Dating Thread 235... Gird those loins for November

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The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

Same kinda issue here, no show is about 5”4 & I’m 6”, so I get the look down the top thing ( she is quite well blessed, so silver lining etc), but I end stooping quite a lot, but she puts her hand on my bum when we are walking, which she seems to like

Yep, he texts all the time. No compliments at all though. BUT it’s nice chat. He remembers things I’ve said, and what I’m doing from day to day, and makes an effort on cheer me on. He cares about my time, and what I actually do with it, and asks for my opinion. Which seems huge to me. Our only regular coinciding free night is Friday, though. He’s making an unusual effort, I just don’t think he’s flirty. He really can’t be bothering if he just wants chit chat. (No man does that, do they?!) I’m very flirty, usually, but when you aren’t sure he’s into it, to it feels sleazy. I think he’s a real slow burner. But so long as he kisses me like that, I’ll hold on. I really enjoy his company, I’ll wait him out! I reckon it will be worth it.

He needs to pull his finger out ( or pull something else out 😂 ) …

Would he not even say something I like that ^^ ?

Eeky…he’s absolutely fine. He’s into you and your life and what you do. That’s what matters. Bring on Friday !!,

Definitely NO comments like that. I think he’s just cautious and old fashioned. I like it, but it makes me question my sex appeal (which has never let me down before! I’ve even mentioned my nurses uniform, without a sniff of interest)

I just keep reminding myself he’s attentive and caring, that no man is on tinder looking for a bestie, and men simply don’t behave (or, frankly, kiss) like that if they aren’t up for it, eventually. It’s just buried so deep I have to keep actively remembering I’m not out with my cousin or something. I think we’ll get there. But don’t hold your breath! (My actual bestie suggested a dirty weekend ‘after Christmas’ and I threw a cushion at her and said I’m not hanging around for that. But she’s probably right. She nearly always is.

(I have hope. I’ve got condoms and lube in my Amazon basket. I just won’t order them yet in case they bloody go out of date while I’m waiting! I’m paranoid that stupid Alexa is going to announce to my child that there is ‘an offer on an item in my basket’🤣🤣🤣)

It's not fair!!!!!

You short girls getting tall men 😞😞😞

I'm 5'8" and a bit. All the men in my area seem to be under that.

I may be shallow but I'm not wanting to go out with someone shorter than me. I want a six foot plus.

One of my best boyfriends before I got married was 6'5" - it was lovely.

So I'm asking you nicely. Throw some tall men my way please.

Ohmygod

My Amazon Prime is shared with my 3 sons and whatever fries they want. I would literally die if I thought they'd see that in my basket.

Oh and @Eeksteek Mr 2pugs always makes me think of the really nice guy on Motherhood

@Definitelycross, you sexy minx…all the guys I’ve dated so far have been over 6’1”… last one Mr F was 6’5”. Im 5’3” 😂😂😂. Mr Ex is 6’3” and he loves petite. It’s a thing…many really tall guys like tiny women. I wanted to be taller like you when younger…I think we just like ourselves better as we age and we definitely feel sexier over 40…Many shorter men love tall women though and would not date us midgets…

😂😂
I always wanted to be petite.

I think, without being too outing, that there is a severe lack of tall men.

Ex husband was 6'. All my sons are well over 6' too.

But I'm still stamping my foot

You are gorgeous and model height @Definitelycross …you will find fine tall specimen, not to worry

@Eeksteek feeling that Mr medic wasn't listening/remembering anything relating to my life was one of my bugbears so that's a definite plus for your iron.

As for height I'm 5' 9" so it's rare I find a man much taller than me. Mr city is 6'5" which was lovely and he commented that he liked my height because he didn't have to stoop 😁

Interesting about height. I am seeing some who is tall and I do really like it. Stbxh and previous boyfriends were average -I am 5/6 and love that I can either wear heels and he is still stalker or no heels and I am tiny in comparison. Interestingly he is really insecure about penis size…

taller not stalker!

Slothy…you super model minx too….sigh
I think you knew Mr Medic was not right and he was not right in the sack in the either so you need another sexy tall man

Eeksteek

get those condoms and lube

they won’t go out of date for years 😂
mr medic doesn’t avail himself
I’m sure someone else will x

Jangolina…penis size insecurity…don’t get me started ….

@Mila14 I wish I had a supermodel frame to go with the height but alas I'm a lot curvier 😄

Yeah I think I always had reservations about Mr medic so have had no second thoughts about ending things. Hoping the new year brings me someone I'm excited about

Mumtolittleorange

define ‘meaningful relationship’

ive met people , had good connections
even had sex

but it’s nothing I’ve had would fit into the model of relationships I had in the past

one thing that helped me was I made my profile very honest and shared a bit

so maybe less hits
but kind of better ones and better chats

Same

I’m 5 foot exactly and always feel self conscious when I’m with really tall men, like I look silly.

Ex was 6’3 and MrMech is 6’5. He used to play rugby too so I worry that we look ridiculous but god do I love a big man 😳

you taller ladies should flaunt it! My friend is 5’10 in bare feet and there are men who really love how elegant she looks. I look very frumpy next to her 🤣

It is such a plus. He’s SOOO lovely. Definitely worth waiting him out. Bit odd about lack of flirtiness, but way better than all hands and no manners. He reminds me massively of a friends hubby, who is easily the nicest man I know (and according to the friend, absolutely awesome I’m bed!) I’m
hoping all the respect, consideration, care, kindness and dedication are transferable skills!

I always feel I look ridiculous with tall men. Late hubs was 5 8, which was ok. I actively look for height info and decline over six foot unless there’s a very good reason not to. You taller ladies are welcome to them! I have to actually ask, because it’s not really possible to tell from down here.

@SortingItOut Thank you for your comment.

Yeah I know some things are not healthy. I think my STBXH took me for granted for so long that I'm now craving the attention I didn't get. STBXH is a very nice man but has realised his less than great personality trait (lots of therapy) and he'll be excellent. For someone else. On paper we "had it all" but I couldn't continue like that. I've managed to turn most things around and people say I'm "glowing". So that's why dating seems right.

I've got quite low self-esteem but I've really worked on that. It's much better than it was.

Anyway, letting some irons go but Mr Skiier is still in the game. He's coming to my town for work tomorrow and in theory, we're meeting for a first date. I'm crapping myself. I can't actually believe that someone like Mr Skiier would be interested in me so I'm trying to not have too high hopes of meeting... Saying that, I'm currently deciding the outfit for tomorrow that'll work for the office but also be flirty and seductive for later in I'm lucky 😊

On a general note - I really enjoy following this thread and learn from all experienced daters and also the man perspective at times.

I have hope. I’ve got condoms and lube in my Amazon basket. I just won’t order them yet in case they bloody go out of date while I’m waiting!

get them ordered and in your wash bag ( that’s where I keep mine),

penis size insecurity.

Welcome to being a man, lesson 101

Almost Everyman will be insecure about penis size, or endurance, or performance or bedroom skills in comparison to the previous person, that’s just part & parcel of having a penis, the insecurities are free

Im insecure about mine every day despite being told it’s perfectly okay