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Dating Thread 236 - Swiping, Blocking and Video Calls

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OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss · 28/11/2022 15:27

New thread!

OP posts:
Mila14 · 04/12/2022 16:21

Patience Fifthie…some good irons will appear ! I do remember me refreshing non stop the app… then suddenly 3 appear out of nowhere… it’s the uncertainty that makes it so addictive ( the swiping )

Nugg · 04/12/2022 17:17

Reporting back to the mothership.

It's a no from me. He's very keen. Her also happy to take things slowly. But I don't even want to try that tactic.

I started with a huge ball of anxiety YAS he arrived and as easy as he was to get along with, it got worse. I kept thinking I'm ok on my own, I'm too busy, the distance is too much and so on. Excuses. But actually either he's not for me or I'm not ready...and I'm not sure which is the most true!

I've literally exhausted all online options so I'm going to start going out at weekends and see if by amazing coincidence my iron is out there😆

Nice afternoon but no spark or any desire to see him again.

Thisisworsethananticpated · 04/12/2022 17:50

Mollymolloy

oh I had to laugh at your date trying to pin you down for jiggy jiggy

he’s not hiding it is he 😂
’come to my house tonight ‘
yes pal

I also tend to shag them quite fast if I fancy them

I don’t think you fancy him ?

Thisisworsethananticpated · 04/12/2022 17:52

Nugg

doesnt sound like you fancy your one either ☹️
disappointing
but it happens
get home and watch a nice Xmas movie 🍿?

Thisisworsethananticpated · 04/12/2022 17:53

NoDatingForOldMen

in also find your boob n ball grabbing rather sweet !

OLDstolemybrain · 04/12/2022 18:30

nice to read about some lovely dates 😊

MrFootball and I had our 3rd date yesterday and omg the kissing at the end gave me fanny gallops 🥵 I keep finding myself replaying it in my head.

Unfortunately I had to pick the DC up straight afterwards and it looks like my period will be around next weekend when I could have scheduled an overnighter 😫 I need more patience!

OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss · 04/12/2022 18:52

@5thWisdom we've all been there. swipers elbow made me laugh.
Pick it up in a week is my advice. Go live your fabulous life for a few days.

@NoDatingForOldMen I don't understand what you are asking re balls/boob cuddling. Sounds completely standard normal and fabulousness for two people in an intimate relationship tbh. What's not to like?

@Mila14 that's the thing I no longer do 'hoping' and have nil expectations my days of wishing to find true love and any sense of urgency are totally behind me. I'm just enjoying the OLD adventures and all they bring.
Told my mate about MrCars on the phone this evening and just a few factoids about him has them all swoony but it's not about the attributes it's about the interpersonal interplay.
He truly has his shit together, is sensitive yet tough, emotionally intelligent and is very very into me (but in a cool way not a single hint of lovebomby discombobulating vibes).
I'm enjoying the ride and I'm enjoying my first every trial of taking it slow (although I'm sure my mother would argue arranging a weekend away in a hotel with a four poster bed with a man I've met 5 times is hardly
'Slow' 🤣🙄).

He's confessed he's purposely being gentlemanly and not overtly physical so he doesn't fuck this up.

I was off the apps anyway for winter or at least was about to be when we matched one evening on both Bumble and Tinder.

It's a grower I think.
I like how he instantly opens my texts and responds. I like how he reaches out throughout the day. I like how he's guided me through a horrendous work situation. Blah blah blah I won't go on.

What I find curious is how unlike all the other bits I've ever gone for he is. Looks wise mainly but personality too.
Maybe this is where I've gone wrong all these years.

OP posts:
OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss · 04/12/2022 19:05

*boys not bits!

Although I quite like 'bits'

OP posts:
OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss · 04/12/2022 19:08

Ooooooooo @OLDstolemybrain love those early dates where the kissing is off the scale and the fanny gallops are revving...

What's the next rendezvous will it be further chaste dinner if your period is due. That's bad timing.

OP posts:
Thisisworsethananticpated · 04/12/2022 19:17

OLDstolemybrain

ahhhh !

by the way I use a mooncup and for the first time in my life I can have period sex

maybe a bit risky for the first one I agree

OLDstolemybrain · 04/12/2022 19:27

OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss · 04/12/2022 19:08

Ooooooooo @OLDstolemybrain love those early dates where the kissing is off the scale and the fanny gallops are revving...

What's the next rendezvous will it be further chaste dinner if your period is due. That's bad timing.

Period is due Weds which means I could still be on Saturday when we’re going out for dinner but I have some period pains today so I’m hoping the planets have aligned - I come on tomorrow so totally free by Saturday would be amazing! Here’s hoping!

