Dating Thread 235... Gird those loins for November

[OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss]

The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

For some reason I find that 'Have you got time to date?' question really irritating. It's been asked of me a couple of times over the years. I do have a busy life but am a grown up who can self-assess how much time I dedicate to dating so the very fact I'm on a dating app means I have weighed it up and decided that my schedule does allow enough for dating.

Exactly right. I also find the question annoying. Enjoy yourself. I’m sure you will look stunning whatever you wear

Yes! I thought I was being over sensitive but it came across really patronising. It was more the way he said it, do you really think you have time for dating i.e Me?

I told him that my spare time is precious and therefore I’m very picky who I spend it with 😂

Bravo @PillowMist that's a superb response. I'll remember that one for me if I ever need it!

Happy weekend, daters!

@OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss I hate the time question too and find it a sign that someone will expect me to be at their beck and call, which with 24/7 residence of two kids, two jobs, studying for a masters and three cats, I can’t be and won’t be.

I messaged the Tinder person in my real life this morning. Suppose I should give him a name now 🤣

Hello all,
looks like everyone is trucking along well with dates and meetings etc
so I have a question

NoShow & myself have a city break weekend away ( I’m driving), not sure what err “pants” to wear, I mean women have a billion choices of sexy underwear, to make themselves feel good and I have a choice of commando ( no thanks), silk ( bit too Hugh Heffiner ), regular boxers & jersey trunks and that about it, so probably going for New Jersey trunks ( not sure how long I will be wearing them ),

I feel like there is gap in the market “ sexy under crackers for old men “
other opinions welcome, what do you like to see you various fellows robed in ?

I’d say you can’t go wrong with jersey trunks. Tighter fitting than regular boxers and as long as they aren’t saggy or have SpongeBob’s face on them then they’re a winner 😆

Definitely jersey boxers.

My pet hate is cotton boxers - nooooo

Hi, new here but have been reading the thread for a couple of weeks and studying (and abiding by!) the rules 😁

I'm 51 and just very recently finally called an end to a sexless marriage (his choice!). We've got separate bedrooms now but not taking any further practical steps yet, and I want to get out and meet some new people casually, not looking for an exclusive relationship. Basically I'm a wannabe Carol Vorderman!

So I've been on the dating apps for a while and have a few irons in the fire. Met Mr Dentist on Monday after lots of very intense conversation, and we're meeting again tonight. Have been sexting a lot with Mr Mystery, know basically nothing about him, and when I said I'd be vaguely near where he very roughly said he lives, he said he didn't know what he was doing and didn't speak to me for two days - I think he's probably not single. Am planning to meet Mr Buddhist on Tuesday for a drink, he's younger and in an open relationship. And had a nice chat with Mr Lorry last night and that seems like it could turn into a meet up as well.

What’s the Carol Vorderman thing, ? Is she open to approach’s from old men ?
( I bet she goes younger, but I probably am younger TBH )

She has a few special friends! She said she generally goes for similar ages as she finds they have more in common.

@NoDatingForOldMen she recently went public in that she has a small number of “special friends” who all know about each other, and that at age 62 she’s not looking to cohabit or marry again and has been very happily having consensually non-monogamous relationships for 10 years.

(So there might be room in her coterie for a young un like yourself, you never know!)

Mmm… older women.. sounds great.. , now where is my phone, maybe she is free for a date… you never know

Hahaha, having just said that Mr Lorry might be a possible meet up after the literal last thing he said was that he would like to do that, he's just this second unmatched us and left the chat 😂ok mate!

NoDatingForOldMen

shes a cougar for you mate 😂
yes I also enjoyed reading about carols many lovers

go carol

OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss

good luck with lodger man date 🤩
ive got my fingers crossed for this one

I’ll leave the SpongeBob ones behind then, along with the SuperMan PJ’s

Mmm Cougar,,, love it

I've had the best evening ever. Purely as friends but I haven't enjoyed myself so much in a very, very long time.

Wow @WithTheirDogAfterTheWar you are living your best life now aren't you! Fantastic

@Definitelycross you had a brill time with the one who's not up for romance? Did you get to the bottom of why?

Sounds like a great evening! Is the no romance from you or him?

I had to ferry a teen to a far flung city for a concert last night didn't get home until 2am and now have pilates, covid Jan then train to meet MrCars.

I look like death warmed up and have bloodshot eyes too... ooops.

Definitelycross

aw nice you had a good time
shame no romance

will you see this dear platonic friend again !?

OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss

oof you might need a siesta later

Ok reason for no romance are totally understandable. I don't want to go on to it here as it's his business.

But I definitely hope to see him again and he said so too. We talked constantly and laughed loads too.

I have zero expectations of a romantic relationship though. Which in a way is sad but in another way I am beginning to think that's the way my life will go 🤷‍♀️