Dating thread 234 ... spooky times ahead

[BelladiMamma]

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Could someone else please copy and paste the rules ...?

Go Worsy …those kittens are the best investment in well being for you and the kids . This is cuteness therapy in spades
Pilates instructor cool if he adds and it’s not a hassle in your mental beautiful self

Mila14
I think the dating has really weirdly helped your relationship with mr ex soooo much

in terms of boundaries and clarity

does he know you are dating others ? Is he jealous ?

I kind of hope you two can shape a different better way to relate as clearly there is a deep attachment and bond there

as every man you date pushes you more
towards him !!!

re Pilates . It’s just exciting . You know when you get the inkling they might be into you ? Then you look at them and think 🤔 hmm . I would 😁

so far all I know is
he has a DD
i think he knows I’m a single mum
fit bod
seems sweet
tall
tanned legs
hes definately seen my body as I’m lying there legs splayed 😂😂😂😂

Slothmomma

let the sex prep commence !!!!!!😁

Worsy.., I think as usual you are right. We don’t discuss about other people but he’s a very busy and reserved man. He always treats me like a princess and fancies me crazy after many years. Our friendship is very deep and we normally go through family issues and personal stuff every time we sit for dinner.
He’s not out of the woods with his mental health and I think at the moment he’s just not right for me as a 24/7 partner but I am not denying we might end up together because he’s also willing

I need a bit more time being free and dating and building my strength and don’t lose hope about meeting someone awesome but maybe this awesomeness does not exist but a lot of things that are right. No guy is going to be perfect

Sex is perfect and on tap with Mr Ex. He always wants me and except a few exceptions when he had DE ( normally the second sex time at night) . We do not suffer when we separate and meet every month 1 or 2 times but he’s not scared to say I love you so much

Worsy

as every man you date pushes you more
towards him !!!

It is entirely possible he’s undergoing the same process

Blimey @Mila14 I'd be very confused with that situation with MrEx. You were together for 6 years - did you live together? He was step-dad character to your kids? What made you split and how long ago?
Glad you got some perfect sex in with him as long as it has t left you all confused and muddled.

@Thisisworsethananticpated try not too eat houmous pitta the night before like I did the other week then broke wind loudly in a silent class of just a few of us. Wasn't a great look.

I've been true to my word here with NOT investing in one single iron and carrying on swiping despite my heart/loins telling me I want to grease up MrCurly and ride him like a big boy. No Date2 scheduled (despite me mentioning it) but some hilarious textuals last night which I loved. Suspect he'll at best be a(nother) fling at best. Hope so. Really thought he was my kind of guy re humour and liveliness, interests and interest levels buuuuuuut many blockers as not as free as I am or as flush (I'm not very flush but can afford a few meals out and weekend breaks etc).

Matched and chatting with other fellas which gives a sense of abundance and 'Next!' and really puts ghostly lame MrArt firmly in the rear view mirror (still haven't deleted or blocked).

Am truly grateful for OLD. Not made keen on meeting random men inthe wintery dark and cold so may give it a rest and focus on me, the house and kids until Spring.

Really hope MrCurly and I get together again but deffo not going to push or chase. He can do that. Or not. Up to him.

@Mila14 I don’t get the MrEx thing either, he is an ex but you keep having perfect sex with him ?, is this not holding you back from seeing other people, or is mR ex becoming mr notEx ( and yes I realise I’m not one to talk)

despite my heart/loins telling me I want to grease up MrCurly and ride him like a big boy.

😛 nearly spat my coffee our reading that !

Oncey I can’t really say whether I will end up or not with Mr Ex . He’s done a lot of work on himself ( Covid nearly killed his mental health and we separated after his drinking and dark moods became too much) . I would still want to see further changes but I’m not his mum and I’m in no position of saving anyone from his own terror

He adores my kids and my kids , especially my DD adores him . That’s never changed either

I can’t have him back fully as a partner but obviously there’s a lot of love and respect there. And yes we can’t keep our hands off each other every time we meet . It’s massive physical attraction and that never changes

Anyway, Iron I am talking too is a now a bit complicated because he’s in USA working and when I chat to him he’s not there and when he chats I’m not there
The awesome thing is that we are in the same area of SW London so that is a massive perk if we meet when he’s back
I’m getting kids today so no dating malarkey and no men

Sorry @NoDatingForOldMen but it's true. That blimmin' MrArt has rebooted my libido dropped me like a stone and now MrCurly has spent two hours sitting thigh to thigh with me laughing and wafting his manly pheromones at me I'm in a terrible state.

