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5thWisdom · 02/12/2022 20:58

I came off Bumble @Mila14 but it's the same faces on Tinder, sadly, in my neck of the woods.

It's time consuming, copy and paste one way conversations at the moment 😂 very romantic!!!!

Remind us - do you have weekend plans with Mr Ex?

Definitelycross · 02/12/2022 20:59

No I definitely don't plan to give much information at all.

Yes it's for the greater good but it's interesting I thought I'd healed a lot but it doesn't take much to make you feel you're back there.

Anyway, enough sadness. Apologies.

Oh this might make you laugh. I matched with a guy from Shetland on Bumble. Messaged him to say it's a bit far. He was on a ferry from Iceland to Denmark. Bumble is the biggest pile of shite ever

pencilpot99 · 02/12/2022 21:50

So things have moved at a much faster pace than I’d anticipated. Signed up to the dating app today and I think I already have an iron 😆will call him MrStars as in Stars and Stripes because he’s from the US.
In fact he’s not new to me. We matched on another app but I had to abruptly delete that one because I had a bit of a stalker problem on it. It was disappointing because I didn’t want him to think I’d ghosted him, but I didn’t have any other option.
Anyway he popped up today and we’ve been chatting on and off all evening. He’s going back to the US for Christmas/NY but asked if I wanted to meet up before he goes.
Have also swapped a few messages with another guy, an airline pilot so will call Mr747.
it feels really weird to me to be chatting with more than one person though. I hate feeling like I’m being dishonest but at the same time all the advice here seems to be not to focus on just one person. Need to keep reminding myself of The Rules.

5thWisdom · 02/12/2022 22:00

pencilpot99 · 02/12/2022 21:50

So things have moved at a much faster pace than I’d anticipated. Signed up to the dating app today and I think I already have an iron 😆will call him MrStars as in Stars and Stripes because he’s from the US.
In fact he’s not new to me. We matched on another app but I had to abruptly delete that one because I had a bit of a stalker problem on it. It was disappointing because I didn’t want him to think I’d ghosted him, but I didn’t have any other option.
Anyway he popped up today and we’ve been chatting on and off all evening. He’s going back to the US for Christmas/NY but asked if I wanted to meet up before he goes.
Have also swapped a few messages with another guy, an airline pilot so will call Mr747.
it feels really weird to me to be chatting with more than one person though. I hate feeling like I’m being dishonest but at the same time all the advice here seems to be not to focus on just one person. Need to keep reminding myself of The Rules.

Enjoy!

You've not made any promises to anyone and assume they are talking to multiple people too. Adopt the approach that you're just getting to know them and owe them zero.

I've heard absolutely zilch from Mr Boxer since he left for his home 200 miles away yesterday. Probably for the best! But again, let the mothership please learn from my mistakes!!!

Nothing of interest match wise this evening - actually on a loop now with some faces I've already swiped left on now reappearing! Super! 😂

Eeksteek · 02/12/2022 22:50

Thisisworsethananticpated · 02/12/2022 12:41

Eeksteek

he could be perfectly lovely , living at home and night shifts are not a crime

but you’ve had a not great week in terms of Pug

ans doesn’t sound like his messages make you smile which is my primary marker !

Can’t see it working, tbh. I bailed. I think I’ll just leave it for a bit.

JangolinaPitt · 03/12/2022 07:26

Definitelycross · 02/12/2022 20:59

No I definitely don't plan to give much information at all.

Yes it's for the greater good but it's interesting I thought I'd healed a lot but it doesn't take much to make you feel you're back there.

Anyway, enough sadness. Apologies.

Oh this might make you laugh. I matched with a guy from Shetland on Bumble. Messaged him to say it's a bit far. He was on a ferry from Iceland to Denmark. Bumble is the biggest pile of shite ever

🤣🤣🤣

Mila14 · 03/12/2022 08:23

5thWisdom · 02/12/2022 20:58

I came off Bumble @Mila14 but it's the same faces on Tinder, sadly, in my neck of the woods.

It's time consuming, copy and paste one way conversations at the moment 😂 very romantic!!!!

Remind us - do you have weekend plans with Mr Ex?

I hand in kids Sunday night I am afraid…but i have a week child free and NEXT WEEKEND…such is my glam life 😍. I am looking forward to lovely time with perma hard fat deliciously sexy MrEx. Although it will be fleeting as he may have to travel to LA (bugger…on my childfree week)

I have a little secret I must confess to the holy Mothership…but I think it is completely innocent…Mr Intense and I keep chatting and video called again last night. He’s a gem. Sadly I found him as I was coming out of apps and back with MrEx but why the fcxk didn’t I meet him in those stupid 8 months of OLD like crazy. Anyway…I think in the end MrEx is massively busy and I am still on “test 1,2,3 “ territory regarding our renewed relationship. MrIntense has also uttered the “b” word ( beautiful) but normally we chat about our day, what are the kids up to and the world in general. So very mundane stuff. I will meet him for dinner and I think we can be friends 🙄…

5thWisdom · 03/12/2022 08:35

Do you think deep down your feelings towards Mr Intense could be more than friends, if you are honest with yourself?

