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Mila14 · 01/12/2022 20:04

Fifthie…don’t invest all in Mr Boxer…have a look and see if there’s someone else you might like ok?

5thWisdom · 01/12/2022 20:07

Mila14 · 01/12/2022 20:04

Fifthie…don’t invest all in Mr Boxer…have a look and see if there’s someone else you might like ok?

Definitely heeding your advice @Mila14 - have a few lovely looking matches but no follow up messages materialising as usual.

Patience required!

Thisisworsethananticpated · 01/12/2022 20:47

5thWisdom

i have to say
as lovely as he is
the tinder profile being ON all the time would be off putting

now- on the one hand you are on too !

but I’d liked a someone I’d probably unmatch and move to WhatsApp
Ignorance is bliss ….

5thWisdom · 01/12/2022 21:02

Thisisworsethananticpated · 01/12/2022 20:47

5thWisdom

i have to say
as lovely as he is
the tinder profile being ON all the time would be off putting

now- on the one hand you are on too !

but I’d liked a someone I’d probably unmatch and move to WhatsApp
Ignorance is bliss ….

I knoooow. Grr.

It's fine. Just wish one of the other delicious looking men I've matched with would actually converse! Ha!

Nugg · 02/12/2022 02:32

Hello! I did an intro on the last thread I think and disappeared. There was nothing AT ALL to report but I stuck with fb dating and have been chatting with Mr Accent for a few days.
We've swapped numbers for ease and spoken on the phone quite a lot too. It's so easy to chat to him.

I love that he randomly calls to chat and is very accessible but not a phone obsessed control freak like my ex!

We've many silly little coincidences in common but also seem worlds apart in some ways but are getting on so well!

He's openly about saying how much he's enjoying chatting, how much he's looking forward to meeting and how attractive mentally and physically he finds me and all this without sex chat or innuendo which is a refreshing change! Or in a vom inducing way as I'm crap at taking compliments.

He's physically not my usual type but he's a good looking guy, emotionally intelligent and open about previous relationships and doesn't do what most men I meet have and slate their exes, in fact he berates his adult son for taking his mum for granted and not being sympathetic to her anxieties.

He's going to have raging bad breath or BO isn't he 🤣?

So we're around 30-40 mins apart but for me that's fine, there's nobody for me locally as I've been single a long time, and the town I live in means that even if I met somebody local our lives would somehow be intertwined already, or half of my friends would've already dated him, which doesn't really appeal.

He's coming over on Sunday, as that's my first free time, for a walk and grab some food and stay as long as we both want it to go on.

For the first time in 18 months I actually feel excited about a date! Don't burst my bubble too quickly, dating experts 😆

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OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss · 02/12/2022 07:39

@Nugg Good luck with that first date and let us all know how it goes hopefully it will be wonderful for you both.

@5thWisdom your response to how's your day going sounds perfect to me -lots of info there that could and should lead in to interesting chat (what kind of puppy/job/what's your London meeting etc).

Made me laugh as it sounded exactly like my days right down to the grabbing teens McDonalds (their strong preference) and the pup chasing the (newly adopted) cat (who then ran away and hasn't been seen for a week now 😢)

Good luck for those with dates this weekend

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Mila14 · 02/12/2022 07:59

Nugg · 02/12/2022 02:32

Hello! I did an intro on the last thread I think and disappeared. There was nothing AT ALL to report but I stuck with fb dating and have been chatting with Mr Accent for a few days.
We've swapped numbers for ease and spoken on the phone quite a lot too. It's so easy to chat to him.

I love that he randomly calls to chat and is very accessible but not a phone obsessed control freak like my ex!

We've many silly little coincidences in common but also seem worlds apart in some ways but are getting on so well!

He's openly about saying how much he's enjoying chatting, how much he's looking forward to meeting and how attractive mentally and physically he finds me and all this without sex chat or innuendo which is a refreshing change! Or in a vom inducing way as I'm crap at taking compliments.

He's physically not my usual type but he's a good looking guy, emotionally intelligent and open about previous relationships and doesn't do what most men I meet have and slate their exes, in fact he berates his adult son for taking his mum for granted and not being sympathetic to her anxieties.

He's going to have raging bad breath or BO isn't he 🤣?

So we're around 30-40 mins apart but for me that's fine, there's nobody for me locally as I've been single a long time, and the town I live in means that even if I met somebody local our lives would somehow be intertwined already, or half of my friends would've already dated him, which doesn't really appeal.

He's coming over on Sunday, as that's my first free time, for a walk and grab some food and stay as long as we both want it to go on.

