Dating thread 234 ... spooky times ahead

[BelladiMamma]

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Nice update @ibelieveinmirrorballs enjoy your cosy weekend away with MrN - sounds like a good one with his winter wood (phnar) warmer offerings.

Curly has texted in. There's no call to action. Its so odd. I almost want to say what are you doing

I'm not at rock bottom but I'm making some well-dodgy dating choices and I'm not impressed with myself

I’ve been there and done that
it’s like your brain does things that defeat logic

that’s why I’m paused (ish )
well Im not on the apps at least

ibelieveinmirrorballs

check you all weekending away with nicey 😊

how far we’ve come
I can’t imagine a weekend away with a man
!!!!!

Have a lovely time @ibelieveinmirrorballs . MrN looking strong and lovely 🥰

Exactly. Is it customary to just block, or tell them what a twat they are first? (none so far, actually)

@OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss I have two matches. One almost certainly isn’t real (super-hot. No age. No words on his profile) although I still might consider it, if I felt safe. He looks like Keanu Reeves, post speed, but pre-matrix. (Honestly, if he even goes out in public he needs bodyguards, not bloody tinder!)

Mr2Pugs is more promising. I messaged him last night and jokingly called him out on his cheating, cute-dog pictures, and he has messaged back saying he put them on ‘to get babes and it worked’ and a bit about him, and invited me to tell him about myself (there is nothing at all on my profile, because I was just looking). So I did, a little. He’s messaged a bit more about what he does and finished with ‘anything else?’ What does that mean? Am I supposed to ask questions? Does he want me to say what I’m ‘looking for’ (because I don’t even know! Not a ONS (well, maybe with MrKeanu) and not a blended family. Maybe nothing at all. It was just a whim! I didn’t mean to swipe anybody!

Not sure if he’s just a bit of a rubbish conversationalist, or if there’s etiquette I’m missing. At some point I’ll have to drop the grenade that I’m widowed, which always puts an awkward stop to conversions. Probably best to get that over with, actually. I mean you’ve got to say it, but I just want to move on.

Ahh I'm glad you're happier at work as well and me too i am SO relived its all ok as get very scared of things going pears with my job. It’s been my one constant and security over the years!
so for me the physical benefits of being off the booze.. the first main thing is that SSRIs dont work properly or at all when you drink on them. So firstly I feel the benefits of my meds a lot better. 2nd, i dont wake up feeling raging anxiety every. single. morning. Wake up feeling ok! Thirdly the weight drops off and the physique looks more defined. The cellulite literally disappears. 4th - a lot more money in the bank. But by gosh I miss it. I bloody love drinking.. thats the problem 😅

Reporting to the mothership. I really enjoyed my date and he walked me back home. Mr F is a lot more attractive in the flesh . It was really really nice date. Quick kiss before I went in but he’s quite respectful and shy ☺️
I think we’ll meet again tomorrow….

Wish my weight dropped off when I quit drinking. Mind you, I didn’t drink a lot - 14 units would be a heavy week for me. It’s triggering bloody migraines atm, so I’ve given it up until I can get started on HRT. Only other time I ever had them this bad was pre-IVF when they put you into….artificial menopause. They stopped when I had a coil (at the time I put it down to a particular stressor being resolved, but maybe not!)

Mr2pugs is messaging away. Seems nice enough. He said he liked movies, so I asked him to recommend me one and shared my opinion. (Obviously didn’t share all my observations with Mr2Pugs, who probably isn’t ready for my anti-patriarchy ranting. Nor my, um, appreciation of Thor’s muscles acting. (Not into big arms, but he had a very fine set of abs) it was a nice way to chat. We’ve skated over the widow bombshell and he has understandably enquired about my questionable free time, and whereabouts I live. His ex is two villages away, so he knows the area. (He has his kids 50:50. Not going to date anyone who doesn’t. Take that Patriarchy!)

Would it be idiotic to suggest a walk, do you think? I know his local NT well, and it’s quite public. We both have dogs and I am broke. (It’s temporary, but I’d be uncomfortable going to dinner or something just now. It would be important to me in any relationship to pay my way), so if I suggest it, I can neatly head all that off at the pass.