@Thisisworsethananticpated I never knew you could have sex with a moo cup in. Never used one before though so probably playing with fire to attempt it on the first time together 😂

OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss · 04/12/2022 20:04

Fingers tightly crossed @OLDstolemybrain

No I don't think now is the time to be experimenting with mooncup sex!

OP posts:
Mollymolloy · 04/12/2022 20:15

Glad to hear that all is good with MrCars@OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss. He sounds so lovely!! It gives us all hope too!!

@OLDstolemybrainfanny gallops with Mr Football.. you go girl!!!

The funniest thing about MrD was when I suggested a walk & lunch for our third date. He suggested hot jungle sex … and then asked me round his!! I did go back thinking that he was joking… sadly not.. I would rather the relationship evolve slowly with someone who I really fancied.

OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss · 04/12/2022 20:24

That's quite some leap @Mollymolloy
Oh well at least you discovered now before spending more time and lunch money on someone who is clearly in the game for two dimensional shags!

Nothing ventured nothing gained.

OP posts:
Mila14 · 04/12/2022 20:40

OLDstolemybrain · 04/12/2022 18:30

nice to read about some lovely dates 😊

MrFootball and I had our 3rd date yesterday and omg the kissing at the end gave me fanny gallops 🥵 I keep finding myself replaying it in my head.

Unfortunately I had to pick the DC up straight afterwards and it looks like my period will be around next weekend when I could have scheduled an overnighter 😫 I need more patience!

Fab news… he’s really pushed your buttons!

Mila14 · 04/12/2022 20:41

OLDstolemybrain · 04/12/2022 18:30

nice to read about some lovely dates 😊

MrFootball and I had our 3rd date yesterday and omg the kissing at the end gave me fanny gallops 🥵 I keep finding myself replaying it in my head.

Unfortunately I had to pick the DC up straight afterwards and it looks like my period will be around next weekend when I could have scheduled an overnighter 😫 I need more patience!

Fab news… he’s really pushed your buttons!

5thWisdom · 04/12/2022 20:41

OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss · 04/12/2022 18:52

@5thWisdom we've all been there. swipers elbow made me laugh.
Pick it up in a week is my advice. Go live your fabulous life for a few days.

@NoDatingForOldMen I don't understand what you are asking re balls/boob cuddling. Sounds completely standard normal and fabulousness for two people in an intimate relationship tbh. What's not to like?

@Mila14 that's the thing I no longer do 'hoping' and have nil expectations my days of wishing to find true love and any sense of urgency are totally behind me. I'm just enjoying the OLD adventures and all they bring.
Told my mate about MrCars on the phone this evening and just a few factoids about him has them all swoony but it's not about the attributes it's about the interpersonal interplay.
He truly has his shit together, is sensitive yet tough, emotionally intelligent and is very very into me (but in a cool way not a single hint of lovebomby discombobulating vibes).
I'm enjoying the ride and I'm enjoying my first every trial of taking it slow (although I'm sure my mother would argue arranging a weekend away in a hotel with a four poster bed with a man I've met 5 times is hardly
'Slow' 🤣🙄).

He's confessed he's purposely being gentlemanly and not overtly physical so he doesn't fuck this up.

I was off the apps anyway for winter or at least was about to be when we matched one evening on both Bumble and Tinder.

It's a grower I think.
I like how he instantly opens my texts and responds. I like how he reaches out throughout the day. I like how he's guided me through a horrendous work situation. Blah blah blah I won't go on.

What I find curious is how unlike all the other bits I've ever gone for he is. Looks wise mainly but personality too.
Maybe this is where I've gone wrong all these years.

It's true! Taking it slow, but not Mother-style!

You may be on to something here...

5thWisdom · 04/12/2022 20:42

OLDstolemybrain · 04/12/2022 18:30

nice to read about some lovely dates 😊

MrFootball and I had our 3rd date yesterday and omg the kissing at the end gave me fanny gallops 🥵 I keep finding myself replaying it in my head.

Unfortunately I had to pick the DC up straight afterwards and it looks like my period will be around next weekend when I could have scheduled an overnighter 😫 I need more patience!

Yay! Nothing like a passionate kiss! Great to hear!

Mila14 · 04/12/2022 20:43

Nugg · 04/12/2022 17:17

Reporting back to the mothership.

It's a no from me. He's very keen. Her also happy to take things slowly. But I don't even want to try that tactic.

I started with a huge ball of anxiety YAS he arrived and as easy as he was to get along with, it got worse. I kept thinking I'm ok on my own, I'm too busy, the distance is too much and so on. Excuses. But actually either he's not for me or I'm not ready...and I'm not sure which is the most true!

