Dating Thread 235... Gird those loins for November

[OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss]

The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

Eeksteek

be careful he’s not a time waster
you have friends!

its your call but this would frustrate me
how patient can a woman be !?

Definitelycross

when I feel like this , freeze not delete profile

take a break

have some real life fun

I learnt to only do apps when relaxed , maybe with a glass of wine
being a bit frisky helps too !

Yes definitely.

I just had a last look on Bumble and there was a lovely man. But, yes, I'll leave it for now.

Sorry for being miserable I just hate time wasters

@Eeksteek without trying to sound rude, have you noticed if he has had an erection ? If a date turned up in the dress you alluded to, I’d have a boner you could hang a coat on, maybe he has trouble in that dept ?

I think pretty much every ‘Hi I sent was pretty much ignored, the ones that worked were followed up by something about the profile, normally something in the background, That I would deliberately get wrong so it invited a response

@NoDatingForOldMen good one - thank you

I always go in with how flattered I am to match with them, a question about some aspect of their profile (how long have you lived in blah blah) and a bit of info about what I'm up to which of you were interested would spark a convo. For example this week I was in B'ham for an event with a free lunch but involved having to actively avoid people I hadn't seen for ages and ask them if they've got anything fun planned for the weekend (this doesn't work on a Mon-Wed) or ask them if they got up to anything.

I usually copy and paste the same to each but always use their name too.

Ì never reply to anyone who just says anything like 'Hi' or 'Nice tattoo'
I expect engaging good chat from the get go.
Maybe I'm strange but anyway that's how I do it but I'm specifically looking for chatty funny interesting fellas which not everyone is.

That was for @Definitelycross

Yeah maybe my approach needs work - I'll do that. Thank you

So I've taken your advice and re-messaged the ones I'd liked and just said hi to.

It was quite good fun actually so who knows?

Thank you for your help ♥️

Excellent @Definitelycross smashing news.
Stand out from the rest and appear enthusiastic is my principle (until they show themselves to be lacklustre and dull)

I had a lovely all evening fast paced chat with a potential new iron last night. Really enjoyable. Phone chat next. Lots in common and seemed insightful. Possibly not as funny as I'd prefer.
He'll be MrCars if it gets any traction.

Annnnnd I'm very much sitting on my hands not engaging with further textuals with this fella. As much as I love doing texty chit chat about interesting things. It's all about the phone and actual meet. Might amount to nil so that's an improvement from me based on lessons learned previously (recently).

Hmm so I saw date n.o 1 show up on OLD again. Out of curiosity I swiped and it was a match, but then it didnt appear on my matched list so am guessing he unmatched straight away (but he must have liked me first ?) Curiosity killed the cat and all that. Have arranged a second date with 'Mr tall' though.

Honestly, anyone is more patient than me! I do think it’s worth it. I’d just like an indication that’s where it’s going. I had high hopes that those kisses would loose things up a bit. Maybe it’s not to be, but I’m not ready to call it yet.

@NoDatingForOldMen no sign of excitement, although I haven’t looked, specifically. I haven’t worn that dress, yet though. It’s my last resort!

Three. We need an evening. He keeps suggesting afternoons. Nothing in the pipeline - maybe it’s a bust. Shame, he’s so lovely and there was fire in those kisses. I think it’s there. He needs to forget about his kids (and mine) and chill out, but I don’t know if he will. And patience is lot my forte!!

Ugh, men! How come I get the only that doesn’t want any, when I’m up for it for the first time in bloody years!? 😂

@OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss fab tips on first message.
My two irons are moving along nicely (trying to avoid endless textuals) and phonecall with Mr Bruce tonight and a Date 0 with Mr Indie tomorrow.
This is all getting a bit scary now!

How come I get the only that doesn’t want any, when I’m up for it for the first time in bloody years!?

the irony !!!! Ask him for a dick pic 😉
joke !!!

Or send him a seductive picture of what’s in store, make sure it’s WS

🤣you are our best asset @NoDatingForOldMen -a spy from the other side 😁😁😁😁🤣
I found with a diffident man who was gorgeous but shy sky high eels did the trick 😉

heeels -not eels!!!!! Nowt fishy!

@Eeksteek no sign of excitement, although I haven’t looked, specifically.
oh please do, for us 😁

I’m not good at concentrating on people. I have to really focus on conversation. I’ll try and sneak a peak. He’s currently telling me all about his rough day. (I’m so tempted to tell him how I could improve that for him!)

The trouble with all that fancy stuff is it doesn’t look good in daylight. And he wants to do afternoons and pub lunches, from which he dashes of to fetch his kids.
Logistically, it works. Seductively, not so much. I’ll give it a week or two and see how it goes. It certainly won’t hurt me to pace myself. I’m just SO looking forward to more, and it’s frustrating not knowing if it’s a possibility or not. I don’t mind holding off, so long as that’s where we’re headed.

@NoDatingForOldMen I have never sent seductive pictures in my life! I’m really not sure I could do that without collapsing into fits of laughter! I’d feel utterly ridiculous!

He has now revealed he is not free all week. So I’m going to forget about him for a while. I’m out three evenings, so it was always a nightmare schedule. Updates next weekend, if I haven’t got fed up waiting and found a proper sleazy Tinder date!

Oh dear, doesn’t sound too good, but saying that I think it was the 3 or 4 th date before NoShow & myself got busy, ( she almost jumped on me ! ), I think I was being a bit slow and not noticed the clues !