Dating Thread 236 - Swiping, Blocking and Video Calls

[OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss]

New thread!

NoDatingForOldMen

communicate this to her
id totally get it if a Man I cared about shared this

but communicate you must , so you have some space and have one less worry
man’s maybe some support x

sorry about this , I’ve spent 2 years ferrying mum for her surgeries and it’s brutally stressful

@NoDatingForOldMen really very sorry for the trauma of your dad's care and death and now your mum.
I'd be saying to NoShow how depleted you are and how closeness and cuddling is welcomed but you might not have energy for bonking

Hope she isn't pressuring you for physicals you aren't in to right now. If that was a man insisting it if a woman we'd be classifying them as a sex pest!

I'm on homewards bound train from glorious time with MrC.

Realised I told the thread and him an untruth yesterday when I last DTD as had forgotten totally about my iron of the summer who dropped me after some slightly awkward ED incidents (but other bonkings were fine). Had totally forgotten about him! Just goes to show how quickly you can move on from those who weren't right!

What to say of night of passion in hotel. It's definitely not what @Mila14 has with MrEx in terms of perfect match but we were very compatible and MrC is very sensual, passionate and attentive.

Several orgasms were had by both and we both really enjoyed the day out the beautiful hotel, fine dining etc.
A lot of Prosecco was enjoyed and also my first time being in a sports car.

Was way more fabulous than I anticipated.

He's coming to mine next weekend as my teens are taking themselves away. After that they have nil plans to ever be away and MrCars has lodgers so this might turn out to be quite a pricey romance if Hotel rendezvous are the only way we can get together...

So,I’m going to put on my man hat (Tin hat ), on and go against the grain, and say that if I was in his ( what I assume are enormous) shoes, I would have probably done exactly the same, in fact I would have not have even replied, I would have unmatched and blocked, no reply.
I think the “oh that's what they all say!” Is actually quite a rude thing to say to someone you have never meet,.

I’m sorry, but I think you got that completely wrong.

Yes, it’s actually being quite triggering for me, my Dads diagnosis was in the November of 16 & I was taking them for treatment in the Dec of 16 over the Xmas period and remember seeing the trees etc and I remember how odd it felt.

and now I’m doing the same thing again, same location, same feelings.
Yes it’s very brutal
Hope your Mum is okay

@OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss certainly sounds like you had a Grand Prix of a weekend, you gave him the green light and he took you to the chequered flag and I’m fresh out of racing car 🏎 puns

He certainly revved me up good and proper @NoDatingForOldMen and was firing on all cylinders.
He's since confessed how very nervous he was and felt his performance wasn't up to a standard he was proud of. Wtaf?!? Bring on next weekend in that case.

@5thWisdom as always everyone is different and I don't think your cheeky 'that's what they all say' was played wrongly but obviously was for that fella.
It's important to remember to be your true self to find a good match and just because MrTall (and NoDatingForOldMen too) didn't appreciate this style of banter doesn't mean it was wrong. If it had been me you were messaging I would have very much enjoyed your teaser sarcasm because I am like that myself.
Do f feel bad that you did something 'wrong' you definitely did not but it meant that one guy out of an infinite pool realised you weren't for him or vice versa. Better to find out early than waste an afternoon getting dressed up for a date then find out in person.

Next!

NoDatingForOldMen

im so sorry . I’m not suprised you are finding it hard as (a) it’s really hard emotionally and mentally and (b) last time it wasn’t a positive ending

as cheesy as it sounds right now you need immense self care - and even that won’t always help as it’s BRUTAL
the only thing that helped me was exercise and getting into nature and breathing

my mums out of the woods now
but I have no doubt that other things will occur and of course I’ll care for her as siblings on the other side of the world 🙄

OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss

excellent outcome ! Someone’s got themselves a man friend 😁

Don’t get me wrong, I don’t mind a bit of banter, but I think there is a time for it and I don’t think that before even meeting is the right time.

For example, my hobby / social group is almost all old farts over 50, and we rip the piss out of each other, but we all know each other quite well, I wouldn’t expect a new club member to join in straight away.

See I do see that as witty background and forth and (I'm really sorry @NoDatingForOldMen) but if someone blocked me for that I'd know we had absolutely no hope going forward. In fact I messaged MeG after our date to say thank you but also to tell him he was still wrong in the debate we had. He just laughed and said ok.

Also @NoDatingForOldMen I should have said I'm so sorry about your dad and now your mum. Sadly my dads palliative care now and it's me who does the hospital runs. In a way it was a blessing leaving my husband as now I'm only
About an hour from them. I don't work so I can only imagine how hard fitting all of that is 🤗🤗

@OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss how fabulous does your night sound. God I could do with some of that. Also when I was seeing someone massively rebound after leaving husband we booked AirBnBs - well thinking about it I did 🙄 much cheaper.

