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Boyfriend told me something bad

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In2minds88 · 12/09/2022 06:50

My boyfriend told me something from his past that I’m really struggling with. When he was in his 20s, he left teaching to pursue a relationship with a 6th former. This was 20 years ago and he was a lot younger and obviously very stupid. I just don’t know how to take it. WWYD?

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GonnaGetGoingReturns · 13/09/2022 16:44

In2minds88 · 12/09/2022 20:45

Thank you for your responses and insights. It’s over. It’s not something I could ever live with.

I appreciate all of you taking the time to post.

I think the fact that you asked the question in the first place meant you had doubts. Some women would be fine with this, some, like me (and I don't even have daughters!) wouldn't be fine with this.

You've done the right thing and hope you find someone nice soon. Smile

ancientgran · 13/09/2022 18:27

LongLivedQueen · 13/09/2022 09:35

No it would not be at all possible.

People here are trying to sanitise this vile behaviour. It's not "dating a young woman" it is "fucking school children in your care".

We need to be clear on what we are actually talking about here.

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Do we know he was fucking her? I don't think the OP said that, pursuing a relationship doesn't always mean fucking.

wellhelloitsme · 13/09/2022 20:17

@ancientgran

I'm not sure "wanting to fuck a school girl" is much better than "fucking a school girl" in the grand scheme of things tbh.

LongLivedQueen · 13/09/2022 23:28

ancientgran · 13/09/2022 18:27

Do we know he was fucking her? I don't think the OP said that, pursuing a relationship doesn't always mean fucking.

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You think he left his career (or got fired) because he was holding her hand and reciting poetry?

I've got a bridge to sell you.

ancientgran · 14/09/2022 18:46

LongLivedQueen · 13/09/2022 23:28

You think he left his career (or got fired) because he was holding her hand and reciting poetry?

I've got a bridge to sell you.

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No, but it might not have got that far and he left before it did. The point is you don't know however clever you think you are.

Johnnysgirl · 14/09/2022 19:05

ancientgran · 14/09/2022 18:46

No, but it might not have got that far and he left before it did. The point is you don't know however clever you think you are.

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Nobody knows, but we can make an educated guess. He didn't just leave his job, he left the entire profession.
No way he wasn't pushed.

Daniella12 · 23/11/2022 21:43

When I first started teaching - years ago, young male teachers and sixth-formers were in open relationships. One young female teacher moved in with a sixth former. It was a bit of a pervy time then - it was an open secret that the PE teacher was sleeping with a girl of 14. I was only in my early 20s and found it shocking, but the staff just accepted it. Even her parents knew. When I think about the PE teacher now, it makes me angry, The guy was a pedophile but those were Jimmy Savile days and a lot of horrible stuff went on. At least your boyfriend chose someone who was nearly a peer and resigned. The age gap is small and it was a different era.

Daisybuttercup12345 · 23/11/2022 23:36

Won't bother me.

pastatriangles · 24/11/2022 04:46

The age gap is small and it was a different era.

2002 was not a different era.

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