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Original poster

Am having text sex with my eh dh

144 replies

TeenyfraeTroone · 28/01/2008 21:23

OMG this is so thrilling, and so wrong.
I have 7yr old dd with ex dh. 3 and 2 yr old ds's with presenet partner. Split with ex dh when dd was just 2. He is with new dp and her 4 kids.
He has started textin askin for horny pics and basically sex. It's been goin on for a few weeks, and I've got to say, it came to a head tonight and we exchanged some pics via text.
I AM happy with my dp(who incidentally works overseas and is only home at weekends)
We have a fantastic sex life, but I am so enjoying this attention.
Am I awful. My dp is a shit communicator, a fab dad and a good provider.
You are probably all going to say that I am an evil bitch who wants to have her cake etc, etc.
Help get my head round this.

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Dior · 28/01/2008 21:24

Message withdrawn

emkana · 28/01/2008 21:24

Oh my God

you cannot be serious

NAB3wishesfor2008 · 28/01/2008 21:25

You aren't awful but what you are doing is.

He is your ex for a reason and it isn't fair on your DP.

Stop this now.

comfytoast · 28/01/2008 21:25

You dirty biatch

Shitemum · 28/01/2008 21:25

get a fecking grip woman

harleyd · 28/01/2008 21:25

wow
prepare to be tore to shreds on here

warthog · 28/01/2008 21:25

can't take this seriously

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TeenyfraeTroone · 28/01/2008 21:27

fine. ok. thanks

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MinkVelvet · 28/01/2008 21:28

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

ChorusLine · 28/01/2008 21:29

I remember a thread from you before about splitting from your dp (your name stuck in my head for some reason) is it because you are bored with your DP???

take it you didn't leave him then?

ZippiBabes · 28/01/2008 21:29

why are you wasting time on here then?

controlfreakygobshite · 28/01/2008 21:30

HAHAHAHAHA!

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TeenyfraeTroone · 28/01/2008 21:32

yeah. we seem to have worked it out, me and dp, however, along comes ex dh with all this guff, and i fall for it. dp away all week and am flattered if i'm honest. giving me loads of compliments. feel like a teenager again

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Irisheyes78 · 28/01/2008 21:33

hAVE SOME RESPECT FOR YOUR DP WHO DOSN'T DESERVE THIS AND TURN YOUR PHONE OFF.

Hecate · 28/01/2008 21:33

Well, how would you feel if you looked at your current partner's phone and found similar stuff was going on with him and his ex?

Just take a minute to picture that.

You have basically described your current partner as someone who you can't talk to, but who plays with the kids and gives you money. Is that how you feel?

Why are you with your current partner and not your ex? was your relationship brilliant but you were forced apart? I'm sure you broke up for a reason. Have your personalities changed since then? Do you stand a chance? Do you want a chance, or are you just bored? So many things for you to think about.

But what you are doing is unfair and disrespectful to your respective partners. And don't fool yourself that it's harmless. These things ALWAYS get found out. Take a moment to consider how that would play out. the pain it would cause....

There has to be a better way.

Why not start some text sex with your current partner....

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TeenyfraeTroone · 28/01/2008 21:36

oh we do have text sex hecate. he knows about ex dh's texts. has seen them. we have talked about it. he just hasn't seen my responses - well not all of them

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Lulumama · 28/01/2008 21:39

how very juvenile

switch your phone off and get a grip

you are an adult

there are children here, whose lives could be ripped apart by this behaviour

they are your priority, not getting your rocks off with your EX

QuintessentialShadow · 28/01/2008 21:40

Lets just hope that your ex dh does not decide to forward your replies to your current dh then...
Would you guys be up for a text sex threesome?

Hecate · 28/01/2008 21:40

Why don't you show him?

And if you can't, then you shouldn't be doing it.

But you know that, pet, don't you?

My worry would be that your ex now has leverage over you. He can threaten to show your partner what you've texted him. What if he demands that you do X, Y, Z or he will show your partner what you've done?

I do think you've made a mistake, tbh.

Pan · 28/01/2008 21:41

Dadsnet - "Eh lads cop a load of this..getting me rocks off with that old minger who I was chained to....current missus is away so Ithought 'while the cats away' know what I mean? She's alright, good on the bj, does the washing, but it's great having the old bint show her tits to me again..best of both worlds..and no-one gets hurt, eh? least of all the kids....except if.......oh well, fair do's. I'm a real lad though ain't I?"

please.

tissy · 28/01/2008 21:42

I would not expect that sort of behaviour from someone from Troon.

You'll have to move.

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TeenyfraeTroone · 28/01/2008 21:42

i culd also text his dp tho. he begs me to delete his texts. I have not texted anything remotely defammatory, he has

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QuintessentialShadow · 28/01/2008 21:43

Yes you could. Then you would not just be silly, but a bitch too.

Hecate · 28/01/2008 21:44

You just said you sent him horny pics of yourself!!!!

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TeenyfraeTroone · 28/01/2008 21:44

god, well i not that. she welcome to him

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