Meet up with him asap and see what chemistry is there. If Mr Ex wasn't on the scene, would you want to explore romance with Mr Intense?

Do either know about each other? It's hard when you're working out feelings to keep everyone informed but honesty is best policy of course x

Mila14 · 03/12/2022 08:37

Definitelycross · 02/12/2022 20:59

No I definitely don't plan to give much information at all.

Yes it's for the greater good but it's interesting I thought I'd healed a lot but it doesn't take much to make you feel you're back there.

Anyway, enough sadness. Apologies.

Oh this might make you laugh. I matched with a guy from Shetland on Bumble. Messaged him to say it's a bit far. He was on a ferry from Iceland to Denmark. Bumble is the biggest pile of shite ever

Deffy I think you have all the respect from us. We want you to enjoy yourself madly and get some cockilycious fucktantastic time when you are ready and meet the right MAN. But the important thing is kind lovely men are sexy and you will meet someone special I am sure.
I agree with the rest. Don’t over share, not because you have anything to hide but because you want to feel safe and secure and supported

5thWisdom · 03/12/2022 08:39

OK today is refresh my profile day. I've had a facial, going to pick up a few new clothes (haven't bought new clothes in months and months).

So do I delete and start again with a fresh profile or update my existing account?

I've no irons on current one apart from one very slow chat happening and Mr Boxer who has ghosted me anyway.

Mila14 · 03/12/2022 08:47

Fifthie,..MrBoxer has not ghosted you. He’s temporarily away. Be patient. I a, a big fan of really good pics. Wear what makes you feel happy and pretty. I think good hair in number one. Good salon blowdry and lovely dress. First impressions matter. If you want a gent…show a lady…that is my motto

MrIntense is just a distraction at this point and possibly a friend. He knows I am no longer in any app or dating as I am trying to see how it goes with MrEx. I do not mind it at all if he wants to date or whether he is in apps to be honest. I am aware he is looking for a life partner though and is honest about falling in love. But I keep all superficial. We are not at a stage where we need to discuss anything like that!

5thWisdom · 03/12/2022 08:58

Mila14 · 03/12/2022 08:47

Fifthie,..MrBoxer has not ghosted you. He’s temporarily away. Be patient. I a, a big fan of really good pics. Wear what makes you feel happy and pretty. I think good hair in number one. Good salon blowdry and lovely dress. First impressions matter. If you want a gent…show a lady…that is my motto

MrIntense is just a distraction at this point and possibly a friend. He knows I am no longer in any app or dating as I am trying to see how it goes with MrEx. I do not mind it at all if he wants to date or whether he is in apps to be honest. I am aware he is looking for a life partner though and is honest about falling in love. But I keep all superficial. We are not at a stage where we need to discuss anything like that!

That sounds like you have it all out in open - which is great. He sounds like a decent man, which is nice to find! Keep us posted if you make plans to meet him in your child free week.

NoDatingForOldMen · 03/12/2022 15:08

So I have a question for any of the women reading this,: quite explicit

when having a stay over or night away , when we are cuddling up ready to sleep I noticed the NoShow like to put her hand down my shorts ( I wear shorts in bed), and cup my balls, is this a comfort thing?, we we cuddle the other way I’m big spoon I do like to go sleep with my hand between her breasts, I think this is a comfort thing

Mila14 · 03/12/2022 15:12

NoDatingForOldMen · 03/12/2022 15:08

So I have a question for any of the women reading this,: quite explicit

when having a stay over or night away , when we are cuddling up ready to sleep I noticed the NoShow like to put her hand down my shorts ( I wear shorts in bed), and cup my balls, is this a comfort thing?, we we cuddle the other way I’m big spoon I do like to go sleep with my hand between her breasts, I think this is a comfort thing

I think both things are 🥰 LOVELY…I think you are in love Howlongy! And I think MrsShow is in love too. It shows the right intimacy in my opinion
More ball grabbing and boob comfort in the world please 🙏

5thWisdom · 03/12/2022 15:29

NoDatingForOldMen · 03/12/2022 15:08

So I have a question for any of the women reading this,: quite explicit

when having a stay over or night away , when we are cuddling up ready to sleep I noticed the NoShow like to put her hand down my shorts ( I wear shorts in bed), and cup my balls, is this a comfort thing?, we we cuddle the other way I’m big spoon I do like to go sleep with my hand between her breasts, I think this is a comfort thing

Absolutely agree with @Mila14 - it's actually this level of intimacy I miss so much!! Waaa!