Second date with MrG tomorrow. So 🤞

Lucky escape. Totally. Also if someone wants to see you, they will see you even in crutches and fresh from an accident. I don’t believe it when you guys post here “ he had a headache “ . Lessons learnt
A change in communications ALWAYS indicates something is going on
No problem Fifthie… next

sextexters are all mouth and no action ( in my case, viagra aided floppy whatsit action)
I blocked any innuendo guy I had not yet met. I don’t think sexting is cool unless you already have a few dates and are certain you will DTD . It’s a massive turn off for me

I think that goes to show how different we are all, personally I would see that as a rude comment a witty one, but the outcome would be the same, blocked.

sorry to hear about your Dad, I’m about 3 hours drive away & my sister is useless so I’m doing it all at the moment

Deffy … bring on next date with Mr G. Enjoy. It’s lovely to feel this enthusiasm
Oncey… really happy for you. Maybe this is a slow burner indeed and you end up falling in love 🥰
Enjoy Sunday everyone, sexy times or not , we are alive and have a lot to be grateful for

@NoDatingForOldMen yes I always judge how it'll go down.

For instance my very sexy sexter only, was dismissive that I'd have any feelings to be hurt - in his view because we hadn't met face to face why should I care if he met anyone else. So I sent him a link to sex lines as that's obviously all he's after. He sent two laughing emojis and I've not heard any more from him.

I know everyone says about meeting but sometimes your feelings come into play even if you don't want them to. I hate that I can't be totally detached.

Thank you about my dad. Yes I'm lucky but also as one brother is in the exact same position as dad. He's only 60 as well. The other brother may as well not be around. My mum is taking it really hard as they've been together I think 63 years now.

I know getting old is a privilege not everyone gets but it's heartbreaking being the adult too.

I can't see that happening @Mila14 if I'm totally honest with myself but it's pleasant enough and a fine winter warmer life affirmer.

Got home to some incredibly grumpy stressed out teens and was very happy I'd escaped them for 30 hours tbh.

I'm not doing OLD for a life partner just someone I can knock around with, enjoy as a sexy bestie and go out to eat with and away with for sensual times. Those boxes are deffo ticked right now ✔️

@NoDatingForOldMen I really appreciate that alternative perspective. All of our exchanges had been very warm and friendly up to the "if you are" reply last night. I was clear with him (despite my earlier private misgivings) that I was looking forward to meeting him.

For further context, he then went from suggesting that he'd like to come straight over last night after work, I replied that I wasn't looking for just hook ups, he said that he wasn't like other men, I joked "that's what they all say!". A well known line. I wasn't hurling insults or looking to offend, I was just teasing.

I was expecting a response along the lines of "well I'll just have to prove you wrong won't I winky emoji the coffees are on you tomorrow etc etc " or something cheeky about me in response. I certainly didn't expect him to react in such an extreme way. He clearly wasn't able to articulate why this offended him, or interested in explaining why. But then he'd never click with my sense of humour, and I'd end up walking on egg shells, afraid of offending him if he really took this to heart. The instant block based on one remark seems a bit extreme without allowing me a chance to explain, impulsive and immature. Like a child storming off in a huff instead of talking things through.

Anyway, I'm overanalysing this. I really appreciate the alternative point of view which is the value of this thread. I can be quite blunt and this has made me consider how I should tone that down before actually meeting people, for fear of being misconstrued. A lot can get lost in just messaging without verbal and visual cues.

I'm glad I didn't meet him this morning now.

This is tremendous- fabulous update. It sounds like you had a wonderful time and I'm so happy for you ☺️ perfect!

@OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss that sounds tremendous! What a lovely update!

@Definitelycross hope the second date goes well 🤞🏻

@NoDatingForOldMen I’m so sorry to hear about your parents. I hope MrsNoShow understands x

I had MrFootball round this afternoon while my Mum had the DC. To say I rode him like Red Rum would be an understatement 🤣 We then ordered a pizza and cuddled on the sofa watching a film. A snatched 4 hours but lovely all the same. I think I’m rather smitten……🫣

To say I rode him like Red Rum would be an understatement

Great stuff, hopefully there were no refusals and he managed all the jumps with a length to spare…🏇🏻

i’ll Get my coat 🧥

Oooooh all this great sex. I need me some of that and soon!!!

I really chuckle at these puns you come up with 😂

Fingers crossed for you 🤞🏻 trouble is the more you have of it, the more you want.

starting to see what all the fuss is about after years with an ex plagued by death grip and selfishness!

Oh wow @OLDstolemybrain that sounds completely brilliant. Clever you getting the house kid-free and using it like that with MrFootball. Viva hot sexy fun times and really love the sound of sofa snuggling afterwards with a film.

A proper winter warmer!

Thanks, I used to be quite pun-tastic, but not everyone likes it, so I reign it in bit IRL, but as this site is anonymous I’m going full-throttle