Dating Thread 237 - Wintertide Warmth Support & Festive Frolics and

[OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss]

Merry Christmas one and all. Thanks for all the support and dating wisdoms...

The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

Oooh @Eeksteek that is exciting! Hope you have an amazing evening

Eeksteek

sending VERY good vibes your way for later

you all boudoir ready !?

How long has it been @Eeksteek if you don't mind me asking? I was in a right lather of both terrified and excited when I had my first boudoir adventures after a two year break from OLD.

This is going to be a great antidote from that silly Mr2Pugs and his oddness.

I am not even sure I know how to DO that anymore! 🤣🤣🤣. I’m still working and I have to sort out snacks for the sitter and take a dog to the vets. Shaved legs and perfume is about my limit anyway!

I don’t even know what to wear. Jeans seem like kind of hard work and I don’t have any dresses or skirts that don’t need leggings (ditto!). I do have some very nice underwear I got in a sale at Christmas though, so that should help. I’m clearly underprepared! 😉🙄🤣

Yayy Eeeky…have a fantastic time and just enjoy and relax. You must report to the Mothership after your exploits 😈

@Eeksteek have a great time! Exciting!

A freakin’ decade. And who? 🤣😉🤣

I've had a couple of texts from MrBike today and he's calling tonight. That's got to be a good sign right? We're hopefully meeting tomorrow. Just having a self doubting day 😬 He was a bit ... not grumpy as such yesterday, it was extremely cold and we were wandering around trying to find somewhere to eat in this tiny town, I think he was cold, I certainly was. After past relationships I'm far too sensitive to changes in mood sadly. He was fine when he was at mine 😉 I wish he could have stayed overnight though, but he had an appointment this morning. I think because it's all happened so fast I'm sort of waiting for the next step really and want to know it's more than just spending time together. But then we speak or meet just about every day, so it's going ok, right??

Wish I was a bit more confident 😳

@Eeksteek hope you have the fantastic time you deserve this evening.

😂😂😂 doesn't matter who! And as someone pointed out, it's a bit like riding a bike 😂

Eeksteek

ah I know (kids snacks vets )
wear something you feel good in is the obvious solution

I really hope it’s nice 😊

Pyjamas won’t cut it! Or maybe they would - I want something I feel good out of! 🤣😉🤣

Oh my god. Ohmygod. Oh. My. God.

Happy Eeksteek. He seems happy. We’re all good.

@Eeksteek yay!!! So happy for you! 😁

Yay!!!! 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

Good moooooooooning Eeky!!! 😈😈😈

Good work @Eeksteek

10 years?!???!!!!

Amazing. What did you wear in the end?

Eeksteek

you be floating round today in an orgasmic oxytocin haze is my guess

so pleased for you x

Thsnks! Good stories! Thanks!

@beepbeepme how are things with you now? It's so easy to be over sensitive as you say and then overthink things.

Thanks @LuckyLinda3 . I'm feeling better about it after he called me last night, we chatted easily for an hour and he told me he'd missed me today. We're meeting this afternoon and then Sunday.
My last bf was very clingy and ott, I've got to get used to the fact that others aren't like that I think. I'm just scared of getting hurt because I really like him. But it's all good 😊

Fantastic @beepbeepme, delighted to hear that. Absolutely hear what you say about varying communication styles and adjusting to that and very understandable that you dont want to get hurt but equally we deserve to let go sometimes and enjoy things for what they are. Hope you have a lovely afternoon.

Thank you, I'm sure we will. He's just messaged too 😊 ... and again just now 😁

Jeans and a nice top. Again. (Just not for very long!) We are exchanging filthy texts this morning about our respective favourite bits. There’s a fair amount of overlap (and apparently I look good from angles I’m not privy to! It’s good for your confidence when it’s going well, isn’t it?! 🤣😉🤣)

And yeah, ten years. Well, getting on for. I left my ex 9 years ago last week, and there definitely wasn’t any sex for a while before I went. And it was….not great for years anyway. So, a long time. He knew, and was very kind. He’s sort of relaxed and matter of fact about it, without being in any way dismissive or clinical. I felt very comfortable and free to go with whatever worked for me. I even thought at one point ‘get on with it, man’ before it dawned on me he was waiting for totally unambiguous consent. And once we got that sorted out, everything was just fiiiiiiine.