Would you date a man shorter than you?

[livingthesimplelife]

Just that really - was having a discussion around a dinner party tonight and the issue seemed v. contentious, so I said I would post on here to gauge other opinions!

No, but I’m 5’3”. He wouldn't have to be 6’ but shorter than 5’3” is pretty unusual in a man.

Lol, men do openly shun bigger women.

Try being a bigger woman. A lot of men won't even talk to you, even in a non dating context or are quick to get away.

I was sat near to a group of men in a pub recently; they were openly discussing "pigs in skirts" on dating sites.

But it is unfair on short men who can't get a date because there is literally nothing they can do about it.

Same as men who are not well endowed.

That's a good point. I never thought of it like that.

I am 5'10" and height in partners isn't really an issue for me. Have had men taller, shorter and same height. I honestly couldn't say I had a preference.

I am just under 6 foot and look and feel ridiculous with a shorter man.
I went out with a very attractive man who was 5'4" once and it looked like i was raking my little brother out for a treat. #awkward

Dh is only 1 or 2 2 inches taller than me but it mskes a difference.

And men 100% discriminate on size too.

I think there’s loads of attractive shorter men. I think they wear clothes better, better dancers, often better proportions than tall men.
I go to the gym and I do notice an unfortunate number of shorter men who have enormously muscly physiques which I’m not sure is a great look, though I’m a bit envious as it seems that it’s easier to build bulging muscles if you are shorter.

Men absolutely do discriminate based on weight. I have heard men say that they would never date a woman who's heavier than them. And fair enough. Nobody is obligated to find every body shape attractive. Most slim/healthy-sized women probably wouldn't date a man who's noticeably overweight either, so I don't think it's necessarily about sexism (as it is sometimes framed in the media).

I'm honestly more turned on by strength than height. Agree there are a lot of very fit, strong, muscled men at the pool and gym who are not tall but who could clearly pick me up and carry me upstairs to the bedroom, which matters more to me. They all fancy me too, obviously.

Yuri Gagarin, first man in space, got the job because of his expertise, good looks, great smile and the fact that, at 5'2", he fitted into the space capsule. No trouble finding lovers...

I'm sure, but do men have "must have a BMI of 20 or lower" in their profiles, and any woman 20.1 or higher need not apply?! I doubt it!

Yet millions of woman have the magic 6 foot as their "dealbreaker" and any man 5'11.5 can jog on! And they might only be 5 foot nothing themselves! 😂Madness!

My understanding is that they use a phrase like "weight/height proportionate" or "must take care of herself".

Omg I’ve seen so many men’s profiles saying ‘mustn’t be over 120lbs’ or mustn’t be a chubster etc!

I'm only 5ft, I'm not sure I've even met any men shorter than me before! Who would get me the things from the top shelves that I can't reach?!

I really don't get the thinking that it's 'madness' for short women to want tall men?
Height in men and women is viewed entirely differently. Very few men would consider it a flaw for a woman to be short. Some might prefer tall women, but I'm not aware of any mainstream thinking that short women are less attractive. Why then should a short woman have to think 'Oh, hang on, I'm disadvantaged by height so I need to consider men who are too', when she isn't?
Women can have any deal breaker they choose. As can men. Just because the average man wouldn't know what a BMI of 20 looked like, doesn't mean they're not asking for the same thing in terms they do understand, such as 'size 10', slim, petite and so on, and asking for full length photos to make sure.

It's not madness to have a height preference.

But some women do absolutely insist that they could never love a man, however handsome, kind, solvent, intelligent, charming, emotionally available, committed and loving he is, if he's 2cm shorter than their absolute ideal, even if that's still several inches taller than they are. When they'd probably never even notice the difference without being told.

That's their perfect right, of course. But it is a bit daft.

Depends on how much choice you have I suppose. If you've a queue round the block you can afford to be a lot stricter in your selection criteria. In reality, most people know they probably need to compromise a bit on their ideal, unless it's so important they'd rather stay single.

And if they don't, when you get talking, it's common to ask, "What's your height? What size are you? Have you got more pics?" (To be fair, I only have one pic on my profile, and I will share more if they haven't instantly proved themselves to be complete arses.)

In reality, most people know they probably need to compromise a bit on their ideal, unless it's so important they'd rather stay single.

Staying single is a better option than many of the men on OLD. Some of them would do well to remember that.

Indeed. Plenty of scope to lower the tone further with ensuing innuendo

If you do missionary position with a bloke who is a foot taller than you how do you kiss him?

He doesn't lie flat on you, so he just leans his head down. Unless I've been doing things wrong all these years, but feedback suggests usually not.

He is two inches taller than me but even if it was two inches shorter, I so would.

You'd be obliged to really, wouldn't you? @OnTheRoadAgain1

Ha ha exactly! Planking sex where the penis descends at a right angle to the vagina which is magically positioned at the front of the pelvis, so that lofty can rub his chin on top of your head. Wonderful. I must try it!

Reading this thread I'm wondering if I've struck a gold mine of men, found the sweet spot among the 5'8 guys who seem to be lovely, well endowed and like women with a bit of meat on the bones

I'm happy to stay with my short men, absolutely zero complaints from me!

(Or I'm just not shallow and have found taking a guy as the man he is rather than his physical characteristics leads to better interactions with them)

Im 5ft 7 I've dated men shorter than me. Im not physically attracted to tall men really especially if theyre lanky or a gym bod complete with a thick neck. Although I wouldnt rule out anybody based solely on height. DP of many years now is 5ft 10.

As long as part of 'who he is' is that well known personality trait or being well endowed? And that he has his own 'shallow' preference for a woman of a certain bodily type?😂