For the first time in 18 months I actually feel excited about a date! Don't burst my bubble too quickly, dating experts 😆

Excellent news and guys like that exist! Have a brilliant time with MrAccent and remember the mothership is awaiting news. I think the fact you can call easily and there is no major impediment is SUPER. He is totally available to you. Green flags all round. Just relax and enjoy 😊

Mila14 · 02/12/2022 08:01

Oncey…the cat!! 😢😢😢Do you think he/she will come back?? When is your sexy rendezvous at boutique sexy hotel? 😈

NoDatingForOldMen · 02/12/2022 08:42

Adds fun good hard fat cock sex and frolics and TLC….

no pressure then 😂

Mila14 · 02/12/2022 08:43

Howlongy…how is it going with MrsShow and are you still going strong? Plans for Christmas together? 😍

NoDatingForOldMen · 02/12/2022 08:46

5thWisdom · 01/12/2022 21:02

I knoooow. Grr.

It's fine. Just wish one of the other delicious looking men I've matched with would actually converse! Ha!

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pl ignore my ignorance if I missed this, but you actually reaching out to your match’s or waiting for them ?

Nugg · 02/12/2022 08:49

Thank you. He really does seem like the proverbial needle!

Oh and @NoDatingForOldMen the puppy was the winner 😉 he doesn't usually go for blondes but she won him over and he decided we were both "cute" 😂 not sure 53 year old women can be cute but I'll take it!

NoDatingForOldMen · 02/12/2022 09:14

@Mila14 it’s still going, but we are different ppl, I’m glass half full & JFDI, she is glass half empty and very “what if”. Which can be a bit wearing as I’m always having to be positive ( I am normally), But I have to be positive for both of us, which takes a lot of energy & effort, I do deal with this more by advance booking as much as possible but this is not always practical

an example would be that I wanted to go to a German Christmas market in Dec, ( which I thought would be nice, there is big one in York I think, book a hotel, make a weekend of it, see if my cock still works etc ) but she was saying what if there is no parking or it busy etc etc, and I think this is one of the 1st times I’ve just given up and dropped something completely

Im mentally exhausted right now , Christmas can wait

Mila14 · 02/12/2022 09:24

Nugg · 02/12/2022 08:49

Thank you. He really does seem like the proverbial needle!

Oh and @NoDatingForOldMen the puppy was the winner 😉 he doesn't usually go for blondes but she won him over and he decided we were both "cute" 😂 not sure 53 year old women can be cute but I'll take it!

How do you know he doesn’t usually go for blondes??. 😳

NoDatingForOldMen · 02/12/2022 09:56

Nugg · 02/12/2022 08:49

Thank you. He really does seem like the proverbial needle!

Oh and @NoDatingForOldMen the puppy was the winner 😉 he doesn't usually go for blondes but she won him over and he decided we were both "cute" 😂 not sure 53 year old women can be cute but I'll take it!

Nothing wrong with being 53, I’m 53 and someone who is 52 thinks my bottom is cute, ( maybe she needs new specs 👓… )

Eeksteek · 02/12/2022 10:01

Latest guy is nice enough, but I’m not feeling it. 45, Lives with his mother, works nights, a bit childish, never married, no kids. Mildly flirty, but nothing icky. Unmatch is my gut feeling. Or should I give him a shot in person because I’m picky. It bothers me he doesn’t have kids. How could anyone who doesn’t even remotely get my 100% parenting thing. It’s such a massive part of my life.

Nugg · 02/12/2022 10:12

@Mila14 we were chatting last night about how"fussy" we are in a light hearted way and I said how I'm only ever attracted to tall men and he said how he hasn't generally been attracted to blondes but I seemed "cute" and fun and different.
I'm not normally attracted to men either which he is, but I was just something about him that made me swipe right.

We have been single almost the same amount of time and both quite happy on our own which I think is a very important part of it all!

5thWisdom · 02/12/2022 10:17

@NoDatingForOldMen I have started to message first now - and it's leading nowhere fast!

That whole negative response to every suggestion you make to enjoyable activities would wear me down too. My mum was like this and my Dad missed out on so much. It's not like you're suggesting a divisive activity or asking her to go bunjee jumping with you!

5thWisdom · 02/12/2022 10:19

Eeksteek · 02/12/2022 10:01

Latest guy is nice enough, but I’m not feeling it. 45, Lives with his mother, works nights, a bit childish, never married, no kids. Mildly flirty, but nothing icky. Unmatch is my gut feeling. Or should I give him a shot in person because I’m picky. It bothers me he doesn’t have kids. How could anyone who doesn’t even remotely get my 100% parenting thing. It’s such a massive part of my life.

