Dating thread 234 ... spooky times ahead

[BelladiMamma]

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Wtaf non-kissing Curly has checked in suggesting we make the most of his/my rare home alone status ce soir.

My libido is thru the roof so am sorely tempted but not sure I can deal with or be arsed with another platonic tête-à-tête.

Blokes are so confusing.

@OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss I think I would be questioning why he’s suggesting this at such a late point? Could it be he’s had something else fall through? Surely he would have known before this morning that he would be home alone tonight? And why such a patchy amount of contact through the week if he is interested? I try not to be negative on here but my experience tells me that people who are genuinely keen to get to know you do so in open and frequent contact. Have you replied?

I am back. Mr2Pugs is nice. Normal, pleasant. I had a lovely time and he casually suggested dinner sometime and shot off to fetch his boys. He sounds like a good dad. Couldn’t have gone better really (I probably babbled a bit, but I did apologise in advance!). I’m just decompressing before I drive home. I chose an NT because I knew it would safely public, but I forgot it was half term and they do a big halloween thing and it was heaving, so a bit frantic with two dogs to wrangle as well.

MrKeanu is as cryptic as ever. He appears to be playing golf this morning, as he’s sent me a picture of a golf cart and asked after me. Still know nothing about him. He’s definitely some sort of bot or an appalling conversationalist. (Still not sure I’d mind). Maybe that’s why he’s on tinder, he IS just a pretty face? I expect it will fizzle out if he doesn’t try to connect somehow soon.

So far (and I’m aware there are downsides) this is fun. A nice change.

I continue to have inklings that this guy is a bit of a player. Not necessarily a problem if you just want someone for your libido/sense of fun, especially now you have your stash of condoms. But you may be playing with fire. Or I may be completely wrong.

I would say something else has fallen thru for him, send him a picture of your collection of condoms to make it clear what your are in the mood for

One hundred per cent agree with @Stepcount . Be careful Oncey. If you want to have fun that’s allowed but if you want something else … it’s not ok

I know you are right. But I also know I won’t do that. I’m am quite impulsive. And I get carried away with new ideas and probably over invested. I’ll either get hurt or married (even though I don’t actually want either, objectively) I just don’t do moderate.

Mr2Pugs disappointingly didn’t bring his pugs, because they don’t like the car. (I liked his car! He had a nice shiny black Mercedes) has sent his phone number and suggested dinner.

MrKeanu is still only responding to direct questions and in response to ‘what do you do?’ Has sent the following.

“I am an entrepreneur, I run my own company and engage in various investments, currently I invest in real estate and FTX's BTC short trades“

Which I think is absolute bollocks. Pity. I can’t decide whether to call him out (I know it shouldn’t matter, but I’m not that stupid and I want him to know that women are not idiots) or just blocking him. Even if it’s true, it’s a twatty thing to say.

I have been experimenting with Talking to Men in the Wild. I think I might have scared a man in Leon, but amused his mates. I went to a...hobby...the other night, populated exclusively by men of my exact type (grey, awkward). It was a slut's paradise but I was flanked by my sons who are strapping young men and I'm not sure Hobby Men in Wild wish to chat up mums with intimidating young bodyguards. I did get several furtive appreciative looks! Thus I am attending...the hobby...again tonight, ON MY OWN.

Re: treats for luring: I don't have a Battenberg or biscuits of any kind but I was just cleaning out my handbags and found an old box of liquorice pastilles. Will those work?

@OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss...hmm. If you "just" want sex (perfectly reasonable), can you switch off from temptation for false hope for Mr Curly the Confusing? It's so hard.

DoomsdayPrep what is this hobby you speak of?

I think I need to go out into the wild and find men, OLD is just getting tedious. After half them I am joining the gym and may actually brave a few classes (but not spinning, I would be awful at it and definitely would not pull).

