Page 13 | Dating Thread 236 - Swiping, Blocking and Video Calls

Mila14 · 04/12/2022 21:30

no Fifthie… we have spent week together many times ( kids free time time for him) . He even knows my kids. It’s 7 years now. Things got very very wrong during Covid too. We needed a break ! I dated a lot. 8 months of OLD. But we were still seeing each other for dinner or something nice and sometimes DTD!!! We just could not stop completely…

ownedbygreyhounds · 04/12/2022 21:31

5thWisdom · 04/12/2022 21:25

What did he say when you told him that?! @ownedbygreyhounds

He agreed - he too feels the same and wants to ensure that the timing is right for us both.
I have spent the last 1.5 weeks smiling. I know this goes against all the advice about OLD, but I have put my OLD accounts on hold I really don't want to talk/date anyone else. If this doesn't pan out how I would like, then I will just get back out there, but at the moment I am enjoying the interactions with Mr N.

Mila14 · 04/12/2022 21:34

ownedbygreyhounds · 04/12/2022 21:31

He agreed - he too feels the same and wants to ensure that the timing is right for us both.
I have spent the last 1.5 weeks smiling. I know this goes against all the advice about OLD, but I have put my OLD accounts on hold I really don't want to talk/date anyone else. If this doesn't pan out how I would like, then I will just get back out there, but at the moment I am enjoying the interactions with Mr N.

Show quote history

Lovely update! Bring on date 3 and yes…some sexy fun 😍

Definitelycross · 04/12/2022 21:37

ownedbygreyhounds · 04/12/2022 21:13

I have been shockingly shit at reporting back to the mothership, but have now read back through all the messages and love hearing how we are all doing! In particular to @OLDstolemybrain that made me giggle, love the fanny gallops!

So a week has passed since date 1 with Mr Nurse (when can I abbreviate him?!). This week has been a blur of messaging, sexting and a few video calls along the way. We had our 2nd date today and we laughed and snogged each others faces off. This man I could fuck tomorrow. But I am trying really hard to not jump into bed with him, primarily because I can very well imagine falling in love with this guy. We have a lot of shared interests, our moral compass appears to be the same and politically we align as well. Repeat after me I must keep feet firmly grounded...
Next date is going to be a week away primarily due to childcare reasons, but in some ways this is good for me as I don't want to get carried away in the heat of the moment.
I did tell him (blurt out) at the end of the date, that I find him incredibly attractive, and that I want to fuck him now, but I also want to wait a little longer because I want a relationship and I want to get the timing right and that I was looking forward to the next date.
So how long do we wait - however in reality I will be amazed if we haven't DTD by date 4?!

I am beyond envious

Definitelycross · 04/12/2022 21:39

Seriously though that's great!!!

I'm actually missing MrG - we can't seem to match times and dates.

5thWisdom · 04/12/2022 21:41

Mila14 · 04/12/2022 21:30

no Fifthie… we have spent week together many times ( kids free time time for him) . He even knows my kids. It’s 7 years now. Things got very very wrong during Covid too. We needed a break ! I dated a lot. 8 months of OLD. But we were still seeing each other for dinner or something nice and sometimes DTD!!! We just could not stop completely…

OK but this is the first week since then - so a good test of how things have improved/ get you back to where you were, with no other distractions?

5thWisdom · 04/12/2022 21:42

@ownedbygreyhounds enjoy enjoy (update) enjoy!

NoDatingForOldMen · 04/12/2022 21:43

OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss · 04/12/2022 18:52

@5thWisdom we've all been there. swipers elbow made me laugh.
Pick it up in a week is my advice. Go live your fabulous life for a few days.

@NoDatingForOldMen I don't understand what you are asking re balls/boob cuddling. Sounds completely standard normal and fabulousness for two people in an intimate relationship tbh. What's not to like?

@Mila14 that's the thing I no longer do 'hoping' and have nil expectations my days of wishing to find true love and any sense of urgency are totally behind me. I'm just enjoying the OLD adventures and all they bring.
Told my mate about MrCars on the phone this evening and just a few factoids about him has them all swoony but it's not about the attributes it's about the interpersonal interplay.
He truly has his shit together, is sensitive yet tough, emotionally intelligent and is very very into me (but in a cool way not a single hint of lovebomby discombobulating vibes).
I'm enjoying the ride and I'm enjoying my first every trial of taking it slow (although I'm sure my mother would argue arranging a weekend away in a hotel with a four poster bed with a man I've met 5 times is hardly
'Slow' 🤣🙄).

