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Am having text sex with my eh dh

144 replies

TeenyfraeTroone · 28/01/2008 21:23

OMG this is so thrilling, and so wrong.
I have 7yr old dd with ex dh. 3 and 2 yr old ds's with presenet partner. Split with ex dh when dd was just 2. He is with new dp and her 4 kids.
He has started textin askin for horny pics and basically sex. It's been goin on for a few weeks, and I've got to say, it came to a head tonight and we exchanged some pics via text.
I AM happy with my dp(who incidentally works overseas and is only home at weekends)
We have a fantastic sex life, but I am so enjoying this attention.
Am I awful. My dp is a shit communicator, a fab dad and a good provider.
You are probably all going to say that I am an evil bitch who wants to have her cake etc, etc.
Help get my head round this.

OP posts:
SenoraParsnip · 28/01/2008 21:44

I don't believe you. either you're lying about the text sex and the reasons for it, or you're lying about the children (because you couldn't possibly have had your daughter when you were 7).

if you're not lying, get a grip, you stupid woman.

Lulumama · 28/01/2008 21:44

why would you involve his partner? what a nasty thought

you are trying to retain the moral high ground, but you are as culpable as your ex.

saying at least i have not told his partner does not make you any better

what are you getting out of this? cheap thrill? it will be fun until his partner finds out and comes round and lamps you, or your DP is sick of being treated as second best to your ex and leaves you

wannaBe · 28/01/2008 21:44

this isn't for real is it?

your xh is texting you sexual pictures and your current dp knows about it and hasn't kicked off about it?

pull the other one!

PurpleOne · 28/01/2008 21:45

Change your mobby number and get with the real world!

Text sex with an ex, especially when you have a dp....is just so wrong.
Whether he's overseas or not, he doesn't deserve this behaviour. I'm sure if you found stuff like that on his mobby, his world would cave right in...not to mention the kiddies.

He's an ex for a reason, KEEP IT THAY WAY

moljam · 28/01/2008 21:45

.why are you doing it?
dont you feel tiny bit bad for your dp and his dp?

Lulumama · 28/01/2008 21:46

why post this thread?

either trolling or genuinely expects a load of people to say, good on you, get your kicks, and you're not a silly bitch?

wannaBe · 28/01/2008 21:47

if my ex was sending me horny messages my dh would want to know why I hadn't told him to f*ck off. And if he didn't stop I think my dh might do it for me.

Original poster
TeenyfraeTroone · 28/01/2008 21:50

am genuine.
well me and dp had a bit of a laff about it this weekend. think it turned him on a bit that his girl was being pursued by another guy.
won't 'do' anything, but it makes me feel kinda empowered. no, i did not send him any pics. he did. i only sent pics of our dd

OP posts:
ZippiBabes · 28/01/2008 21:51

well you are a bit of a weird one

moljam · 28/01/2008 21:52

By TeenyfraeTroone on Mon 28-Jan-08 21:23:47
it came to a head tonight and we exchanged some pics via text.

you didnt send pics?make your mind up!

PurpleOne · 28/01/2008 21:52

'a bit of a laff'?????

I'd be kicked to the curb, make no mistake about that.

Empowered? That's just plain daft!

QuintessentialShadow · 28/01/2008 21:53

Empowered?
What perception do you honestly think you ex has of you if he does this? If he launches a text sex campaign on a married woman with children, thinking it will be reciprocated?

I would feel ashamed if an ed did that. I would think he thought me a common slut!

wannaBe · 28/01/2008 21:53

"it came to a head tonight and we exchanged
some pics via text.". so what, he sent you a pic of his dick and you sent him a pic of your child.

sorry but that's sick.

QuintessentialShadow · 28/01/2008 21:53

EX not ed.

noddyholder · 28/01/2008 21:53

why are you telling us?

Lulumama · 28/01/2008 21:54

so, he is ok with text sex? this will blow up in your face

i doubt his partner is happy with it.. as i said, what happens when this all comes apart ?

if your relationship is so great, why do you need the input from your ex

what would you say if a friend was doing this? tell her to go for it

ZippiBabes · 28/01/2008 21:54

because her guys have run out of credit and shes bored lol

moljam · 28/01/2008 21:56

dare i say this thread is making you sound 'cheap'!sorry!

Desiderata · 28/01/2008 21:56

Oh, dear. This is hardly hardly Wuthering Heights, is it. More like Withering Tights. Nobody's being empowered here, love. Just diminished.

Mobi-dick, anyone?

noddyholder · 28/01/2008 21:59

withering tights

ZippiBabes · 28/01/2008 21:59

i dont think there is anything wrong with texting filthy stuff..but you might be a bit more selective about it

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TeenyfraeTroone · 28/01/2008 21:59

no he did not send pics of his dick. omg i would throw up. i do not do dicks. i have been abused by this man for years and only feel empowered because he wants pics of me, and only gets pics of our dd

OP posts:
Lulumama · 28/01/2008 21:59

well, i cannot top withering tights !!

ZippiBabes · 28/01/2008 22:01

text sex with a man who abused you is a bad idea babe

dont exchange texts with him at all..I am amazed you are enjoying it

are you drunk

Lulumama · 28/01/2008 22:01

you are kidding yourself if you think that this is empowering

quite the reverse

he still holds the power as you are enjoying the attention and doing what he wants, you said in your OP you are having text sex... or aren't you? or sending pics? or aren't you? i don;t think you know what the hell you are doing

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