I've literally exhausted all online options so I'm going to start going out at weekends and see if by amazing coincidence my iron is out there😆

Nice afternoon but no spark or any desire to see him again.

No problem. Moving on to RL or more OLD whenever you feel like 😊. You do not need to compromise

Mila14 · 04/12/2022 20:47

I’m seeing Mr Ex every day this week and part of next weekend bar 2 nights. I have erased talked to Mr intense and erased all. Better not to meet because I am in love already and want to give this second chance a real opportunity. I will still be lurking here if you guys allow me 😍

5thWisdom · 04/12/2022 20:50

Nugg · 04/12/2022 17:17

Reporting back to the mothership.

It's a no from me. He's very keen. Her also happy to take things slowly. But I don't even want to try that tactic.

I started with a huge ball of anxiety YAS he arrived and as easy as he was to get along with, it got worse. I kept thinking I'm ok on my own, I'm too busy, the distance is too much and so on. Excuses. But actually either he's not for me or I'm not ready...and I'm not sure which is the most true!

I've literally exhausted all online options so I'm going to start going out at weekends and see if by amazing coincidence my iron is out there😆

Nice afternoon but no spark or any desire to see him again.

Put it down to experience and hopefully it will help you realise what you do want and would like from a man and partner.

5thWisdom · 04/12/2022 20:54

Mila14 · 04/12/2022 20:47

I’m seeing Mr Ex every day this week and part of next weekend bar 2 nights. I have erased talked to Mr intense and erased all. Better not to meet because I am in love already and want to give this second chance a real opportunity. I will still be lurking here if you guys allow me 😍

This will be a good opportunity for you to see if this is the right time for you both.

Am I right in thinking this will be the first time in a long time that you'll have seen each other regularly for an extended period instead of one night every week or so?

I think I would have done the same with Mr Intense. When my heart is with one, I find I need to give it my all. At least then I can say I've tried my best!

ownedbygreyhounds · 04/12/2022 21:13

I have been shockingly shit at reporting back to the mothership, but have now read back through all the messages and love hearing how we are all doing! In particular to @OLDstolemybrain that made me giggle, love the fanny gallops!

So a week has passed since date 1 with Mr Nurse (when can I abbreviate him?!). This week has been a blur of messaging, sexting and a few video calls along the way. We had our 2nd date today and we laughed and snogged each others faces off. This man I could fuck tomorrow. But I am trying really hard to not jump into bed with him, primarily because I can very well imagine falling in love with this guy. We have a lot of shared interests, our moral compass appears to be the same and politically we align as well. Repeat after me I must keep feet firmly grounded...
Next date is going to be a week away primarily due to childcare reasons, but in some ways this is good for me as I don't want to get carried away in the heat of the moment.
I did tell him (blurt out) at the end of the date, that I find him incredibly attractive, and that I want to fuck him now, but I also want to wait a little longer because I want a relationship and I want to get the timing right and that I was looking forward to the next date.
So how long do we wait - however in reality I will be amazed if we haven't DTD by date 4?!

5thWisdom · 04/12/2022 21:24

ownedbygreyhounds · 04/12/2022 21:13

I have been shockingly shit at reporting back to the mothership, but have now read back through all the messages and love hearing how we are all doing! In particular to @OLDstolemybrain that made me giggle, love the fanny gallops!

So a week has passed since date 1 with Mr Nurse (when can I abbreviate him?!). This week has been a blur of messaging, sexting and a few video calls along the way. We had our 2nd date today and we laughed and snogged each others faces off. This man I could fuck tomorrow. But I am trying really hard to not jump into bed with him, primarily because I can very well imagine falling in love with this guy. We have a lot of shared interests, our moral compass appears to be the same and politically we align as well. Repeat after me I must keep feet firmly grounded...
Next date is going to be a week away primarily due to childcare reasons, but in some ways this is good for me as I don't want to get carried away in the heat of the moment.
I did tell him (blurt out) at the end of the date, that I find him incredibly attractive, and that I want to fuck him now, but I also want to wait a little longer because I want a relationship and I want to get the timing right and that I was looking forward to the next date.
So how long do we wait - however in reality I will be amazed if we haven't DTD by date 4?!

Well this is tremendous!!! Amazing update.

Sounds good that you've got a week to ruminate. I think I'd need space to process all of this and distance would help consolidate thoughts and feelings! But gosh how exciting!!! So pleased for you 🥰

I'm awful at holding back if the attraction is there but once again, remind ourselves of the mantra - with OLD be ready for anything - and nerves of steel if things end as soon as they've begun.

Meanwhile enjoy, make the very most of the space, get to know him better during the time you're apart.

5thWisdom · 04/12/2022 21:25

What did he say when you told him that?! @ownedbygreyhounds

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