Dating Thread 233 - Being Our True Selves

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The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

Chatting with 2 very nice irons..normal ages, 1 is 51 , the other 49. They look 👍🏻 ok. I will name when I know more. I like them both physically too. Let’s see how it develops but I’m amazed how easily I got talking to new guys… and I chose them today !
I will not be able to meet anyone until beginning October though so I have time to figure this out

Mila14
You don’t let the grass grow under your feet Do you ! Straight back on that horse 🐎

Talking to 2 irons .Both nearer my age range than MrO. The 2 are nice enough but one does not have kids and this is an issue. The one without kids is very attractive but no pics of him standing up so he maybe a bit unfit, he's 6’4” though which I like. The other 6’3” quite attractive too.I’m ridiculously petite but I like tall fit guys. Both well educated but I’m yet to check linked ins etc. I’m amazed there are guys like these dating and available…one is new to dating though so we’ll see how it goes. They have time to date crazy as I will not be seeing anyone until early October ( kids and travel for work). Both have the same NAME…I hope I don’t make mistake! I’m glad I have a few days men free to focus on kids and work to be honest.

@Thisisworsethananticpated yes the 3 year FWB was a fairly serious relationship but through lockdown, so It was not really very normal. WE agreed to keep the family/kids out of it so its just become FWB situation, which in the main is fine, BUT he is 61 and I need a bit more oomph than that ( I'm 51).

Hopefully the young'un will turn out to be on the same page, as it were.... so if he is prepared for that and we click then, its all good! #

Like many single mums, I don't have time for a fulltime relationship, nor the headspace, so a casual situation is perfect.

@Mila14 both have the same name, oh blimey my dear, that has alot of potential for mixed up texting!! careful when your on the vino of an evening, you do carefully text the right one the right messagio!

Signora…I hear you about interviewing for FWB position. I don’t know whether I’m kidding myself about wanting a full relationship when I’m quite busy and mum of teenagers. I see your point about younger guys for FWB. I need connection and caring and a possibility of love so I can’t do FWB.

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We women have a massive advantage sexually over guys, even as we age, nowadays there’s a lot of tweaking we can do to our sex bits like laser to plump and help with moisture and urinary issues or just to rejuvenate or even inject with hyaluronic for a plumper and more pleasurable sex. I’ve had laser done in my vagina as maintenance ( I normally do once a year and it is FANTASTIC) rbut I’m open to anything tested that works at having my sex in peak condition. I train a lot. Mr O was 63 ( probably older? as he was never hard enough which was annoying. I had to come by other manual methods. He was going on and on but just not hard enough. To me that’s very unsatisfactory. I was patient though but it never really measured up to what was promised in the sexy texts. Imagine my face when I found the half blue pill!!!. Girls…do Pilates and get those pelvic floor muscles going too. Guys are really at a disadvantage. I’m not sure whether there’s anything they can do to plump up and increase hardness. I can say that I have no idea as to when MrO used Pfizer friend but it did not work out as it was semi hard . I’m used to Mr Ex who has ultra hard and long and fat…hence vanilla is quite enough for us.

@Mila14
i think you are quite correct ( in some ways), once high BP or diabetes or CHD sets in a guy, only the meds can help really, but by then it’s a bit late really, did you see the link I posted earlier?
if you want a guy who will be reliably hard in bed, you will probably need to go sub 40, but those men might well be seeing several other people or looking to start a family or generally not interested in a relationship
As for I’ve had laser done in my vagina. This did make me wince and smile at the same time, reminds me of the old James Bond film..

Howlongy… MrEx is 54… he runs though and is fit. Hard cock and very good sex . So it’s about doing the right choices and staying fit and healthy. For women is the same , the fitter the better
As a man you can join gym or run and exercise
We women have a lot of different helps to enhance but again, the fitter we are , the hornier because we get better blood pressure
so the same applies to us

Mila14

what on earth treatments have you done to your vagina ! My lord it’s a preened one
lasers and acid 😳

totally agree re pelvic and Pilates though

and yes , maybe just maybe…. a FWB might be worth looking into ?

sounds like he is doing well then, I had to stop running due to arthritis, hate the gym , I gone (back to ), cycling and MTB , generally given up drink and fried food and takeaway’s and almost given up meat now as well ( so I’m well boring and a cheap date) 😂

Any thoughts on what a Date 5 (after sleepover bonkathon Date 4 was restaurant + mucho vin rouge)? Are we straight into Netflix and chill phase?
Would a meal out still be reasonable first, exciting day time activities etc?

