Leaving DP in secret but so worried

[Runningaway21]

I have NC for this for obvious reasons and am planning to leave my abusive DP.

He has no idea yet, thinks that I will still be here taking his abuse just like I have for the last 15 years. But I have finally decided to leave. I don’t know where I am finding the strength from to be honest because I have always been too petrified to leave. How stupid does that sound, too petrified to leave and now I am too petrified to stay.

I have found somewhere to live and get the keys next month. My plan is to leave while he is at work without telling him, he has no idea. I have got most things sorted but I am really worried about my car etc. I need to change my license address, V5 and insurance. I remember some years ago when I changed the address on my license that they sent me confirmation to my existing address, not new address. I am so worried that if I send off my documents to change the address one of them might write to me at this address and he will see my forwarding address. He opens all my mail. Has anybody done this recently that can let me know what happened? I can’t risk him ever knowing my new address, it would be pointless me moving if he ever knows it.

i have no memory of redirecting mail and can only assume I changed all the car stuff after I was out. I’m sure WA will be able to advise. Or call your insurance company and ask them?
Good luck, it’s nerve wracking but sooo good once you’re free.

Any update OP, hope you are well.

If you remain worried about your car, you can always buy a cheap random 'cherished' number plate - about £140 incl transfer fees.

What a great idea!

I am sure you can request not to get that confirmation

Sending strength and energy for your next step. You're incredible.

Maybe it's already been said, but change the password to your email account as soon as you leave.

Hope you got safely away x

Have been hoping that you have got away safely and with everything you need and that he can never find you - huge prayers and hugs x

Have been following this thread but for those asking, the OP said she gets her keys "next month" so I'm assuming she doesn't intend leaving until November?
Hope you're ok OP? x

How are things going?

Hope everything is ok OP.

A close family member has been through similar and has managed to get out. There is a tracker in the car but nobody can find it.

I would at least park it so it's not at your new home if you need to keep the car.

Nobody can find the tracker I meant.