Dating Thread 232 - Loving Ourselves First

[SortingItOut]

The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

@Mila14 he is hedging his bets, he is probably seeing other women as well, you might be in pool that he is multi dating, he might also be keeping in touch if things go south he will in a good position

@BelladiMamma hellooooo! Yes he did. So we had a huge amount of discussion on how we’d move forward this time round… thought we were on the same page! Guess its just not meant to be is it! Unless there’s magically a text tomorrow an a genuine reason he went off radar! Which i highly doubt! All good with DS that hideous teacher is blocked on all channels and my DS is in a entirely different school! Yay! God the Elf! Proper makes me shudder thinking about him. Magnet-man was saying and doing all the right things! Guess i’m just naieve and too googly-eyed for him 😂 How are you? Also a lot going on as always it seems

Interesting stories everyone, and agreed, Tinder is dreadful.

So my coffee date cancelled at minus 30 minutes.

...have to say, of all the shocking behaviour I have encountered with OLD, behaviour, this Takes The Biscuit.

Is this a thing? I feel like a commodity or a product, put back on the shelf!

Aw @Signoramarella that's not nice at all. Its so tough this dating game 💐

Hope everyone has a nice evening. I've had a few very casual, very normal "friendly" messages today. Not sure what to make of this.

@Signoramarella that's horrible! What a unpleasant experience. Hope you're ok ❤️

@LuckyLinda3 He's pretending nothing happened and is hoping by sending friendly texts you'll also forget about what happened and continue as you were.

If you want to get back with him tell him you need to chat about what happened to lead to your break up or if you don't just keep things friendly-ish but not so much that you can't move on and get over him

@Signoramarella So he stood you up basically?
But then had the audacity to messag😡

What was his excuse?

@SortingItOut yes, very possibly. I'm just going to leave things as they are for a few days and see how things are next week.

@Naimee87come sit on the bench with me, we shall both probably be sat here for a while so do bring some snacks and prosecco. I've got that lovely bottle of champagne I was going to share with Mr Cricket chilling in the fridge too😂 🤷‍♀️. We can compare stories of men that seem to come into and out of our lives without explanation and on a whim!😂

@Signoramarella he's shown his true colours and saved you the trouble of you needing to send him a 'not feeling it' message.

Block and delete.

Awful. You can rant properly. I think we are always bracing ourselves for what next with OLD. Onwards and upwards really. Don’t think too much Signora

And here I was agonising about keeping him along with MrO!!! Thank goodness I released him. He’s still texting about how beautiful I am and how we should meet for dinner????!!!!!

Oops…he wants you back LuckyL

Bella…MrO is monogamous. Also we are chatting and texting ALL THE TIME so I don’t really know how he can be dating to be honest. The conversations are very personal on one hand and very silly sexting on the other 😂😂😂😝.
However I am going with eyes open into this. He has planned the whole weekend with me and some bits after the weekend. I don’t really know but I have thrown myself fully with this person. Like a silly teenager. If I get knocked…all you ladies are here to give support. I want to discuss exclusivity after we DTD. I think there’s a time for this and we need to see we are sexually compatible too

What happened with Mr Cricket???

@Naimee87 !!! Hey gurl! That is really really odd about MM, i hope he’s ok?? I dont believe he would just vanish off the face of the earth like that. You must be in bits!! ☹️ Xx

@LuckyLinda3 you have ALL of the power here! 💛💛 his heart is in your hands!! Haha

@Mila14 and @ButterflyOfShay aw I dont know. He sent a long text filling me in with all his exciting plans for the weekend.

That's so true, you've nailed it there. He's upped the messages today, but the difference is when I was all loved up I'd take this as such a positive indicator that he cared and I'd fire those texts right back, then he'd go cold again and I'd wonder what had happened...

Now I'm finally meh over him he almost seems to be panicking and is double texting like mad 🙄

Oh thanks for the support gang, actually I am so over it now, I was miffed for about 2 hours then forgot it all.

...he said having considered my situation with teenage children... he didn't want to get in a ' tangled mess' again. Right! We hadn't even met and he finished it ! Quite funny really... that was one dodgy situation, dodged!

Onwards and upwards. OLD does throw up some funny and novel situations, great material for the novel I am currently penning...

@BelladiMamma esatto, I blocked and deleted!

E chi se ne frega 🤷🏻‍♀️
Tu - no!

So rude and clearly emotionally unavailable

Onwards!

@Mila14 Do you think you could see them both? I think I'd have to be all in with one, even texting the other would feel odd. How would Mr O feel if he knew about Mr A do you think?

@ButterflyOfShay Any sign of Mr Turk recently?