You need to get your head right because it’s already happening. Distant than loving and so on and so forth is textbook. Shows that you’ll put up with him being “distant” so that you can get those little kibbles of romance when he isn’t. This is literally the bones of a toxic relationship and you’re being trained as we speak.
it’ll ramp up. More days of distance, less days of romance. You there, wagging your tail for the increasingly diminishing supply of romance kibbles.
you’ll start to question why? Well OP maybe if you didn’t do this! Or that! Or if you did this better? Like my past abuser maybe he will tell you that “you just don’t get it”…implying your stupid for wanting answers.
I was too stupid. I’ve wised up like many women here. I too, felt that unease at the start but didn’t get the gift of warning like you. Who knows if I would have listened to it anyway?
I regret not trusting myself and not listening to what was inside of me. No I wasn’t hit but I was severely emotionally abused (for me anyway, impacted my life) and yes we are professionals (they are dangerous abusers because they have more social skill and intelligence to mimic behaviors that are socially suitable).
You aren’t going to listen but I hope someone reading this does. OP is ALREADY being abused and still thinks she can spot it when it happens. Obviously not! If you are reading this listen to your insides and be able to walk away when things aren’t right. You’re worth more than hanging round someone who gives you a bad feeling, on to the next!
BIG word of advice. If someone is love bombing you and you decide to go, put planning into it. This is when they have their mask on, and they don’t like it when you figure them out so early.
OP’s man’s mask is already slipping. Anyone can see that. Best of luck and we are here for you OP.