Would you date a man shorter than you?

[livingthesimplelife]

Just that really - was having a discussion around a dinner party tonight and the issue seemed v. contentious, so I said I would post on here to gauge other opinions!

No

@Kenny69

So you think half a stone over is overweight? Or is it average? But disingenuous to claim that it's an extremely precise number in everyday land gauge (it's not).

If you look at someone, do you whip out a tape measure to check their precise height, or do you naturally think they're short/tall etc.?

It's not judgemental to have personal preferences. You are not passing judgement on those characteristics, you are simply saying they are not compatible with you for whatever reason.

Its not the personal preferences that are judgemental. The judgemental part is in ascribing other traits to the person based on the characteristic.
I don't date short men because i don't find them attractive: Personal preference
I don't date short men because they're angry and aggressive: Judgemental
I wouldn't be compatible with a vegan because I gut my own lambs and eat their intestines raw: Personal preference
I don't want to date a vegan because they're far left, bisexual and don't want kids:Judgemental

Did missionary last night. My husband is only a couple of inches taller than me and he leans down to kiss me

I can't imagine adding 10 inches to that. Wouldn't his head be well past mine?

I have dated women a full foot shorter than me. Never once did the size difference it cross my mind where sex was concerned. Tbh my gut reaction is saying so, whether the woman or the man, is a bit of a humble brag. “Oooh, he’s soOoo tall!” etc

My ex was shorter than me. He was 5'7 and I'm 5'10. Never caused any problems as it's more important who someone is not how tall they are.
My husband is only half an inch taller than me but would make no difference if he wasn't.

I read something about this being a big reason dating apps are a disaster for most men because if you put 6 foot minimum in a filter , bang 85% of men are rules out. So now you chasing 15% of Men. Add a few more filters and you chasing 2-3%.
These 2-3% of men are getting all the swipes and have no intention of getting off the ride.
One guy had 20,000 matches on Tinder and at the same time over 30% of American men under 30 are Virgins.
Not a good situation for anyone.

I like to date men that are a couple of stone (at least) than me (I'm not overweight).
Therefore they have to be taller and or bulker. I've dated plenty of guys that haven't fitted that criteria and the sex isn't as good (for me) and online dating only seems about sex these days, so that's my preference. It is what it is.

I'm 5'10" and madly attracted to men who can spell 😂

Yes, and I have done.

I don't have a rigid 'type' though and find it hard to understand that, some men I fancy, some I don't, all my partners have been very different physically.

From a practical point of view, compact men are more comfortable to share a bed with. Big men take up so much fucking space, and eat you out of house and home.

I have no idea what you are referring to. I was questioning your incorrect use of the term “Average”.

I have read articles along those lines as well, it certainly seems to leave both genders disappointed, men because nobody wants them & women because the men they want are swamped with matches and pick and choose from loads of female matches

One guy had 20,000 matches on Tinder and at the same time over 30% of American men under 30 are Virgins.

20 000 matches, or 20 000 likes? You only match if you both like each other, and if he's swiped yes on that many, he probably won't have time to meet any.

The number of virgins may be unevenly spread through different communities. It's likely higher in religious communities, for example.

I’m 5’9” but I don’t feel the need to feel tiny/feminine/protected or whatever a much taller man can evoke in some women. My DH is more or less the same height as me and back in the day I regularly wore 3-4” heels.

The older I get and the more I read about shitty man-babies on here, the less bothered by appearances I become. If anything happened to my DH I’d be prioritising kindness, emotional maturity and intelligence in a future partner over any physical characteristic that was outwith their control.

But what are the stats for women who do put a 6' minimum filter? The majority of women do seem to favour height, but given the number of short men with partners, it seems most will overlook it if there are sufficient other positives.
I can't imagine height preference is that much of a factor in the issue you describe. More likely that men present themselves badly on OLD and are unrealistic about their own preferences so filter out the women they could realistically have a chance with.

@5128gap
i think you are reaching a bit there really.

just look back at this very thread and the number of posters who say they not date a “shorter” man is quite high, also there are only going to be so many men over 6ft, so I’m sure some daters have to comprise if taller men are in such high demand ( and that person wants a partner)

as to the sexless thing in younger men in the US there is quite an interesting article that came out of the a few years back with some insight into this.

ifstudies.org/blog/male-sexlessness-is-rising-but-not-for-the-reasons-incels-claim

The study has been carried out every year by one of the American Universities since 1972 I think.
The rate of sexless male and women where broadly inline, at around 8-12% until 2008. Since then it has gone up 3 X for Men and I think the women show an increase as well but only upto about 12%.
I shall try and find the chart.

I’m not sure if this chart can be explained by a sudden rise in religious communities.
This is Pre Covid so I can on,t imagine it’s probably got worse but I can seem to find a more recent chart. Maybe Covid caused a pause.
The original article is The Washington post 2018 I think.

Sorry for Typos, on my phone!