Dating Thread 235... Gird those loins for November

[OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss]

The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

@Mila14 I hope you and Mr Ex can work it out and he can step up to give you all you need. It's clear that you can't move beyond him to find same connection with others on same level.

Crikey I thought it was only my dire XH who announced his nuptials on socials and expected his teens to read as the communication. Given they'd only met his lucky lucky fiancé once when she was paralytic drunk (and hated her). Bless

Thank you lovely 😊…I’m not in 100%. I need a bit of time to see how we do… I wanted him to wait a bit longer but he didn’t want to wait anymore. We will see…but if it all goes sour…I’m much better prepared and I will take my time and go straight to OLD!! In the meantime I’m lurking and working with the mothership 😂😂😂😝

Exactly right. That would spook me totally too. Good dads and good ex husbands are the right people in my book. Just decent human beings. A guy talking shit and nothing good of his ex wife is a red flag too

What a twat Oncey..,good riddance

really athletic guy 6’3”…elegant…his dick was the size of my very tiny middle finger…
blimey 😧

Well the best man ever I have met bar none is 55. He knocks spots off the younger me I dated (when I was younger) He is shy and very insecure about ‘size’ but he is simply the best. Age really is just a number.

I agree Jangolina …MrEx is 55. Best sex ever. The best in my life too.

Maybe I'm in the man desert of limbo land. Men my age just emerging from awful divorce and angry. I think 30 is the new 20 and they really are just after 'cuddles' aka sex. My age range goes up to 50 but don't see many confident, genuine 50 year olds on Tinder.

Flying the flag for the fifty somethings. We've got it going on you know. 😂

Another new iron tonight but Mr L and Mr A are the ones I've really set my sights on and they're just sending small almost 'holding' messages.

Mind you they do both work hard, it is in the week and I can't meet anyone due to Covid anyway so I think I'm being a bit bratty

Oh and got a match on Bumble.

Thanks- old guys rule 😧

ive had a few “size” comments recently as well 😟

Yeah - have to be few years out from divorce or end of LTR,
unfortunately as most men tend on the “receiving “ on divorce, anger kinda comes as standard for a few years

Wow you are smashing it….

@NoDatingForOldMen no I think they're just all a bit bored 😂😂

I'll believe it when I'm sat having coffee 🤞

What do you mean you've had size comments? Not from your current partner?

Oh I'm getting all protective on your behalf. That's not on.

@Definitelycross
yes, from current partner, but it’s the opposite of what you think.

there are some positions we have to be careful as apparently I can, err, “reach a long way” ….so she says

Oooooooh I seeeeeee yes right ah yes.

Well you should be quite pleased there 😁

morning all. Oh @Mila14 am in same situation, the sex with MrEx is in incredible for you, same here! Just the best ever and I can't give it up, am a slave to him in the bedroom. Meanwhile, I met a new guy very local who is all the right things, can I have two atst please? Hmmm

...lovely to catch up with you all, mothership checkins less frequent, as my job is now insanely busy, hence here I am at 630am catching up before 730 start!

You've now got me thinking what was best sex and how did it get classified as such....
My XH back in the very early days when we first met and suspect a lot of that was due to us both being clubbers (ie. drugs were involved) but he was perfectly standard in the size dept.
Since then I've 'enjoyed' the full spectrum of lazy to selfish, tiny chipolata -sized to fully ripe courgette.

Best by far was my one off night of wanton no strings attached bonking with recent but now gone iron MrCurly. He was considerate but in charge, flipped me around a lot, made me laugh, sublime kissing.

Thanks MrCurly for the lesson in what great sex looks like even if it was a one off. Has set a high bar for others to leap over now which might turn out to be a bad thing but I don't think so.

Well, @OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss , @Mila14 and @ChaliceinWonderland … you have made me think!!

I have 2 irons who I have been on dates with. Both really nice guys. We have a lot in common but, there is no spark whatsoever with either of them. I was thinking that perhaps that is enough…

Not anymore!!! 🤣🤣

Im having the best sex aged 49
maybe it’s self Confidence ? Don’t know

but I’ve never had that ‘ripping clothes’ off experience before (or if I did I can’t remember !) so yes . Hence me and Balkan sticking it out despite never ending drama 🎭
as I think he’s fairly appreciative of that also

NoDatingForOldMen

as ever 9am is too early in the day for Willy chat!

but there was the scene in ‘just like that ‘ (new sex and the city series basically ) and we get a glimpse of charlottes husbands Willy

it was so LONG ! I was like ‘my eyes’

(which I’m totally loving , like seeing my old friends after a 20 year break !)

Deffy…you are on fire! Don’t worry about little messages here or there but keep your sights on your top irons. How does the bumble one compare to MrL and MrA?

why can you keep both until you make up your mind? Do you have feelings too for your MrEx? See…the issue with me is that I love him…so in the end I’m dropping all irons and going “steady” again with him. Don’t rush into anything. You don’t have to Chalice. Lovely hearing from you 😊

Do not settle Molly…hot sexy times are ahead of you and it is important you give yourself time to pick

Worsy…Balkan and you are compatible sexually…no ifs and no buts. Just enjoy it. God knows you have enough responsibility being 100% mum to teenagers ( bar holidays here and there) and working hard. Pleasure is welcome 🙏

ChaliceinWonderland

well busy or not you’ve found another FWB !
so 62 year old and a new one ?

keep both if this is all open and ok no ?