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Who usually pays on a date

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Namechange85 · 19/09/2022 13:29

Just wondering really.....

Been out this weekend for food and drinks Saturday and Sunday with a man I've been casually seeing for a few weeks.

With regards the drinks we went in rounds which I think is fair enough. He paid for the food but when leaving the restaurant handed me the receipt which I took as his way of letting me know how much I owed. When I got home I sent him the money for the couple of meals we'd had.

I've been out of the dating game a very, very long time as had been married 21 years. I have no issue with paying my way, but watching First Dates last night made me realise that men usually pay on a date. And if I'm being really honest I would have been very impressed if he had done and not handed me the receipt!

OP posts:
IsThePopeCatholic · 06/04/2023 18:08

Comedycook · 19/09/2022 19:07

Because I'm traditional. I expect a man to be a man.

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TheseThree · 05/05/2023 20:28

It’s all preference. What type of relationship do you want? What type of relationship does he want? Who pays seems small but as you can see from the strong opinions here, it really can be a small hint on a person’s values and desires. Whatever works for both people is the right arrangement.

HowlongWillThisTakeNow · 06/05/2023 07:44

LadyLapsang · 06/04/2023 17:44

OP, next time ask for the bill, pay it and then go to the loo. I have some seriously wealthy friends, but I go out with them for the pleasure of their company, not so they will pick up the bill. I find it weird that some women expect the benefits of equality at work (although we are not there yet) but want to be treated like an early 50s debutante when they go on a date.

100% this ^^

prettymum · 06/05/2023 07:53

50:50
Seeing someone new at the moment, first date he insisted on paying for food, went for drinks after and I bought drinks, second date switched so I paid for food and him drinks.
Wouldn't feel comfortable not paying my way if we're both earning and I like treating the men in my life too.

KitKatLove · 06/05/2023 07:55

ZOMBIE 🧟‍♀️

Beastieboys · 03/08/2023 14:13

dementedpixie · 19/09/2022 13:31

You should have offered to pay your share or even had a discussion about it while you were on the date. Its a bit sexist to expect him to pay

This ^^

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