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Original poster

Am having text sex with my eh dh

144 replies

TeenyfraeTroone · 28/01/2008 21:23

OMG this is so thrilling, and so wrong.
I have 7yr old dd with ex dh. 3 and 2 yr old ds's with presenet partner. Split with ex dh when dd was just 2. He is with new dp and her 4 kids.
He has started textin askin for horny pics and basically sex. It's been goin on for a few weeks, and I've got to say, it came to a head tonight and we exchanged some pics via text.
I AM happy with my dp(who incidentally works overseas and is only home at weekends)
We have a fantastic sex life, but I am so enjoying this attention.
Am I awful. My dp is a shit communicator, a fab dad and a good provider.
You are probably all going to say that I am an evil bitch who wants to have her cake etc, etc.
Help get my head round this.

OP posts:
QuintessentialShadow · 28/01/2008 22:02

You feel empowered because he wants to have pics of your tits? Maybe he wants to sell them? Put them online somewhere?

This is not something he does out of respect for you, not at all. If he abused you before, dont you think this is a continuation?

Just change your number.

Original poster
TeenyfraeTroone · 28/01/2008 22:03

i honestly feel as tho i am on top of the situation here

OP posts:
ZippiBabes · 28/01/2008 22:04

well you aren't...just change your number

Lulumama · 28/01/2008 22:06

you are not

why do you need to have a situation to be on top of?

he is your ex

bin him off

that is more powerful than playing stupid games where people could get hurt

like his dp, your children, yourslef

BreeVanDerCampLGJ · 28/01/2008 22:09

What an ego rush for him, he is gettting text sex from you and he doesn't even have to pay for dinner.

You are one cheap date.

wannaBe · 28/01/2008 22:09

"I am so enjoying this attention.".

doesn't sound like a power trip to me - sounds like you are actually flattered by it.

actually sounds like a load of bolocks to me so trip...trap...

Original poster
TeenyfraeTroone · 28/01/2008 22:18

what does this trip trap thing mean

OP posts:
moljam · 28/01/2008 22:18

that your talking aload of crap.

Original poster
TeenyfraeTroone · 28/01/2008 22:19

perhaps i should have said that my ex dh is text sexing me and not me him.
i feel empowered cos he is beggin and gettin nothin. he asks for pictures and i pretend i think its of our dd

OP posts:
Lulumama · 28/01/2008 22:21

you are talking crap

you had started a charming thread about the state of your DPs pants

then you were leaving him

now you are back with him, but having text sex, the description of which has changed in the course of this thread, with your ex

i don't believe a word you say

mrsruffallo · 28/01/2008 22:22

How roamntic ...and thrilling

Lulumama · 28/01/2008 22:24

what you ahve said:

He has started textin askin for horny pics and basically sex. It's been goin on for a few weeks, and I've got to say, it came to a head tonight and we exchanged some pics via text.

however, along comes ex dh with all this guff, and i fall for it. dp away all week and am flattered if i'm honest. giving me loads of compliments. feel like a teenager again

no he did not send pics of his dick. omg i would throw up. i do not do dicks. i have been abused by this man for years and only feel empowered because he wants pics of me, and only gets pics of our DD

oh we do have text sex hecate.

troll

moljam · 28/01/2008 22:27

a very odd troll though lulu.

dittany · 28/01/2008 22:27

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

controlfreakygobshite · 28/01/2008 22:29

like i said......

HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!

Original poster
TeenyfraeTroone · 28/01/2008 22:31

He has started textin askin for horny pics and basically sex. It's been goin on for a few weeks, and I've got to say, it came to a head tonight and we exchanged some pics via text.

Yes. and what. he has been textin for weeks - got nothin and tonight i texted him pics of dd. so??

however, along comes ex dh with all this guff, and i fall for it. dp away all week and am flattered if i'm honest. giving me loads of compliments. feel like a teenager again

so?? My dp is a crap communicator. my ex dh is not and always could get a rise out of me. He does make me feel like a teenager again.

no he did not send pics of his dick. omg i would throw up. i do not do dicks. i have been abused by this man for years and only feel empowered because he wants pics of me, and only gets pics of our DD

ok, it would perhaps appear that i am up for a bit of somethin not right, and maybe i am. i don't know.
me and dp have had some big talks over last few weeks and sorted a lot of stuff out

oh we do have text sex hecate.

that is me and dp, not ex-dh, til now(him)

OP posts:
Quattrocento · 28/01/2008 22:32

OOH A NUTBOX

HOW INTERESTING

DO POST SOME MORE, MY LIFE VERY ORDINARY, JUST WORK WORK WORK. I DO SO LIKE NUTBOXES.

(SORRY CAPS STUCK - NOT SHOUTING)

THE IDEA WHEN WRITING FICTION BTW IS TO DEVELOP THE CHARACTERS A BIT BEFORE GETTING ENTANGLED, BUT YOU ARE MAKING A PROMISING START.

ZippiBabes · 28/01/2008 22:33

but you said you were enjoying it..mog this is so thrilling

anywya regardless

its a bad idea change your number

Lulumama · 28/01/2008 22:34

well, you say in your title you are having text sex and sending pics

then you change it to say you are sending pics of your DD

and he is doing the chasing

if you cannot see there is anyhting wrong with getting into this with your ABUSIVE ex, then you are beyond reasonable help

moljam · 28/01/2008 22:35

i need to go bed but this is thrilling.

really it is.

Original poster
TeenyfraeTroone · 28/01/2008 22:35

am not trying to make up a story. this is my real life.

was just trying to grt to grips with it.

OP posts:
nutcracker · 28/01/2008 22:35

I read this as 'having tent sex with my dh'.

I think I need sleep.

Anyhow, OP it is wrong, you know it's wrong, so stop.

Desiderata · 28/01/2008 22:36

Well get to grips with it somewhere else, love.

Original poster
TeenyfraeTroone · 28/01/2008 22:36

walk a mile in my shoes hey, before you judge

OP posts:
Lulumama · 28/01/2008 22:36

well, the general consensus is to stop any contact with this man. so mabye would be wise to take that advice