OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss I'm so sorry things have gone that way with Curly. Very strange behaviour from him & I'll add my voice to say it's not you, it's him. Take all the time you need to heal. It is absolutely difficult to let go sometimes.
winniewitchy I set mine at 30 miles but there's hardly anybody suitable. I get loads of messages from 60 miles ish as that's London from here.
Feeling kind of bruised myself today. I was speaking to one who promptly stopped talking when I told him the age of my kids. It's fine but he could of, you know, used his words instead of just not answering & leaving me wondering.
Second one was right up to my furthest distance of 30 miles. I told him I don't drive, he said that's fine, he comes here every few weeks anyway to see family etc. Seemed perfect, loads of stuff in common etc.
2 days of messages & I asked him if he wanted to meet, then he says 'On 2nd thoughts I think the distance might be an issue. I'm very busy right now so I'd hate to message for weeks on end & then dissapoint you'. So I said 'Ok that's fine, I wouldn't of messaged for 'Weeks on end' anyway as I don't see the point. Maybe message again when you are less busy'.
He's since sent me 2 messages just random stuff about his day & each one starts with 'I'm still busy but...'
So he clearly just wants somebody to hang around until he's ready. Not me.