@Eeksteek a walk sounds ideal, especially as you both have dogs :)

@Mila14 lovely news! Must have gone well if you are meeting again tomorrow

Eeksteek

a walk is the perfect first date
Costs nothing
short !

Mila14

sounds like a sweet and pleasant date 😊

Lucky MrF @Mila14 having the pleasure of your company again so soon. It's ace when they are more fanciable in real life than the opposite. Doesn't always happen like that

Thank you! Oncey, he wanted to go to theatre today but could not find seats together as it’s quite short notice so we’ll go to an Everyman cinema. He’s very very attractive and I can be shallow but I love his bone structure and his hands. I will go slow because he’s very traditional gentleman and because I’m in no hurry for anything really. Yes he’s outrageously tall but holds my hand or gently puts it in my upper back to guide me as we walk. We saw his place on the way to my place walking. It’s brilliant we are neighbours really. What are the chances??

Thank you Worsy …very chilled thing…so unlike me!!!

Isn’t life interesting? Message from Uber Lanvin suit wearer mr Euro. He’s back from Frankfurt and can we meet tonight for dinner? Seriously…I like him too but he has a lot of troubles ( no kid contact and undergoing bitter divorce). He’s been texting very cordially and serious as he is but I got massively spooked so have kept myself to yes no and thank you since we met. I’m off to the gym to burn…

Did you and tall gentlemanly high-powered MrF find each other on de apps @Mila14

Go steady with the neighbourliness if you can (soooooo easy to say not so easy to do) as my first OLD full blown rrrrrromance was with a fella who lived 4 mins walk from mine. It meant o introduced him to my kids wayyyyyy earlier than I should have or wild now. Also when we split and I was heartbroken and bereft I'd not want to leave my house for fear of bumping into him then when I finally braved dashing to the shop I bumped into him arm in arm with his brand new ladylove 🥺

Anyhoo. There go my sage words. But have a fab time on Date2 with MrF tonight I hope it is tremendous.

Good advise Oncey. I don’t even think of introducing kids to anyone to be honest. It’s just dating and nothing else at this stage
Must be awful to experience what you have. This is central London… chances are we don’t meet at all if there’s no concerted effort.
We met in app yes. I’m just getting to know him and not planning on DTD for a while

OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss

good warning . That’s a shit hurricane of a local fling . I watch with caution as Pilates is local .
🥴

dont shit where you eat

sorry Mila , we know you’re very cautious

Does he still live nearby ?

Thanks all. It's been horrible today. I've got intense back pain and I've had my tutor breathing down my neck. Nobody would want to date me at the moment, believe me!

I think it's what I said to my father that has triggered this. I perhaps shouldn't have said anything, but he kept taking about how he has to get two planes to work and nobody else can to what he does.... and I was just trying to get him to understand how things are like for me. He'll never understand though.

I think also it was putting into words what life would be like if I wasn't disabled as well, then I was thinking about my ex again because he didn't mind what I was.

Right now, I would have nothing I would feel comfortable talking to an iron about.

@Mila14 oh thats so positive and lovely! Were all dates soo lovley, we would all be so loved up we would have nothing negative to report about.

On my side, the fwb meet up this week was.. steamy. Literally, the windows steamed up, and thats quite a feat when our combined age is 114! Hark at me !

Exactly, kits just dating. No need to involve kids, done that been there, never again. Told the tweens I was at work whereas in fact I was being pleasured ( haha) by a hunk in his boudoir.

Bella

Told the tweens I was at work whereas in fact I was being pleasured ( haha) by a hunk in his boudoir.

😂😂😂😂😂 it’s just dating on my side. I’m careful and if we don’t gel I will not give a damn if I see him with Miss World , honestly

Hughgrantstrousers

loving the news you had a steamy one
and your combined age 😂

does he have a name ? Well a thread name

will you manage him adjacent to 62 year old ?

are you and 62 year old open , not exclusive ?

ICrunchCrispsNotNumbers

your Birth dad not acknowledging your disability must be very painful and bruising

what a twat
do you think he minimises it so he doesn’t feel guilty ?