Dating thread 234 ... spooky times ahead

[BelladiMamma]

New thread!

Could someone else please copy and paste the rules ...?

Oncey
define ‘skint’

as you may have noticed I’ve never gone for the rich ones !!

something I need to explore in therapy no doubt

I’m definitely rejecting the patriarchal white male middle class culture I grew up with
I don’t think that money, privilege necesarioy equate with the values I hold dear

but I’m also a hippy at heart and hate consumerism
apart from when it suits me !!

Mila14
euro sounds a bit dark
like those films where they have a poor tortured woman in their basement ( its always a woman 🤨)
listen to spidey senses on this one

@Badbaddogagain nooooo I never said anything to him about it as wouldn't want to appear grabby - I wasn't expecting a gift, and would probably be embarrassed if he had, but you can grab a card for less than a pound and on the day we met for coffee the day before my bday he mentioned he'd been to a supermarket on morning so not like he couldn't have picked one up. I've filed it and if it turns out he isn't very thoughtful or tight he won't be for me

The issue is why he's skint.

Is he temporarily stretched/broke (insert various noble reasons) with good character or is he an impulsive/irresponsible/unstable/lazy/hobosexual fuckup who hasn't the mettle to persevere with anything that starts to feel a bit hard?

Often the reasons for one's financial status go right to the core of who they are.

He should not be paying for 2 houses & CMS, that’s not right, the marital house is normally sold and the man gets the smaller portion ( but not always in these days of wives often out earning husbands)

he is probably skint compared to you millionaire friend(s), but that all sounds pretty normal tbh.

@NoDatingForOldMen
We did not talk about his finances (what with it being Date 0 &1) but he mentioned not being able to get his car fixed as needs £££ work doing

I don't even know if he's divorced. We matched, did the merest scantest of chats before agreeing to meet as the big was in his neck of the woods.

He's not been in touch today so might have jumped the gun and may never hear from him again!!!

Oh hang on he just messaged me. Scratch that.

*gig. Not 'big'

Excellent points there! Need to keep a close eye.

I have… deleted contact and stopped answering messages. He will get the Geist soon I think. I’m not saying I will not meet again but I already have another interest
I am enjoying my last kid free day. Ex taking me to extortionately expensive resto and I intend to fully enjoy it. I might be hippy in the future but right now, I enjoy the good things as I am shallow as hell after years of being unbelievably responsible and a 24/7 mum and hard worker

Don’t worry Oncey … you need to start asking whether he is divorced or legally separated. Some guys have super expensive cars and those are unbelievably expensive to repair

I don't even know what legally separated means @Mila14
I was dating long before my divorce came through.

That might not be a good sign

And some of us have cheap old bangers…

some People do a legal separation with lawyers . They divide assets , pension, property and savings and arrange monthly maintenance and compensation but tje final divorce is not done. Mostly because of health insurance and perks by one side or kids are still underage etc

Oh hello everyone, sorry , couldn't find the new thread! Good to catch up all your shenanigans...

I for one have deleted the apps, concentrating on my 1 fwb for now.
Just can't muster the energy for any extra goings-on.

Did meet a v handsome guy last weekend, at a skate park ( good place to hang out) he was fellow single dad. So, I said ' hi' and we started chatting... so as a result have
just ' treated' son to a new scooter so we can ' go' down the park a bit more often hahahah... check me out!

Checking in. Need to catch up on the thread

There's been loads of ok looking/sounding interesting guys on mine lately, I've sent tones of first messages (unusual for me) & received the grand total of... 1 back. Who read my reply then left the site. Then there was the man who sent me a message & states on his profile 'Only interested in BBW, if you are less than a size 20 then don't contact me'. I'm a 14/16 but obviously look like a 20 then.

This OLD is so crap for my self esteem.

HughGrantstrousers I had a crush on a man from a skate park for a while, he had the deepest, manliest voice you could imagine & he turned up in Tesco once, I knew it was him before I saw him because of the voice, but soon after he disappeared!

ButterflyOfShay I hope you are ok lovely
MrSR was wearing his Brown jacket today... Remember the Brown jacket?

I really haven't missed this.

Men who put 4 xxxx on the end of each text straight away

🙄🙄

My mum would tell me that's me being picky 🤔

Hughgrantstrousers

im quite envious of your set up ! You get your orgasms and fun , get to be a mostly happy single mum
I went and got all emotionally attached

I hope your reap your skate investment !

winniewitchy

you are right and your mum is wrong

NervesOfCotton
BBW man
just what the Monday ego needs 😵‍💫

I love kittens
and I’ve washed yoga mat

I need to do pedicure as Pilates teacher touched my foot last lesson
just jn a straightening way
but , still

Morning all. Mr medic has sorted changing his weekends so he's coming over to mine Friday evening 😱😁

That's wonderful news @Slothmomma How very very exciting

@Thisisworsethananticpated that made me laugh the need for a pedi as hot Pilates teacher might do foot straighthtenings 😊

@Hughgrantstrousers … you Belladimama? Your FWB is the 61 year old? Skate dad 😂😂😂
good lord… you are a seduction machine

Went to fab resto last night with MrEx… one thing led to the other and he ended up staying at mine. As usual quick perfect sex . He’s around doing calls before we leave my place but… I really need to be careful and start detachment. Lots of I love you so much and me feeling conflicted 😐. I’m going to give myself until next summer but I honestly need to decide whether we try to give ourselves a go as a couple or I keep dating.
I’m learning a lot from the dating and it has empowered me beyond belief.
We will see what happens the next months …

Wow Slothy …. Mothership will be awaiting for developments 😂😂😂
Well done you