Dating thread 234 ... spooky times ahead

[BelladiMamma]

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@Mollymolloy I just make an excuse and leave the chat. There's nothing worse than taking to someone that you're not connecting with. ❤️

*talking, I mean. Bloody autocorrect!

I have many many of those and I just stop talking. And unmatch.

Imagine if you were in a bar and got talking to someone you liked the look of but within 10 mins you realised he was duller than dull you'd make your excuses and wander back to your friends wouldn't you with no problems It's the same as that except you can't see them and they'll have had lots of people slide away. We're all used to it.

@Mollymolloy I don’t even make excuses I just delete and move on. Sometimes OLD can be so time consuming and it gets quite brash.

Thanks.. I seem to attract every weirdo going! Some chats seem to go strange pretty early on. Is it just me?

@Mollymolloy no, it's just OLD

Oh no, not just you. I have the most beautiful man on WhatsApp, who apparently wants to discuss the merits of investing in gold, European energy and property. Sadly, he knows rather less about it than I do, so I’m just ignoring his BS.

I know, and I like that too. I’d just like to know we’re headed for more interesting times than lunch before he shoots off and gets his kids. I’m in no hurry to DTD, if I’m honest. The build up should be fun. I’d just like it to be on the cards.

Mila, there are no sins. There is…lunch. Lunch does not leave much opportunity for sinning, frankly. Still, early days. I look forward to having something to confess!

ICrunchNumbers, forgive me, but focusing on your ex so much isn’t likely to help you move forwards. Leave the bastard in your past where he belongs, and look to your future. The best revenge is a life well lived (I know it’s easier said than done. I really do. I let mine husband hang around in my head years longer than I ought to have. But you can’t have a good shot at moving forward of you’re focussed on the past, and I see how much you want to. Eyes front, lady!)

Thanks @Eeksteek. You're right. ❤️ I know I shouldn't get so bitter, but I can't help it sometimes 🙂

... I seem to overthink about him when I'm having a depressive time, I'll come out of it 🙂

I don’t think you are bitter my lovely. But I do think you are very focussed on what you are not. Focus hard on letting go of the men who are weighing you down and start doing what it takes to move forward, however small the steps are at first. I’m struggling with this in another area and it’s really, really holding me back. I could make progress towards what I want - it’s completely within my capability - but I can’t let go of what I had. What I thought I would always have. What I should still have, dammit. I’m tending my past, not nurturing my future, because I can’t accept it’s gone and it shows because I’m making no progress. Not because of who I am, or because I’m not trying, but because I’m not trying to create what I want. I’m trying to get back I had. And it’s gone. You can’t uncook eggs!

@Thisisworsethananticpated just one FWB he is 61. Its spills over into a sort of dysfunctional relationshiop, so it is ok for now. Mr Army lets call him. Fit and well, fit.

Mothership requires and update from @Mila and @NervesOfCotton.

Also, do you all feel less frisky now autumn is drawing in, or more so?

Followed your sage advice and tried Hinge, oh I say, quite a few lovlies on there!

Going to Waitrose later for an oogle, usually some attractive males to linger close to over the cheese counter ..

I now live 6 mins from. Waitrose @Hughgrantstrousers and never ever go there due to prices (apart from that time I made an emergency dash for massage oil). I shall now consider it a leisure activity and glide around the fine wines looking at gentlemen's ring fingers for evidence of single status!

@Hughgrantstrousers … reporting to the mothership!
got kids back so no men allowed.
plan to see again MrF beginning of November and I like him a lot but it’s early days and I managed to refrain from DTD (although I got braless somehow as I was being touched and kissed everywhere by him). No more irons but this one is feeling right just now
He’s the exact opposite of me… restrained and serious 🧐 but I can’t wait to DTD and see if we are compatible

I was hovering over sending MrCurly a(nother) baited salacious proposition despite no contact but then just as I finished drafting but hadn't sent suddenly have got RAGING cystitis - am in agony. Can't sit at my desk to work. Going to the loo almost as soon as I've got back from the previous trip 🙄FFS.
The bonkathon has the finger of blame and I'll unlikely be wanting more of that anytime soon.
Might send it anyway just for the craic and see whether I get a response and if so what it is.

Ouch Oncey ! Can you get medication for that?? GP?

Ouch. No fair! I hope you feel better soon!

I having an (internal) whinge over what to wear. I reckon a bit of cleavage might focus Mr2Pugs’ libido a bit, and I don’t feel like ‘jeans a nice top’ which is my usual MO. But I’ve been broke for a while, so my wardrobe is seriously rundown. I’m not bothered about looking trendy, but I suck at smart casual, especially in winter. (I have any amount of lovely summer dresses that would do nicely). I do have a plunging dress that would work, but it’s black silk so a bit too dressy for a pub lunch, even with a jumper. What to do, what to do….

I think jeans and a nice cleavagey top would be totally appropriate for a pub lunch and will deffo tickle Mr2Pugs libido beautifully.
Be yourself I say. Be comfy and at ease I also say.

Eeky… nice jeans and sexy top. Deffo

@Hughgrantstrousers … oooh… I am sure you will pull with the friends !
MrF is lovely 😊… he calls in between meetings but we don’t really text much which is new for me as I am an over sharer and text crazy. I’m going to be honest… I am thinking of this giant all the time now and I know it’s not the right thing to do as I normally have 2 irons going. I’m going to have to wait quite a bit before I see him again as I’m work travel/kids full on. I hope he does not fall for a minx before we meet again 😳

Definitely not you. I also attract the weirdos 😭😂

Just a brief mothership update as I have no one else to update.

MrLocal (currently in Ireland due to meet on Saturday night now) and I have been ping ponging texts all day. He's v funny. Pretty sure he's a loose cannon but a handsome one (from pics) and turns out his buddy is my colleague so we've both pestered the poor chap in the middle for a reference. I've yet to receive mine on him which makes me wonder.
He's going travelling for 6-9 months next year despite having three kids so already a gigantic 🚩 is hoisted and flapping madly. He's also overly complimentary about my profile pics so am already wondering whether there's a touch or good dollop of narcissism. Still nothing ventured nothing gained etc and meeting him for drinks (I can walk to meet him instead of my usual hour long schlepping for a Date0). I've told him I've not looking for anything or anyone in particular just maximising my post marital fun and freedom.

Just sent a very slutty proposition to MrCurly which if he accepts will likely be the last time I see him or if he gives no reply will make last weekend's rendezvous the last with him.
Cystitis seems to have cleared as rapidly as it arrived and my STI test kit is on its way in the post.

Heady days.

Oncey…all good then. The fact he’s going traveling doesn’t have to be a red flag though. Why liking your profile pic is symptomatic with Narcissism ?. He may just fancy you a lot. Wait until you meet him…
Mr Curly still on his way to become FWB ?
Good on you checking STD and glad cystitis is over 😊

I think leaving a mum (actually two mums) with 100% parenting so you can go travelling is a bit eeeuughie or triggering for me as my kids' dad flounced off to party and live his best middle youth with nil parenting. It's a turn off for me.