Hmm why is he living with his mum?

Night shifts could make things even harder to fit dating in.

Childish is a huge turn off for me.

5thWisdom · 02/12/2022 10:21

Nugg · 02/12/2022 02:32

Hello! I did an intro on the last thread I think and disappeared. There was nothing AT ALL to report but I stuck with fb dating and have been chatting with Mr Accent for a few days.
We've swapped numbers for ease and spoken on the phone quite a lot too. It's so easy to chat to him.

I love that he randomly calls to chat and is very accessible but not a phone obsessed control freak like my ex!

We've many silly little coincidences in common but also seem worlds apart in some ways but are getting on so well!

He's openly about saying how much he's enjoying chatting, how much he's looking forward to meeting and how attractive mentally and physically he finds me and all this without sex chat or innuendo which is a refreshing change! Or in a vom inducing way as I'm crap at taking compliments.

He's physically not my usual type but he's a good looking guy, emotionally intelligent and open about previous relationships and doesn't do what most men I meet have and slate their exes, in fact he berates his adult son for taking his mum for granted and not being sympathetic to her anxieties.

He's going to have raging bad breath or BO isn't he 🤣?

So we're around 30-40 mins apart but for me that's fine, there's nobody for me locally as I've been single a long time, and the town I live in means that even if I met somebody local our lives would somehow be intertwined already, or half of my friends would've already dated him, which doesn't really appeal.

He's coming over on Sunday, as that's my first free time, for a walk and grab some food and stay as long as we both want it to go on.

For the first time in 18 months I actually feel excited about a date! Don't burst my bubble too quickly, dating experts 😆

Yay this all sounds very positive!! A great start!

Enjoy Sunday and mothership will await your feedback!

Nugg · 02/12/2022 10:23

@NoDatingForOldMen ah I'm going to take it. Will see what he thinks in the flesh!

Definitelycross · 02/12/2022 10:40

I don't know what to do.

When I met MrG in real life he was lovely and talked loads.

Since then there have been messages every day but they're very - how's your day? Busy type thing.

Now he works 12-14 hour shifts so I know he's at work on these days but nothing seemed to be moving. So I said - are we going to meet again? He said yes when are you free and I'll see if I'm working. I said - I'm free most of the time, not currently working.

I know it could just be because it's messaging but I'm beginning to think he's changed his mind. You know reflecting on it and thought no.

So I've archived our chat. I've got a really stressful day today - work with a Womens charity to do with my abusive relationship, you know the 16 days of action just now. I'm basically meeting someone and going through everything that happened for an interview.

I know this could be skewing my thoughts but I'm thinking he is cooling off. My knee jerk reaction to text and say - do you know what let's just leave it. But my sane side thinks - maybe he is just really, really busy 🤷‍♀️

I've deleted the apps of my phone for today as thinking of potential irons is so low on my priority list.

Fuck - it is me isn't it? He has changed his mind.

Mila14 · 02/12/2022 10:46

Nugg · 02/12/2022 10:12

@Mila14 we were chatting last night about how"fussy" we are in a light hearted way and I said how I'm only ever attracted to tall men and he said how he hasn't generally been attracted to blondes but I seemed "cute" and fun and different.
I'm not normally attracted to men either which he is, but I was just something about him that made me swipe right.

We have been single almost the same amount of time and both quite happy on our own which I think is a very important part of it all!

In which way isn’t he your type Nugg?? Curious how you went about matching

Mila14 · 02/12/2022 10:48

Eeksteek · 02/12/2022 10:01

Latest guy is nice enough, but I’m not feeling it. 45, Lives with his mother, works nights, a bit childish, never married, no kids. Mildly flirty, but nothing icky. Unmatch is my gut feeling. Or should I give him a shot in person because I’m picky. It bothers me he doesn’t have kids. How could anyone who doesn’t even remotely get my 100% parenting thing. It’s such a massive part of my life.

Eeky…he looks meh…no kids and living with mom…seriously?? I am ruthless about this but i just need to be treated lovely and mothering is the
last thing on my mind. Beware of manchild

Nugg · 02/12/2022 10:49

@Mila14 on Facebook dating this little section telling you who liked you.
Because my set distance was about 2 miles less than where he is, he never came up in my filters so I looked at that section as he had swiped right on me
He looks and sounds like good fun, he has a hobby that really appeals to me for example and it was in one of his photos. I am heightist, no apologies, his height appealed, he's older than me but only a few years and I just thought what the hell!