@Mila14 Makes lots of sense. Good for you. So very wise. Did you live together or not. Your DD must have been v young when you first got together. Well approx 6 yrs younger than now.

Oncey… yes and no. I have always kept my own home since separated first and then divorced. We spent time at his and at mine. Kids included at times

that was for Oncey
Howlongy, I know what you mean. I’m never totally invested in anyone , including Mr Ex . But right I’m happy with kids friends work and the way things are. I’m interviewing for the position of life partner so that’s always going to be tricky . No rush

OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss

oh jesus
that’s literally my worst nightmare

and yes someone farted very loudly in my other Pilates class so the risk is real , very real

and this is why I never NEVER accepted food at Balkan’s

Mila14

well i hope he can work on his demons
its feasible , most of us in this thread are working on them

but agree that seeing others saves you getting too invested whilst this process runs it’s course

the alcohols a tricky one . I also struggle with it

I really like that stance @Mila14 and am going to copy it as my own trusty motto 'I'm interviewing for the role of life partner which is always going to be tricky and (therefore) no rush.'

That's incredibly helpful. Thank you for it.

Very glad I can add . We are all trying to make sense of this 😘

Worsy … I ate chickpeas for lunch. Went at night to very glitzy resto dress to the nines …Slept with Mr Ex and kept trying not to fart 😂😂😂… I ended up farting COMPLETELY ASLEEP and woke up scared 😱. Mr Ex grabbed me like nothing happened and sent me to sleep again . For all the darkness he’s always had this very sensitive touch. But I know there are good‘uns out there just possibly not as good hearted as he is

...wafting pheromones... thighs touching, riding a greasy curly..omg what is going on!

Yes it is me, of the 61 yr old fwb and slinky costa dates.
2 days ago I said I was giving up the OLD, but I failed and am now chatting to a couple of hopefuls.

@Mila14 a seduction machine ...hahah I should put it on my profile!! Also, its so true what you say, that dating is empowering and at the same time a massive learning curve. Dating in mid life has its own set of complex issues... and only really single female friends with kids can understand my life as a single mum.

Any man that doesn't get it, well, there doesn't seem any point in going forward with them.

Wait what we can fart in our sleep?!? That's just given me the horrors.

Ive drafted a msg to Curly asking why he's on the apps stating I'm on the apps primarily to find a long term sexy boy bestie life-partner buuuuuuuuuuuuuut I'm not adverse to some no-strings wanton winter-warming bedroom gymnastics.

Surely surely this will get him to go for Date#2 so I can drink in his pheromones again.

Oh yes, NoShow was (is) a right royal night time trumper.
and she has dropped me a message today

Oh goodness @NoDatingForOldMen I'll bet that's one of the reasons I got binned off by MrArt. And the snoring ffs. I'm very unattractive whenst asleep. Neither of these attributes bothered my XH in 20 years of marriage he only slept in the spare room once after a particularly terrible row and my teen DDs regularly sleep with me. One took up residence in my bed for 18 months and none of them ever mentioned the snoring (or farting I now think). Only on my OLD adventures did I discover the horrific truth about my nocturnal self.
It's genuinely made me quite self-conscious.

I did and I woke up totally startled!!!

Howlongy , what is going on with Mrs No Show? Are you still dating her? And Mrs H? Her daughter must now be in uni! What are you up to?

@OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss I think snoring in women ( dare I say 50+), is not an uncommon thing, …, ms H carried a bit of extra weight and she snored like mad..

@Mila14 still friends with ms H, yes her daughter is at Uni now I helped get her laptop setup, done a few bits of DIY repairs for ms H & I think she is bit lonely as it was just her & her DD for a long time ( maybe she is making excuses to contact me ? )

NoShow is more interesting, I would say we are getting chatty again (never really stopped) to the point of “dating “ again, & I like her dog and he likes me.