Also wanting to touch, can't keep hands off one another, is a sure sign of intimate connection and attachment. Enjoy @NoDatingForOldMen ❤️

Definitelycross · 03/12/2022 16:24

NoDatingForOldMen · 03/12/2022 15:08

So I have a question for any of the women reading this,: quite explicit

when having a stay over or night away , when we are cuddling up ready to sleep I noticed the NoShow like to put her hand down my shorts ( I wear shorts in bed), and cup my balls, is this a comfort thing?, we we cuddle the other way I’m big spoon I do like to go sleep with my hand between her breasts, I think this is a comfort thing

Oh that's so lovely ❤️❤️❤️

pencilpot99 · 03/12/2022 17:06

Little update for the Mothership: meeting MrStars at a local (but not too local IYSWIM) pub for a drink this evening. Outfit is sorted but no idea about who turns up first, what if I don’t recognise him etc. He seems really nice, is very enthusiastic, and also aware that there’s every possibility I may choose to make my excuses and leave early. Wish me luck 😆!

5thWisdom · 03/12/2022 17:10

pencilpot99 · 03/12/2022 17:06

Little update for the Mothership: meeting MrStars at a local (but not too local IYSWIM) pub for a drink this evening. Outfit is sorted but no idea about who turns up first, what if I don’t recognise him etc. He seems really nice, is very enthusiastic, and also aware that there’s every possibility I may choose to make my excuses and leave early. Wish me luck 😆!

Very exciting @pencilpot99 - I haven't yet managed to get anyone to actually meet (violins please! 😂) but I'd aim to arrive 5 mins after scheduled time.

Hopefully his photos are current so you should recognise him!!

I hope it goes well!! What did you decide to wear?

Mila14 · 03/12/2022 17:15

pencilpot99 · 03/12/2022 17:06

Little update for the Mothership: meeting MrStars at a local (but not too local IYSWIM) pub for a drink this evening. Outfit is sorted but no idea about who turns up first, what if I don’t recognise him etc. He seems really nice, is very enthusiastic, and also aware that there’s every possibility I may choose to make my excuses and leave early. Wish me luck 😆!

Best of luck 🤞

Mollymolloy · 03/12/2022 18:39

I started messaging MrD a couple of weeks ago and we speak on the phone most days for over an hour. Our first date was a drink with a peck on the cheek.

We do get on very well but, physically, he isn’t my type. We went out for a meal for our second date which was lovely. We did have a great snog in the car park. He is really keen to DTD. I am up for it but, would rather have a couple more dates and spend more time together first. He has asked whether it will be date 4 or date 6? I would rather see how it goes and let things develop gradually. It has been a while since I went out with anyone. How long does everyone else wait?

ibelieveinmirrorballs · 03/12/2022 18:49

@Mollymolloy ive normally shagged them by now, but I don’t like the fact he’s trying to tie you down to a set time/date. Surely it should just happen naturally and when you both are clearly up for it. It’s not about him trying to wheedle/negotiate with you - massive turn off for me!

ibelieveinmirrorballs · 03/12/2022 18:51

Good luck @pencilpot99 ! You’re both in the same position so don’t overthink it - I’d aim to get there on time (but knowing me am always 5 mins late anyway 😬)

Mila14 · 03/12/2022 18:57

Mollymolloy · 03/12/2022 18:39

I started messaging MrD a couple of weeks ago and we speak on the phone most days for over an hour. Our first date was a drink with a peck on the cheek.

We do get on very well but, physically, he isn’t my type. We went out for a meal for our second date which was lovely. We did have a great snog in the car park. He is really keen to DTD. I am up for it but, would rather have a couple more dates and spend more time together first. He has asked whether it will be date 4 or date 6? I would rather see how it goes and let things develop gradually. It has been a while since I went out with anyone. How long does everyone else wait?

I think it’s crazy he’s asking when to DTD… weird… you don’t even fancy him that much…

5thWisdom · 03/12/2022 19:27

Mollymolloy · 03/12/2022 18:39

I started messaging MrD a couple of weeks ago and we speak on the phone most days for over an hour. Our first date was a drink with a peck on the cheek.

We do get on very well but, physically, he isn’t my type. We went out for a meal for our second date which was lovely. We did have a great snog in the car park. He is really keen to DTD. I am up for it but, would rather have a couple more dates and spend more time together first. He has asked whether it will be date 4 or date 6? I would rather see how it goes and let things develop gradually. It has been a while since I went out with anyone. How long does everyone else wait?

I prefer these things to happen spontaneously and naturally and it's very awkward when he's asking for a timeframe from you? Eerff. Who knows when the moment takes you? Also he could put some effort in to romance and woo you?!!

With OLD you need to be prepared to never hear from them again. Or never want to contact him either! As long as you're comfortable with that, crack on, especially if it's been a while.

5thWisdom · 03/12/2022 19:29

@Mollymolloy sorry also if that's all he's waiting out for, I'd start to reconsider my options, protect yourself and focus on what you want.