No idea what to aim for or suggest but kind of don't fancy just turning up at Mr Art's for eats and sex

Oncey…eat and sex looks good to me!
Worsy…in EU land, Gyno advises to have this laser treatment early 40s! I started last year and boy …it’s brilliant. It a bit uncomfortable but in and out in 10 minutes. It tightens and rejuvenates. Once a year it is for me.
I can’t bring myself to do the FWB thing though. I really really prefer to be with someone I grow to be close to
Howlongy, brilliant health choices. You are still young compared to my usual dates. It’s worth keeping healthy and enjoying sex all the way. What is the deal now with Mrs Show??

@OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss , pictures? & supper ?

@Mila14 Brunch on Sunday

Excellent Howlongy …you seem on track again with Mrs Show

@Mila14 omg I must look into the vag tightening, although I have to say, once the FWB gives off his male sex aroma, I get the fanny gallops, and we are good to go!

The current fwb is nearly 62 and sometimes its a bit floppy which frankly won't do at all.

Hoping that the 36 year old with have a big hard c~~ and be ready to use it asap.
No messing around just pure shagging.

Signora…no drama lady boss…😂😂😂😈😈😈😈

I've found that having a high sex drive and several years of horse riding have kept my bits performing very well, thank you

@Mila14 there's something hysterically funny about the idea of laser beams up the fanny, but I'm sure it's all for the greater good

@Mila14 the jury is still out

@Signoramarella blimey, I hopefully that young fella has had his weetabix

Fingers crossed @Signoramarella for off the scale f-gallops when the 36 ye old slides in for his interview.

Brunch @HowlongWillThisTakeNow? Not a euphemism I assume. Just spending time and chit chat.
FYI I'm on my way home from a two day big group work event thing where lots of chit chat with other mum colleagues involved sharing the extent of their grown up kids' crippling travel anxiety. It truly is a thing.

Well done with the metaphorical washing of lying MrO out of your house and mind @Mila14 onwards now and you'll have learnt some things you didn't know before from that experience so nothing ventured etc.

Mr Art Date 5 might need to be a sober non-sleepover one. Feels a bit wanton to be leaving the teens & dog for a third night in one week. In some ways that might be good as we overdid the red wine a tad last Sunday due to nerves but on the other hand the idea of cold sober feels a bit out of my comfort zone. Oh hang on - just thinking of it whilst typing it here is giving me major f-gallops so I guess it would be fine. Maybe a lunchtime glass of fizz, some rude massage then a meal to finish before heading homewards might be an acceptable agenda.

Oncey…Signora and you are right now on the hot loins top list. We are all rooting for you. Mothership awaiting info on Signora’s interview of the young FWB for his position and date 5 with Mr Art

Irons have gone quiet… search continues… patience…having a lovely time with kids though. Totally focussed on school work

Oops…I told the 6’4” I was on my way to gym in the morning (didn’t say anything but I thought he looked a bit unfit and overweight and there are no full pics of him in his profile) , he proceeded to tell me he walks the dog and does up to 20k steps…and I’m like …that’s really not a lot of exercise and you can’t do abs or core…erm…he just blocked me I think… He’s still there on hinge though and has not un matched me yet ?

OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss

i have had all my romps with Balkan stone cold sober bar for one ! I drive there as he can’t come here here obvs (kids)
its fine , I’ve got used to it and actually the exercise and no booze is good for me

Signoramarella
I’m wishing you a turgid (love that word !) date
when is it ?

Mila14
Yeah you might have lost that one
😂

@OnceRuralNowUrbanbliss
no, not a euphemism, loins will be cold, but pancakes with bacon & maple will be hot ( did say almost given up meat )

re: Travel Anxiety, Have honestly never heard of this before, but hey, everyday is a school day right?
sober sex is the best, but then I’m a man, brewers droop and all that…

in other news
I Fucking HATE PowerPoint, death by 100 slides..
as for F-gallops, I assume this means- what I think it means… 😂