How many of your male partners have actually been any good in bed? been

[1980sfookup]

Just on the back of something I read on another thread, looking back over my "career" I'm late 50s now but have had three serious relationships including one marriage. Have had eight other sexual partners between (my) ages of 15 to 54 (not had sex for four years - single now) but thinking back can't think of any one of these guys that were outstanding in bed. Have I just missed out and there are some real super stars out there or is it just the way it is? Saying that tho I had a brief fling with someone who was very eager to please but I didn't really fancy him - he was a rebound/revenge fuck which days more about me than him sadly. Anyway - can anyone attest that there are men out there that still prioritise a woman's enjoyment in the bedroom ... Or wherever

No but this thread is about men. Why not start one about women being crap at communicating in bed?

They arent. But this thread is about men. Plus, its well known that many, mant women cannot orgasm through penetration alone and yet majority of men do. Therefore, its far more pertinent to men to know how to satisfy a woman

One incredible that lives in my mind rent free, couple of others pretty good.

There are two types ime..

• The ones who like have a variety of sexual experiences with one woman
• The ones who like to have a variety of women, but the experience itself remains the same

People sexually driven by the novelty of a new person tend to make shit lovers - they tend not to be very imaginative or adventurous.

I've had sex with 6 men. Only one ever made the effort to leave me satisfied. One even said you going to finish yourself off then?

😂😂 bless you.

I feel your observation is pretty accurate. In my experience, the men who’ve had less sexual partners / long term relationships are usually a lot LOT better and more attentive than those men who’ve shagged an entire county (oddly, the women seldom go back for seconds).

I suppose this is exactly the same as - How many women are brilliant in bed?

What's good for the goose is good for the gander.

Plus, its well known that many, mant women cannot orgasm through penetration alone and yet majority of men do. Therefore, its far more pertinent to men to know how to satisfy a woman

Yes, that's an important point.

1/10 have been incredible. In hindsight I should have demanded and expected more. I was always the giver and they never bothered about me. I’m not letting my current DP go anytime soon!

Got to disagree, I don't think the no of partners a guy has had matters. Of the 2 I've said were great 1 had only had 1 serious long term relationship and the other had slept with 40-50 people and no girlfriend. I do think the fewer people they've been with though, the less chance they've had to develop skills especially if their long term partner didn't communicate well (not that it's the woman's sole trsponsibility). Same for women, what works for 1 person won't work for everyone.

Got to disagree, I don't think the no of partners a guy has had matters. Of the 2 I've said were great 1 had only had 1 serious long term relationship and the other had slept with 40-50 people and no girlfriend. I do think the fewer people they've been with though, the less chance they've had to develop skills especially if their long term partner didn't communicate well (not that it's the woman's sole trsponsibility). Same for women, what works for 1 person won't work for everyone.

I've slept with approx 20 men and only one was truly excellent in bed.

He was a long term relationship of 5yrs, when I was in my early 20s.

Tbh, I believe that to have mind blowing sex you need to have a deep mental, emotional and physical connection. Don't get me wrong I've had good sex with other men, but it's never been as good as him.

Crap sex until my 40's (and divorce...) then a partner who was off the scale amazing in bed which completely took me by surprise! Very toxic relationship that I'm glad ended but gave me an idea that sex might be enjoyable....subsequent partners very good (including DP). Just wish it hadn't taken so long! 😁

I’ve only had one and that was a very passionate relationship that lasted two years. All the others including husbands were ok but not off the scale mind blowing.

I haven't had many partners (all with very different sized penises and that makes a big difference!)
They were all focused on my pleasure though.
Unfortunately as I got bored of them the sex got boring.
My love-goggles must be fully attached for me to have great sex. Nothing better than the 'honeymoon' period with a guy you fancy. When that wears off, then unfortunately they weren't enough.

DH was great when first together but it's become more comfortable
Ex boyfriend was so so hot and I fancied him like mad but there was not a lot happening fro hi sexually. I think he was gay deep down as we had a great friendship/ very intense (or I was crap!( but I just had a sense he wanted me as a friend but liked men.

I would disagree here. I am someone who has slept with maybe 50 different men over many years.. (sorry I know its a lot!) I can honestly say that only one actually knew where the “spot” was and what he was doing. I know that he also had had a lot of different women in his lifetime. I think the fact he knew what to do was because he has been told by many different women over the years.
He was also not selfish when it came to his pleasure and could actually control his orgasm to wait for me - which for many men is a feat in itself! :)

Isn’t it just!

I had a thing with someone a long time ago, we met online and he’d told me he was amazing in bed (red flag right there!). He watched so much porn. I could tell when it actually came to meeting him and sleeping with him because he was the most selfish person I’d ever been shagged by. Can only describe it as being jackhammered by a slug. Every time I tried to move or suggest things that would work for us both, he actually put his hand over my mouth to shh me 😂
I never saw him again but he messaged for years afterwards because he needed to see me again because we were so sexually compatible and how I had the best night of my life! The confidence!

I am lucky though, I’d estimate out of all my lovers (!), 50% have been amazing and 50% mediocre. He was truly the worst. And yea I know the math ain’t mathing.

I'm 50. I've been having the best sex of my life this year. I've always enjoyed sex, but men round this age are more experienced, can't rely on their erections quite so much, even with Viagra in some cases,) and as others have said, if you go for men who get off on giving pleasure, you're both going to have a good time. I've been single a lot, and I know my way round my own body, but if they get me to the point of having wave after wave of orgasm, they'll be having a good time, too. And I am spectacular, according to feedback, so they are lucky.

I hate the sexism on these posts. Have reported it and they have take it seriously. ISPN number. Very sexist which is no better than extreme sexsim. I have posted it like thie and they agree. I hope you get and police warning.

Have reported this sexist and racist. they have taken it very seriously. How dare you

Tbh...not many 🤣

Wtf you going on about?