Dating thread 234 ... spooky times ahead

[BelladiMamma]

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@Thisisworsethananticpated I don't know, to be honest with you. I've never Known how his mind works. He's only ever acknowledged me on Facebook, but the rest of the time I'm ignored by him and his family. He can't get a woman himself, and I think that's because of how he is.

He seems to be obsessed by his past relationships. He's rung my mother multiple times on Facebook messenger, just to bore on about things, and he once got an ex girlfriend of his to plead with me to talk to him on Facebook

@Thisisworsethananticpated the most he has said about it is he felt 'angry'.

@OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss that is very good advice. I’m a bit miffed about Mr2Pugs’ ex living two villages away. I quite liked the idea that he was 10 miles away!

I don’t think I want to introduce anyone to my kid. At all. Firstly, she would totally be all ‘I have a dad now!’ And secondly, I have devoted my life to her. But now she’s 12 I can have something where I don’t have to take into account her needs or preferences. It’s just for me. Which is going to limit a relationship, somewhat, I admit. Still, you never know. There’s a lot of room between ONS and stepdad.

MrKeanu has asked if I want to chat in WhatsApp. I’m assuming this is code for ‘send nudes’. We await developments. I have spent a large chunk of the day driving, which has given me FAR too much time to think. Although not about nudes. (At least, not my nudes.)

@ICrunchCrispsNotNumbers that really does sound tough. I’m sorry your family is hard on you.

No @Eeksteek let's chat on WhatsApp is standard 'let's be chatting outside the apps' next step. I've never sent nor received nudes from OLD agents despite getting chatty on the WhatsApp with many many many over the years.

Sorry @ICrunchCrispsNotNumbers I have a shifty neglectful father too and it's not because of any disablement. He's just a twat with issues of his own.

Eeksteek

thats exciting about keanou (sp) and WhatsApp
how old is he ? He might not want to send pics

but he also might … you can try and head it off

ICrunchCrispsNotNumbers

oh yes , you didn’t get the dad you deserved really x

@Thisisworsethananticpated 💋💋

@ButterflyOfShay ❤️❤️❤️

Interesting. I mean, there wasn’t really in-app chat! IDK how old he is or anything. Just a couple of pics (but wow, what pics! I think he’s too young, tbh. He looks mid thirties to me. I’m 44. But then he’s seen my 100% unfiltered, no make up pics, so either he’s fake, flawed or only in it for shags and I look vulnerable. Not entirely sure I’d mind…..I mean, you have to get back in the saddle one way or another, and ten years is a bloody long dry spell. Maybe I’d rather forget it after!). Plus side, no weird stuff. Minus side - no info. It is Friday night though. I wasn’t expecting to hear from him at all. Pleased to hear it’s not an automatic red flag. I still think he’s far too pretty to be on Tinder, and remain deeply sceptical.

ANYWAY. I came on to say that I appear to have a date. An honest to god, actual date. I have never, in my whole life, had a date. NEVER! I am ill-equipped, unprepared and doing it anyway. Fucking hell! Good job it’s only a walk (I asked. I mean, why not?!)

Had dinner and lovely movie with Mr F. We kept our hands busy throughout the movie but he was just sweet and lovely. He brought me home and I was close to fall and DTD but we had a lot of kissing and touching. Just mad. I like him a LOT. He’s with DD now until Wednesday and I get kids Tuesday so let’s see how we try to meet for a coffee or something until I get kids on Tuesday . This is reality for us. I have 8 messages by MrEx on my phone. I can’t face reading them tonight

That's a very fantastic report to the mothership @Mila14 what a brilliant evening you and MrF have enjoyed.
What film did you see?
Well done for keeping away from DTD not that it would have been an issue if you had but we know you said you wanted to wait so...

Nightmare that you can already establish next rendezvous

Yes Oncey. He was quite well dressed and he had Ibiza chill out tunes in car… win win. I find him very sexy and he was well… very happy with the kissing or had a big hard thing in his pocket 😈
It was hard not to go for the lot. The other thing I like is that we only seem to have 1 large glass of wine when we meet for dinner so he’s not a heavy drinker and I like very much he plans. 2 dinners and a movie ( and heavy petting) is 2 good dates in my book. Nothing is weird or worrying at the moment

@@Eeksteek have you never had a date! Do you mean never had a date from online dating? 🙂

ButterflyOfShay
thanks for answering re the drinking
i didn’t know that about SSRI

so what do you do of an evening to unwind ?

I have def normalised my substance consumption
and I know why I have !

my current plan is to get those one glass mini bottles and reduce
then I need to get back into multiple days without
I’ve done it before and I can do it again

im the same with job , been there so many years and it’s a security thing

Tend to agree that moving off the app onto WhatsApp is a standard thing really.
Its just a walk, one foot in front of the other, how hard is that?
if it’s nice stop for a coffee or something,

He sounds like Lord Flasheart, “ is that a canoe in my pocket, or am I just pleased to see you”

NoDatingForOldMen

blackadder doesn’t age does it 😂

😂😂😂 loving Lord Flasheart… blackadder never ages really!
MrF has gone to pick DD up but plotting how to meet for sneaky coffee over the weekend . It might work or not but he’s now my only iron. It’s all quite chilled and we both agree not DTD until I am ok with it and we have time together. There’s no hurry
I’m going to gym and enjoy having my place to myself this weekend 🙂.

Nope. Never had a date at all. Met DH through a friend when I was 17. Established relations pretty quickly (and was too teenage and poor to go out on ‘dates’ and lived somewhere where you just saw people around anyway) and have not felt the inclination to try again since he died. So, date virgin.

I have been out to dinner etc, but only with DH, whom I was already in a committed relationship with. Gonna be weird! Still, I get along with people OK, and I’m not going to pretend. I look like hell, as the dog got me up in the night and I couldn’t get back to sleep, but I can’t put makeup on, or DD will ask why I’m getting made up to go for a walk, so Mr2Pugs is going to have to take me as he finds me. Although I’d better get going!

(MrKeanu has a different name in WhatsApp, and is still going for international man of mystery extraordinaire. Still know absolutely nothing about him. Weird)

@Eeksteek i think at the moment you should have fun and date different men and see what is you like and enjoy. My advise is have fun and don’t get too invested in anyone. You are new to the dating scene in general and need to see what works for you. Be safe and careful and check the people you want to date ( I’m totally risk averse I have to admit)

@Thisisworsethananticpated i find the only way i can do it is have nothing in the house. As i couldnt be bothered to go and get any. Of an evening.. half the week im travelling home from work but I find thats the most tempting time. When Im at home i meditate as soon as I finish work. Or im cleaning the house.. or go for a walk.. or work out x

@Eeksteek I hear you! Wow its a completely new thing for you. Have fun 🙂🙂

Butterfly , nice to see you are doing great with the alcohol. I noticed how much it affected MrEx… after a “ good fun alcohol night” he would wake up the next day totally numb and with problems to even leave his bed. Alcohol really is wonderful in moderation. Whatever keeps being a positive constant in your life is a real blessing. I also add exercising ( everyday if you can) works wonders… Pilates today for me

You can’t really go wrong with a bit of SlackBladder.
some more Flashheart and the 20 minuters …

Thing you've mixed me up but sounds awesome 😜

Sorry Bella ! How are you lovely?