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Am having text sex with my eh dh

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TeenyfraeTroone · 28/01/2008 21:23

OMG this is so thrilling, and so wrong.
I have 7yr old dd with ex dh. 3 and 2 yr old ds's with presenet partner. Split with ex dh when dd was just 2. He is with new dp and her 4 kids.
He has started textin askin for horny pics and basically sex. It's been goin on for a few weeks, and I've got to say, it came to a head tonight and we exchanged some pics via text.
I AM happy with my dp(who incidentally works overseas and is only home at weekends)
We have a fantastic sex life, but I am so enjoying this attention.
Am I awful. My dp is a shit communicator, a fab dad and a good provider.
You are probably all going to say that I am an evil bitch who wants to have her cake etc, etc.
Help get my head round this.

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controlfreakygobshite · 28/01/2008 22:56

dont forget hard hat!

expatinscotland · 28/01/2008 22:59

hey, we were having a healthy discussion here!

Original poster

TeenyfraeTroone · 28/01/2008 23:12

i have not left. i am just observing from a distance1

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ZippiBabes · 28/01/2008 23:13

ive just been writing about safe distances lol

controlfreakygobshite · 28/01/2008 23:14

you'd do better to observe your twunt of an ex from a distance..... if he was abusive what on earth are you doing woman???

unless of course you're just v bored..... and having us on....

TigerPants · 28/01/2008 23:16

OP, you are very silly.

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TeenyfraeTroone · 28/01/2008 23:19

i spend all week alone, and yes i am very bored.
my ex was abusive and it was shit, but 5 years ghave passed and i feel like i am in control now. would love to see him flat on his face

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expatinscotland · 28/01/2008 23:20

and you're willing to risk your entire family to see this twat fall on his face?

you can't be serious!

and if you are, that's pitiful.

TigerPants · 28/01/2008 23:20

Ask him to send another photo of him in that position?

dittany · 28/01/2008 23:20

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TeenyfraeTroone · 28/01/2008 23:27

he is the father of my dd. he may have been abusive, but at the end of the day he loves her and just wants a piece of me.
YOU don't know how abusive he was.
Don't get carried away with you judgements

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expatinscotland · 28/01/2008 23:29

K, then, Teeny.

Keep sending him explicit photos of yourself whenever he asks.

I'm sure his partner and yours will be so happy when they eventually find out.

I'm sure they won't 'judge' you at all for that type of behaviour.

dittany · 28/01/2008 23:31

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controlfreakygobshite · 28/01/2008 23:32

ohhh, just a "bit" abusive is ok?

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TeenyfraeTroone · 28/01/2008 23:35

i have not, and do not intend to send AnY explicit pics of myself to him!

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theUrbanDryad · 28/01/2008 23:37

Teeny, if you didn't want judgements you shouldna posted on MN.

really. go to bed.

dittany · 28/01/2008 23:38

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TeenyfraeTroone · 28/01/2008 23:41

he will move on to the next person.
i am just likin eggin him on i think
ok. have gone to bed

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PurpleOne · 28/01/2008 23:53

so you usually risk your dp and kids just to egg someone on? Me thinks thats totally ridiculous!

When your dp has left you, and ex abusive eedjit is still texting pics of his nether regions, then maybe you will wake up?

One rule of thumb, do not egg on an abuser. Beleive me, I've been there and the more you do it, the more they UP THE ANTE...Yes?
Will he be so frustrated, he will be knocking on your door with a baseball bat?

Think about what your doing!

lou33 · 29/01/2008 00:03

the one thing in the world guaranteed to turn me off , is the thought of any kind of sex talk with my exh

i feel nauseous at the very thought, and a strange desire to scrub myself with brillo pads in the shower

Oenophile · 29/01/2008 09:13

It's one thing actually doing what you're doing, which I think is quite barking, but what are your motives for posting about it on here? It sounds awfully like a brag -'look at me, what a thrilling dare-devil risk-taker I am' rather than a cry for help, but giving you the benefit of the doubt and going with 'help me get my head round this' then listen to those telling you you are playing a very dangerous game and it WILL rebound on you. Is it worth it, just because you're 'loving the attention'?

We all love attention and thrills but there are seven children in the picture here, all of whom risk being disastrously caught in the backlash of your fun little game when this comes out, and the grown-up thing to do, the thing which will make you proud of yourself in later years, is to choose to step away, NOW.

Sad thing about the modern age and mobile phones always to hand is that this sort of thing is so easy to do. Don't be duped into believing these phone-aided thrills are detached and risk-free, because they aren't.

OrmIrian · 29/01/2008 09:21

Sorry to interrupt the flow but 'text sex'?

I must be older than I thought but I don't think it would work for me. It takes me half and hour to text a sentence I find txt spk soooooo irritating it would put me right off.

Obviously this contributes nothing to the moral debate but thought it was worth saying.

harleyd · 29/01/2008 09:24

lol ormirian

QuintessentialShadow · 29/01/2008 09:49

Ormirian. Now you know what the texting masses do on the bus, in the doctors office, at the hairdressers, clenghing their legs and sneaking a look behind them to see if people are reading from behind...

Desiderata · 29/01/2008 09:50

I know what you mean, Orm. And I would have to punctuate, which would really lose the mood

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