Ex trying to blackmail me

[ellie09]

Looking for some advice on what to do

My ex came across some pictures of me after he factory reset my old phone (it was previously locked as LO had it to play with). He then took photos of these pictures and kept them on his phone even after I told him to delete them. Some of these are varying levels of kink (nothing illegal or anything like that)

I contacted CSA about lack of payments from him. They obviously contacted him so he rang me and gave me abuse down the phone. He is also trying to buy a house at the moment so wants a divorce.

Basically after calling me every name under the sun, He's threatened me with showing these pictures to my family, to his solicitor, to the social workers (even though it doesn't involve our son) and ruin my life by "ruining my character" if I don't give him half the money for the divorce and drop the CSA case.

What do I do? I was thinking about calling the police to put a stop to it but I have no idea what they can do?

At the same time I don't want to not do anything as he's incredibly abusive and manipulative so I wouldn't put it past him to actually do something.

Any advice would be appreciated

You did the right thing to report it and your were incredibly brave to do so. Well done and I'm glad the police took it seriously and have been good to you.

Men like you're ex are just awful bullies.

Just an update on this case.

The police gathered all texts, phone call records, pictures he illegally obtained and sent to the PPS.

The PPS for some reason decided there wasn't enough evidence to prosecute.

However, there hasn't been a word out of him since, we no longer speak directly to each other and all arrangements are made through my mother, or his mother and this will how it will be staying. On the off chance he does start again (I'm hoping he won't be that stupid), I will be reporting his sorry ass again.

It's good that you have that comfort now - and he knows it.

One step out of place, one threat, you'll be back to the police, and the case will build again. Don't hesitate to do it, and to refer back to previous incidents if you have to report him again.

It's a real shame that he wasn't prosecuted (shocking in fact) however, you still have a positive outcome. He knows he can't bully you or blackmail you.

Good news OP.
Did you continue with the CMS claim?

Delighted for you.

Bullys aren't long scuttering back into their box when they are reported.

Well done, you brave woman.👏👏👏

Oh wow. Thanks for the update. You've been incredibly brave and even though he's not going to be prosecuted at least it's given him the frightners!

This is a great thread to signpost other posters who are getting threats like this. You're amazing and it's good to see the police took it seriously!

Well done.

Yes report to the police. Sure they can have a chat with him and let him know what the consequences are if he goes down that road

Well done OP. You’ve been an absolute champion in speaking to the police and protecting yourself

I hope you continue to work on yourself and move on to have an incredible life without this loser. Have you thought about doing the freedom programme.

If you do not have evidence of him blackmailing you then make sure you start your whatspp thread with him to get the evidence. show that you are scared by his threats. plead with him not to...get the evidence. then go to the police.
They will confiscate his phone and he can't send to anyone else. He will get arrested. Your problems solved.