a contender due to build/muscles 😂😂) another walk and a drink, totally hilarious but I think may have ADHD and also young kids which may be a problem further on down the line.

So a good weekend all in all!

You go girl…no need to pick until you feel comfortable with the chosen one. Enjoy

5thWisdom · 05/02/2023 20:31

Dhama · 05/02/2023 19:49

So I had two very successful dates yesterday and today.

Yesterday was with Mr Silverfox (as named by my son) I can’t remember what I called him earlier 🤦🏼‍♀️ he was lovely- had a few hours together, had a walk and coffee, seeing again for drinks on Wednesday.

Today was Mr WallSex (also renamed, not by my son but my friends as he’d definitely be a contender due to build/muscles 😂😂) another walk and a drink, totally hilarious but I think may have ADHD and also young kids which may be a problem further on down the line.

So a good weekend all in all!

This is how to OLD!

Enjoy ☺️

beepbeepme · 05/02/2023 21:03

@Mila14 @5thWisdom I don't want to post too much here out of respect to the other person involved, it wouldn't be fair. It's all a mess tbh. DM me if you like.

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OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss · 05/02/2023 21:28

@beepbeepme and @Dailywarning thinking of you both hugely if I have got it correct. What a literal nightmare. So sorry 😞

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beepbeepme · 05/02/2023 21:28

OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss · 05/02/2023 21:28

@beepbeepme and @Dailywarning thinking of you both hugely if I have got it correct. What a literal nightmare. So sorry 😞

Thank you x

Shwingbada · 05/02/2023 21:33

@beepbeepme did you establish that Mr Bike was the same person as Mr Oz? It seems quite an extraordinary coincidence if so. What a horrible shock. And truly pathological lying on his part to have led you along like that if so. Hope you’re ok (and the other poster - sorry, I can’t remember her name).

beepbeepme · 05/02/2023 21:34

Shwingbada · 05/02/2023 21:33

@beepbeepme did you establish that Mr Bike was the same person as Mr Oz? It seems quite an extraordinary coincidence if so. What a horrible shock. And truly pathological lying on his part to have led you along like that if so. Hope you’re ok (and the other poster - sorry, I can’t remember her name).

I don't know. It's a massive coincidence if not, but he's denying it.

Dhama · 05/02/2023 22:10

Oh no you poor thing @beepbeepme - god some people are just shitty 😔

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OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss · 05/02/2023 22:11

Can you just swap pictures of MrBike with the other poster to see if they are the same person. They surely can't be. They both sounded like such decent men.

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OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss · 05/02/2023 22:12

That's for @beepbeepme instead of asking the fella. Just show the other poster the profile pic of yours or get @Dailywarning to send a pic of their fella.

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beepbeepme · 05/02/2023 22:14

OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss · 05/02/2023 22:12

That's for @beepbeepme instead of asking the fella. Just show the other poster the profile pic of yours or get @Dailywarning to send a pic of their fella.

Yes trying that 👍

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OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss · 05/02/2023 22:16

I'll eat my hat if they are the same person. I feel it in my bones that this is just a crazy coincidence.

Thinking of you.

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beepbeepme · 05/02/2023 22:34

OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss · 05/02/2023 22:16

I'll eat my hat if they are the same person. I feel it in my bones that this is just a crazy coincidence.

Thinking of you.

I really hope so.

Sceptic1234 · 05/02/2023 22:35

Are you absolutely sure @Dailywarning is being straight?

Long time lurker here....just read back through thread, and it seems a bit too good to be true.

New poster appears, and within hours seems like she's seeing your OLD match.

A lot of the posts seem to contain very deliberate clues. ...almost targeted. It's one thing to say you dont know what someone does.....throwaway comment about something to do with meat production? Also says that he'll have more time next week......after you have said you're away on hols.

Possibly because I've just watched Catfish on TV, but the timing and the style of a lot of the comments look odd. Although this could just be hindsight. pologies if I'm way off track.....

beepbeepme · 05/02/2023 22:45

Sceptic1234 · 05/02/2023 22:35

Are you absolutely sure @Dailywarning is being straight?

Long time lurker here....just read back through thread, and it seems a bit too good to be true.

New poster appears, and within hours seems like she's seeing your OLD match.

A lot of the posts seem to contain very deliberate clues. ...almost targeted. It's one thing to say you dont know what someone does.....throwaway comment about something to do with meat production? Also says that he'll have more time next week......after you have said you're away on hols.

Possibly because I've just watched Catfish on TV, but the timing and the style of a lot of the comments look odd. Although this could just be hindsight. pologies if I'm way off track.....

I was thinking that too. I don't know 😔

beepbeepme · 05/02/2023 22:47

He swears it wasn't him and that someone is trying to set him up. I really want to believe him. We were making plans for his birthday, then she said they had plans, I mean how can that be possible??

mydogissexierthanme77 · 05/02/2023 22:48

@Lovemusic33 If it were me I’d call him and tell him enough. If he was planning the way you describe then you both should be talking it out. It has had some legs and you are both pissed off - if it’s over and he says so at least there is then none of this awful not knowing. I hate virtual relating for this reason. It seems acceptable to ignore, block ghost. Just no! Am sorry, sounded good. x

beepbeepme · 05/02/2023 22:48

But why??

beepbeepme · 05/02/2023 22:50

mydogissexierthanme77 · 05/02/2023 22:48

@Lovemusic33 If it were me I’d call him and tell him enough. If he was planning the way you describe then you both should be talking it out. It has had some legs and you are both pissed off - if it’s over and he says so at least there is then none of this awful not knowing. I hate virtual relating for this reason. It seems acceptable to ignore, block ghost. Just no! Am sorry, sounded good. x

He doesn't say it's over. He swears he wasn't seeing anyone else, that we were planning to do things together, have a future together hopefully.

Sceptic1234 · 05/02/2023 22:58

28 / 01 you say you're going away.

30 / 01 new poster appears and says she has met a keen cyclist and makes what is (to me) a very pointed comment about seeing him again as he has time. Sorry.....that just sounds like a bit too much info thrown in needlessly.

.......as I said before.....just watched Catfish!!

beepbeepme · 05/02/2023 23:00

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mydogissexierthanme77 · 05/02/2023 23:02

@beepbeepme I think cross wires there m, my last message is for lovemusic33.

Am however very sorry to read about the identity issues and doubts with your date. I have in the past learnt a very hard and what was an actually a potentially dangerous lesson from not validating a partner and his activity online. You must clear this and get it straight. The man I met had federal convictions and convincingly gaslit me about. He was really a man trying to get back on his feet but it was the lies more than anything else.. broke my heart but I know you need to be clear.

beepbeepme · 05/02/2023 23:03

mydogissexierthanme77 · 05/02/2023 23:02

@beepbeepme I think cross wires there m, my last message is for lovemusic33.

Am however very sorry to read about the identity issues and doubts with your date. I have in the past learnt a very hard and what was an actually a potentially dangerous lesson from not validating a partner and his activity online. You must clear this and get it straight. The man I met had federal convictions and convincingly gaslit me about. He was really a man trying to get back on his feet but it was the lies more than anything else.. broke my heart but I know you need to be clear.

Sorry, didn't read it properly! 😳 I'm very tired!