Dating a gorgeous man

[Dateshate]

I’m going on a date with a very, very good looking man. Met him on Bumble. I am not a shallow person and understand that looks are certainly not everything - looks are fleeting. I’m interested in the connection. He seems very keen and has said how he thinks I’m so good looking and lovely, that he will be shy around me - and sorry if he is! He seems genuine and nice. He’s talked about how connection is more important than looks and yes people do comment on how he looks but he doesn’t take it seriously and it doesn’t matter.

Thing is - he is really that good looking! And I’m nervous. I’ve put on weight lately and I don’t feel very good. I’m already convinced he won’t fancy me. And I’ve had a horrible time on online dating lately.

Any words of wisdom?

sounds like he's love bombing you and/or is just trying to get you into bed.

Any updates? How’s it going?

I'm not sure this is fair as a blanket statement but I have to say this is why I take anything they say at the start with a pinch of salt. Need to judge it on actions words are meaningless.

What makes you say that Orangejellybeans ?

ItStartedWithaKiss72 he messages every day and we are meeting tomorrow evening 😊

DS met his girlfriend OLD. When she walked in he thought, I don't stand a chance with her! They've been inseparable ever since.

Great! Sounds like things are going well!

How are things going?

He’s a catfish

There seems to be a large proportion of women on Mumsnet dating "magnificent" and "beautiful" men. Have you locked them in a cellar somewhere as I can't seem to catch any glimpse of them scurrying by?

There are a couple of Hollywood actors I might describe that way (until they turn out to have a rapid-pokey-in-out penis like my last pretty boy, in which case all the attraction is gone come the morning sun).

I'd loooove to have a fanny-flip induced by a glance of a truly handsome face...Alas.. The breathtakingly beautiful men are all hoarded away by the distinctly average but incredibly high-punching self-conscious Mumsnet users.

I feel like I've missed a game of eye-candy musical chairs somewhere! 😂

I suspect it's much more of an even playing field than it seems... Beauty in the eye of the beholder and all that 😉

Don't judge a book by its cover.

The head of the newly formed fascist organisation in Mexico is one of the handsomest men I have ever seen in my life but OMG he is horrible.

aww how exciting OP! I am also dating, first time in years! It’s an ex colleague who I saw again recently and he asked me for a drink! We are going on a second date too next week, really excited as I definitely fancy him and there’s real chemistry there. Feels weird to be dating again!

@Dateshate how's it going?

Some men are genuine and others are looking for another notch on the bedpost. Depending on what you’re looking for it’s anyones guess what camp mr good looking falls into.

Please get some professional help for yourself. Your body anxiety is destroying you and your relationships. Looks are sooo superficial and genuinely unimportant in the long run. We are all born looking how we look and we will die looking probably not great. But hey, what we do have is the choice to make what we can of our lives. We can give our hearts and souls and make a positive difference. We can love and be loved. And really that's all that matters. The rest is just window dressing. I find it incredibly sad that you are so obsessed with superficiality and so hard on yourself for looking the way you do.

Weirdly, I have had incredibly good looking partners since I started dating. Like, I don't know what's wrong with them fancying me - truly! but hey, what matters is how we get along. Please just go with the good vibes this man is putting out and try to push aside the obsessive thoughts about calories.

You covered a lot of ground, talking about the future on your first date

all I'd say is make sure he isn't future-faking to quicken the pace. The best chat up line is the one that goes "I really want to take this slowly and carefully" just to take the pressure off.

Oh yes the old future faker just had that done to me. We were in constant contact he turned out to be flat broke trying to get money and shagging lots of women from dating sites. He seemed very nice too. He was punching well above his weight with me too but I don’t think he’s sees the person. Just a bank balance. Be careful op keep your eyes open for red flags.

I think those ones tend to make it very obvious from the start - fake over the top compliments, shoehorning their dick into every conversation. Want to meet up nearly immediately etc. They come out with utter rubbish, and it annoys me that people fall for it 🤣

Just be yourself if he is genuine he will like you for who you are

I dated a really good looking guy once, was super nervous, thought he was way too good looking for me. He turned out to not be who he said he was, he had lied about his age and his identity which was a huge shame. Now I tend to not date men that are overly good looking. I don’t tend to feel a connection with that type of guy anyway, I prefer a bit rough around the edges 🤣.

How did it go op? Did she come back?

Presumably there are some good looking, single and genuine men in the world? Feel glad luck has fallen in your favour this time and try to enjoy it, whatever it ends up being!

If you're really worried, maybe a small glass of something before you go out (obviously don't get hammered lol).

We need updates!! Love stories like these.. 😊

'Very few men punch below their weight' - this is utter tripe.

I hope things went well. Remember if you are right for each other then there is no need to rush into things, you have time to get to know each other properly, you are not 18 and on a two week holiday!