Dating Thread 233 - Being Our True Selves

[SortingItOut]

The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

Ooooh i saw my mentalness was picked up on! Yay! @WeWantTheFinestWines ! Well back from my very fitting ‚mental‘ works trip. Got stranded at an airport after being delayed and missing my connecting flight. Fucking hate travel. Ran to a wrong gate then to the right one and missed it by 5 minutes. Spooky night spent in a hotel with no changes of clothes, make up or anything actually! Then a 3hour delay after dragging myself to the airport for 5:30am. But finally HOME! 🤩 And love being at home. MM kept me company throughout my ordeal by spectacularily messaging while on the road. I am crossing everything i see him this week. He‘s said we got a months making up to do 🤭 mwhahahahahaha! I also told him i want a weekend as well, i‘ve said it before and its not yet happened even though he says he‘s up for it too. Actions though i know, i got to see the action! Well i’ll get some soon 😉🤩

Lol, that’s quite funny, ED & DE are uninvited guests who sometimes turn up ! .
where as PE is a guest never shows his face these days..

Well PE was always a bit immature and it’s so rude turning up early like that …

PE is a guest never shows his face these days😂😂😂

@Naimee87 christ that ordeal sounds hideous, and I hate airports with a vengeance!! ( Airline crew for years..) Hope you get your hot weekend /date v soon!

..meanwhile, to update the mothership on last night.... the date with the 36 year old was well, can I describe as sterile? Unfortunately I think I fancied the barman more. His Really White Teeth put me off, which was kind of, weird.

Never tried fabswingers, is it for swinging?

Did attend several swingers parties in a villa in Rottingdean in the 90s though, christ that was wild and carefree pre DC life .... 😃

@Signoramarella i felt awful for the airline staff! They were fielding so many angry questions but weren’t responsible for the issues. The reason for our delay was ‘a key member of the crew was missing and they didn’t have a plane’ … 😂 MM’s 46 really soon. Never found any men my age attractive, i go for the old scruffy chunky manly-men!!!! What was the waiter like?

@Signoramarella Fabswingers was primarily a swinging date but is now also a site to meet single people looking for casual encounters/FWB/swinging partners.
It is not a sex site like lots of men on there think.

It can be overwhelming and daunting and a lot of men think having a photo of their cock as their profile photo will make the women come running!!

You need good boundaries and to be aware that a lot of men on there are not actually single but pretend they are.

Any questions please shout as a few of us have been on it and some are still on it.
I'm still on it but I've hidden my profile while I see where things go with Mr HS2.
During my recruitment process for an FWB I've met some really nice people and some not so nice people.

Also consider Feeld.
I'm on Feeld but its not very busy in my area

Yep, PE was always first to the party, irrespective of who else was expected…

men think having a photo of their cock as their profile photo will make the women come running!!

most women run away once they have seen mine 😂😂

The reason for our delay was ‘a key member of the crew was missing and they didn’t have a plane’

as excuses go, not having a plane is a pretty good one, but I would have thought that having an aeroplane is pretty much a prerequisite for most airlines 🤷🏼‍♂️

Disappointing…are you still keeping your 51 y/o FWB?? Are you still on the hunt for a younger model ?

OOmph onwards and upwards, as they say... going younger and will give feeld a shot.

Current fwb , mid 60s is still welcome anytime, in fact, its le best post divorce sex I have had, so cannot give it up that easily.

Its easy, fun, no pressure, no drama, so fairly satisfactory until a replacement is found erring on the other side of 50.

Mmm the young guy kept banging on about dental hygiene, strike me down, but it failed to get ones fanny a'galloping....

Mmm the young guy kept banging on about dental hygiene, strike me down, but it failed to get ones fanny a'galloping....

😂😂😂😂😈😈😈

@Signoramarella Was he a dentist or just obsessed with dental hygiene😂
Such a shame that you haven't ended up with a young FWB.

Met my sister in the town she lives in yesterday (not my nearest Town) and in a coffee shop bumped in to one of Mr K's best friends😱
I noticed him but pretended I hadn't and then he came and spoke to me, we just chatted about his house renovations. No mention of Mr K.

What are the chances?
I was with Mr K nearly 3 years and never bumped into his friends, we've been split over 2 months and I've bumped into 2 of his friends.

Signoramarella

i think Feeld could work for you
fortune favours the brave
but yeah it’s a tricky one as it’s not the sex only is it , it’s compatibility also

does your 60 man also see other women or silent in that topic ?

well I didn’t have sex yesterday as my FWB was upset about something . So I left early and then my son got all salty with me .
i want to move to an all women commune sometimes . But they’d probably annoy me too

SortingItOut

very high .it will be him next- mark my words .
so let’s hope it’s a good hair day !!!

@Thisisworsethananticpated Could Balkan not have used his words to tell you not to go over so it wasn't a wasted journey?

We'll see if Mr K pops up either by message or in person.....

@ButterflyOfShay How's things? You haven't been on for a while. Hope everything is ok.

Sorry to hear Worsy , sometimes Balkan is unreliable. Salty boy is a feature chez moi these days. I just give him space and sometimes it works.
I had a very “meh” day yesterday. Didn’t contact any possible iron or checked apps. Enjoyed gym and girlfriends lunch and just cocooned home. Simple pleasures. No men 😊

yes , this F with B thing ….

I guess it’s the first time in 10 months I’ve not had the B
so let it pass , and focus on my deeply salty kids
god they spend time with my ex - and then I’m dealing with it - now week 4

mila sounds healthy to me . Very healthy
you might benefit from a cave x

Brunch with with NoShow was “meh” ( new phrase to me), I don’t we will be moving fwd with relationship in the near future.), I know this sounds awful but I don’t really think I need / want any kind of sexual or romantic relationship with anyone at moment, so kinda done with women for now.

I guess it’s the first time in 10 months I’ve not had the B
daily for 10 months, Christ on a bike, even weekly feels too much right now

HowlongWillThisTakeNow

weekly (ish )
not daily I assure you

Jesus 😂

HowlongWillThisTakeNow

sorry to hear that , some things cannot be overcome I guess
sorry 😐 hope your ok

Hey my luv! Thanks for the shout. Not a lot to say really as no irons, no OLD and no dating and been busy with work. Hope everyone’s doing good 💗