Dating Thread 236 - Swiping, Blocking and Video Calls

[OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss]

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They were drunk and it should never have been chosen to share, I imagine.

@5thWisdom … oh…ok … thanks Fifhtwie 😂😂😂

@ibelieveinmirrorballs Now that is a good point. That was hurtful, and I think anyone ought to have known it. Doesn’t fit at all with the throughly decent guy persona, even without the lack of sex. I’d several times previously said he sounded all in and asked if he wanted to take a step back, so it’s not like I just wasn’t picking up hints or he couldn’t have just said, ‘yes, that would help’. I think he just didn’t know what he wanted, really, and I suspect his ex really did a number on him. Which is not my problem. A pity, but there it is.

He wants to meet you because he wants to meet you, maybe he thinks it will lead to sex maybe he just wants to meet you.
Personally I used to like meeting quite early, nothing worse than getting in to penpal situation for ages then finding there is no spark.
probably best to give this one a serve

I would love to join if that's ok? Have been reading these threads for ages and love all the great advice dished out!

I've been seeing a guy ( let's call him Mr R) for a while - feels like it's going well but he's out with his ex tonight. It's fine - they are discussing issues with thier kids - but my god it's hard not to message.

@5thWisdom Maybe I’m being very naive but is it not possible that he was telling the truth? It’s the kind of situation I can imagine getting into because my timing is always best-case-scenario.

Thanks again to everyone for very sensible advice earlier regarding Mr K. Saw him this evening and he was indeed feeling overwhelmed by life and completely befuddled by my messages. He said he felt that my insecurity undermined all he thought was clear and certain that he’d communicated (such as telling me he loved me) and demonstrated (so many acts of kindness, from bike maintenance to gardening to helping out with my elderly parents…). He was quite dejected about it. Something I need to keep firmly in my mind for the next time my anxiety is triggered. @ibelieveinmirrorballs i will look into your propranalol suggestion, thanks. Lots of work to be done on myself I think.

Wellll, he message just after the football finished this evening, so my gut says no! Haha!

5thWisdom

im cross with him

leave him on read
let him chase
sorry that’s rude
he blew you out for football !

Shwingbada

aw he did all that ! That’s so nice

yes you might want to get the stress impulses under control as he sounds really nice 😊

@5thWisdom FFS! 🙄

I've got a child free weekend coming up so I'm going to refresh my profile pics - need some full length shots I think. I've actually only got 2 photos. Any advice on this gratefully received.

Some new lovely looking men on Tinder this evening so it's onwards and upwards.

@Shwingbada that sounds like a great chat between the two of you!

@5thWisdom good reaction/response on your part - if it’s a genuine issue that stopped him being able to meet he should be energetically apologising and trying to firm up rearranging. Anything less - no thanks. Onwards… (I find decent full length pics hard to get!)

he blew you out for football !

Some people think football is a matter of life and death. I assure you, it's much more serious than that.

Bill Shankly

Just had a thoroughly nice phone call with MrCars. Heard all about his mum and her send off. Lots of autistic geniuses in his family which helps me realise I've probably categorised him correctly but far milder than his relatives.

He was interested to hear of my interviews. He's great. Has a super luscious voice. We get on very well via phone. Becoming great mates I guess. We'll have matched and started our chatathon a month ago this weekend (matched on both Bumble and Tinder in one evening which was a first for me he had different pics on each).

Well this is a great outcome and glad he followed up on your interview. I'm glad you're feeling better about things.

Well Mr Boxer ended up calling. Apologising, saying he felt awful etc. He's got a serious head injury apparently. I steered it in a lighthearted direction. It doesn't actually matter - his health obviously does. I can understand why he wouldn't want to meet under circumstances of serious pain and injury - but he obviously should have spoken up about this beforehand before suggesting to meet in first place.

He's mentioned meeting again but doesn't blame me if I'm reluctant - I told him in no uncertain terms, let me know if and when you're next in town, if I'm free, we can try to meet. End of. Nothing more complicated. My expectations are zero.

At least we've left it on a positive note. There's enough unhappiness in the world. I'm glad he apologised and I hope he's going to be ok, health wise.

Date last night with Mr Nurse, met at 7.30 and left at 10.15. lots of laughing, lots of common and shared history. And definitely a spark. I asked to smell him (ADHD brain 😂), he smelt good!
No kissing, but I did point out to him afterwards that we should have snogged each others faces off, he agreed. Next date Sunday.

5thWisdom

thats a nice outcome
well played
and agree with the ‘enough unhappiness ‘ comments 😊

Don’t worry, if he’s divorced or separated living in his place not with his ex, you are absolutely ok. Most of us have kids with ex husbands so some of us need to meet up to talk kids or even divorce proceedings!. Practicalities of life. Some just have very clingy ex wives and try to keep peace for the sake of the kids. In any case try not to think too much and better ask him how did it go after meeting the ex.

Fifthie please put pics where you show your whole length and figure. I used to pass on guys who only had headshots ( the reason for that is that they did not want to show their body shape). It’s good we are ok with who we are physically and show it off 😊. It is quite bad he lied about reason not to meet, it would have been so much nicer asking for when are you available next and say he really fancied watching the footie…

Excellent Oncey…just be patient because it sounds like you really like him. Give him some credit for that…I don't understand the ick thing but you clearly have now put it in proportion. Bring on next date and sexy times 😈

Really nice and sweet date 😍…bring on date 2 with lovely Mr Nurse

Well played…still…check out new irons and perk up your profile 😘

@Shwingbada* *
Ineed to work on going into a cave in these moments rather than always reaching out to the other person to fix my mood.

same here!!!! X

If he wanted to open that door, he would move hell and high water to open it.

can’t work out how you manage to address multiple posters and points so sorry can’t remember who this was but this is something I intend to keep in mind at all times!

Love the new terminology on here:
’industrial level dating’ 🤣🤣
‘spork’ 🤣🤣