My Cherry has been messing with my head since spring time, one minute he seems interested and next minute not, messages me to meet up it gives me no notice (messaged this morning asking if I wanted to go for a walk), he doesn’t seem to realise that I have other commitments. I told him I am free tomorrow it he won’t arrange to do anything until he wakes up in the morning and then he’s likely to have a bad back or something. Not sure why I give him the head space, I don’t really like him much but would love to f#ck him 😬.

Anyway, I have been trawling through tinder in hope to find anyone remotely datable, got a couple matches, one I am chatting too but not getting my hopes up.

Still chatting to Mr Tattoo but no idea if we will ever meet.

I am an entrepreneur, I run my own company and engage in various investments, currently I invest in real estate and FTX's BTC short trades

complete BS. I would block on the spot. He’s probably unemployed

Well, I’m old, grey and awkward & like liquorice of any type, so probably a winner, maybe you could use them to create breadcrumb trail to temp one out into the open.

Howlongy , how’s it going with Mrs NoShow?

@Mila14 once I get over this stupid cold & flu thing we are planning to have lots of sex

@Lovemusic33, the Hobby is both loud & arcane. It is so niche it is the Niche that Cannot be Named!

@NoDatingForOldMen. "Dozens of men have been found zombified along the M25, having abandoned their cars en masse. Unresponsive to questioning, and becoming violent if disturbed, they are crawling along the central reservation towards central London, sniffing maniacally. Many are sobbing uncontrollably. An eye witness reports that one was heard muttering, 'Pontefract...Pontefract...Pontefract...'. Investigation is ongoing."

is it campanology ?

ohh Pontefract Cakes, now I really want some torpedoes

Thanks @Eeksteek. I got so angry with him that I told him that I thought it would have been better had he not had any children in the first place, and that nobody forced him to sleep with my mother and have a child.

I'm still friends with him on social media as I don't mind him liking my stuff from time to time, but I don't want to chat to him again.

I haven't dated much either, btw, except when I was with my ex, so we're both in the same boat 🚤

That wasn't saying that I wish I hadn't been born. Just I wished he didn't have any kids in the first instance. He thinks because he and his mother (who thought being a grandmother was just about taking her grandchildren to the park, and letting them watch television) took me on occasional outings with my self obsessed cousins that meant that they loved me 🙄

That sounds very rough. I hope you can find a way to keep them in the background.

@Eeksteek I hope so 🙂

I suppose I'm just a little angry with my mother as well. She hasn't done anything really wrong, but she wants me to date now, and she thinks all men will like me. If that was true, I would have had more relationships then I have, and I would have had sex and a family by now.

I would love to date now, if my life was sorted.

....and if I could get over my ex not giving me the future he said he would.

Hello mothership people just on my way home from a most fantastic evening of X-rated fun with very much into kissing Mr Curly.

My one true he may not be but my god he makes me laugh so much, has many great stories, is knowledgeable about stuff I'm into oh yes is by far the best person I've ever been to bed.

So that's good. Honestly feeling completely cool so imagine it's a potential FWB situ which I've never had before. Nice.

I'm happy I said that. I'm going to say it in full.

I can't get over my ex not sticking with me and not giving me the family he said he would.

He even talked about being head of his department at work and buying a house with me.

He told me he wanted children with me, and we discussed names, including one particular one that I used to love but can't stomach now.

He wanted to take me to the city his father is from.

He said he would support me and look after me.

We planned to lose our virginity together.

I really loved him.

@OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss loving the update of adventures with Mr curly and a little jealous of that good sex 😄

@ICrunchCrispsNotNumbers sorry to hear you're still feeling so down. I know it's not easy getting over an ex but he's an ex for a reason. Mine promised all similar things - we planned our kids and planned to raise them together, we wed and he promised forever and to stay faithful, we decided that I support his career for our future - turned out after 2 decades together he left me for a work shag, single to raise 3 kids under age of 7 and is now living that future we worked towards with the mistress but shit happens - I won't let him/his actions destroy my future and as hard as it is sometimes I'm still hopeful I'll find someone I'll love again one day bit if not am making sure I live my best life regardless