He's confessed he's purposely being gentlemanly and not overtly physical so he doesn't fuck this up.

I was off the apps anyway for winter or at least was about to be when we matched one evening on both Bumble and Tinder.

It's a grower I think.
I like how he instantly opens my texts and responds. I like how he reaches out throughout the day. I like how he's guided me through a horrendous work situation. Blah blah blah I won't go on.

What I find curious is how unlike all the other bits I've ever gone for he is. Looks wise mainly but personality too.
Maybe this is where I've gone wrong all these years.

Was just a question really, I have never experienced a partner holding my testicles or (sometimes penis ) as we drift off to sleep, like some kind of comforter.., just wondering if was normal ( I have never experienced this)

the holding the boob thing I’ve certainly done before and I think NoShow likes this as she kinda pulls my hand in, ( an she has quite big boobs so it’s a lovely hand warmer, but I definitely did not say that..)

Mila14 · 04/12/2022 22:43

No distraction Fifthie… just Mr Ex and I just love it

Original poster

OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss · 04/12/2022 23:25

Ooooooo @ownedbygreyhounds what a fabulous update.
I have been where you are now several times with various sexy fellas of OLD and it is a brilliant thing. Nothing quite like it. Heady days!

@Mila14 you are the wisest sage of the mothership and we are here for you as you and MrEx find your rhythm once again. Hope you have enjoyable times this week seeing each other so many times.

@NoDatingForOldMen that sounds so sweet and cosy.
I have (really) big boobs too and love it when they are cuddled to sleep in a spoon setting.

I just had an 90 min call where we shared our tricky childhoods but ended on comparing how we were both in a place of ambivalence not desperate urgency in finding a suitable match romantically which leads to a much easier slower and steadier pace. Which is exactly what I was saying here earlier. He said it first and I had to bite my tongue to not say "I was musing about that on the MN Dating Mothership today!!!"

Bless him he's texted me saying he thought he already had maximum admiration for me but knowing I had no parental support makes him like me more. He had none either.
Then we talked about work for yonks.

It's been a vague dream of mine to have a fella I can talk shop with and have them really get it. My XH sort of did as was in the same field but in a teeny company so didn't get the global corporate politics nonsense.

If are bedroom antics are incompatible. It will be very sad.

OP posts:

NoDatingForOldMen · 05/12/2022 08:46

@OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss
well that sounds great, hopefully Mr Cars will be firing on all cylinders and get you revved up in the bedroom.

as for your comment about talking shop, I would absolutely hate that, I feel it refreshing that NoShow is different and shop talk says in the shop.

I’ve worked for small companies and currently a global company & the politics is the same just expanded massively, just goes from interpersonal to country v country.

@ownedbygreyhounds well he sounds like a lucky guy, I’m sure he is waiting for the chance to take your temperature ( apologies, couldn’t think of any Nurse puns)

Original poster

OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss · 05/12/2022 10:17

We've said it before and we'll say it again @NoDatingForOldMen we're all so different

MrCars has helped me see my boss is a toxic bully and the culture where I work is never going to improve but my Mental Health is very much at risk so I'm seeking to leave.
His wisdom has been increds.

Yes re cylinders firing on Saturday! I'll keep you posted.

OP posts:

NoDatingForOldMen · 05/12/2022 10:43

@OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss that all sounds good 👍🏼

5thWisdom · 05/12/2022 12:32

Do you call them out if they have a wedding ring on in a photo and don't mention an open ENM relationship?!

Particular profile highlight this morning - "If you're a gold digger, the jokes on you because I'm broke" - beautiful stuff!

I've had one match start to chat "Do you live in a zoo because you look like a keeper?!" - which doesn't actually make logical sense!!! Hahaha!

NoDatingForOldMen · 05/12/2022 12:37

oh dear, he can’t even get the gag right…

Do you live work in a zoo because you look like a keeper?!

**

Lovemusic33 · 05/12/2022 13:30

Haven’t posted for a while. Been dating My Cherry for a few months and all is going well (slowly), we see each other once or twice a week which is plenty for me.

Anyway, I came on here today to ask….”what do you buy someone you have only been dating a few months for Christmas?”, I want to buy him a gift but he doesn’t really like ‘things’ but I don’t really want to pay a fortune for an experience and make him feel awkward because I spent too much. So those who are dating someone…”what are you getting them for Christmas?”.

Thisisworsethananticpated · 05/12/2022 14:50

Lovemusic33

hello !
I’m not sure if I’ll get mine anything
as if he doesn’t get me anything I’ll be mega pissed 😂

so that’s not helpful

but if I did I’d get him face stuff as he loves all my
skincare and serums

Lovemusic33 · 05/12/2022 15:50

Thisisworsethananticpated · 05/12/2022 14:50

Lovemusic33

hello !
I’m not sure if I’ll get mine anything
as if he doesn’t get me anything I’ll be mega pissed 😂

so that’s not helpful

but if I did I’d get him face stuff as he loves all my
skincare and serums

Ideally I wouldn’t buy anything, I am just worried he will buy me something and then I will look tight. I think he would prefer to spend a day doing something with me rather than get a gift (that’s the kind of person he is) so maybe I will just plan a special day 🤔

BaddogGooddoggy · 05/12/2022 16:04

I got Mr B a bottle of liqueur for Christmas last. This went down well but I’m now massively against alcohol so I shall give him a hamper of his favourite food.

@NoDatingForOldMen i’d never experienced the boob/ball cuddling before Mr B. I find it very endearing but, umm, distracting from sleep - if you see what I mean???

Mila14 · 05/12/2022 16:27

5thWisdom · 05/12/2022 12:32

Do you call them out if they have a wedding ring on in a photo and don't mention an open ENM relationship?!

Particular profile highlight this morning - "If you're a gold digger, the jokes on you because I'm broke" - beautiful stuff!

I've had one match start to chat "Do you live in a zoo because you look like a keeper?!" - which doesn't actually make logical sense!!! Hahaha!

Fifthie… what idiots 🙄

Mila14 · 05/12/2022 16:30

Lovemusic33 · 05/12/2022 13:30

Haven’t posted for a while. Been dating My Cherry for a few months and all is going well (slowly), we see each other once or twice a week which is plenty for me.

Anyway, I came on here today to ask….”what do you buy someone you have only been dating a few months for Christmas?”, I want to buy him a gift but he doesn’t really like ‘things’ but I don’t really want to pay a fortune for an experience and make him feel awkward because I spent too much. So those who are dating someone…”what are you getting them for Christmas?”.

if he’s into elegant things a good scarf to wear with a suit? Or if he likes perfume or likes to look good a nice perfume?
Depends on how is Mr Cherry ?

JangolinaPitt · 05/12/2022 16:57

Really interesting about the balls/boob cuddling. Have posted ad nauseum here about my bf being inhibited and he finally plucked up courage to ask me to nestle his ball in the night and so that is now something and then he plucked up courage to hold my boobs.
Thanks @NoDatingForOldMen for giving the male perspective!!!

pencilpot99 · 05/12/2022 17:25

Hello Mothership, update on MrStars - we met up yesterday afternoon for a stroll around a local Xmas fair. He's a really lovely guy and very into me, which feels good. But I'm really not sure. I like him (as much as you can like anyone you've met twice), but I don't fancy him. I know he wanted to kiss me goodbye but I wasn't really feeling it and he was very gentlemanly about it. I said I'd like to take things slowly.

So I'm not sure what to do. I won't be seeing him again for at least four weeks because he's going back to the US, so maybe that's a good thing and we can meet up again when he's back and see how I feel then.

@5thWisdom he's relocated here for work and currently living in temporary accommodation, but his adult kids all live in the US, so I think he travels back there pretty regularly.

In the meantime, I've been completely overwhelmed by the huge number of messages/profile likes on the dating app. I've logged off it for now because it was just too much and making me feel uncomfortable. Do you all get that? Not sure whether I'm cut out for OLD!

Mila14 · 05/12/2022 17:33

Pencilpot … 0 pressure with Mr Stars. What did you like about him initially? You know when you fancy someone or not
About the dating, it’s crazy so the best thing I did was to get bumble and set criteria ( height, education level, distance…) then it really really dwindles to what you are specifically looking for
If you don’t set filters, it’s overwhelming

Lovemusic33 · 05/12/2022 17:44

Mila14 he’s not into those things, he’s the sort that never wears a suit 😬. He is very fussy and often buys things and sends them back because they are not what he was expecting. He doesn’t really like ‘things’ so I don’t want to get him something he won’t use. I think he’s the sort of person that likes to buy and chose his own things.