Dating Thread 232 - Loving Ourselves First

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The Rules:

1.The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.

1. Develop a thick skin.
2. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
3. It's all BS until it actually happens.
4. Trust your gut instinct.
5. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
6. Know your worth.
7. If it's not fun, stop.
8. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Treat others as you'd like to be treated 12. Any relationship you have that could get ruined by having a conversation about your feelings, standards and/or expectations wasn't really stable enough to begin with 13. The things you choose to ignore/ tolerate now are the reasons you will break up in the future 14. OLD can get very time consuming. Keep doing other activities you enjoy.

Optional: Please give your irons (potential dates you are talking to) nicknames like Mr Scottish. Initials are allowed (Mr S) when you are an item.

This is VERY good..!

This all sounds good @Mila14 - when will you see MrO, and are there plans to see MrA again? And if both, which one is first? 😆

@ibelieveinmirrorballs thanks..I was please that’s for sure! We will see how the next one goes!

@Mila14 I could have written exactly what you have about my Mr city - I knew straight away that I fancied him, spent the evening being touchy/close/flirty and knew he'd be someone I could really fall for. I know too that Mr libra would have stood a better chance if I hadn't been on a date with Mr city 2 days prior 🤷‍♀️

Mila14

chemistry wins
not necessarily sensible as our bodies make
mistakes !!!

but it’s very clear which one you fancy

and we can’t make ourselves fancy people

if we could life would be easier !!!!

I agree with @Thisisworsethananticpated chemistry all the way - I didn't have that with Mr Mason and whilst he was a nice guy etc ultimately I needed more spark

Therapy Jeff and the difference between healthy and unhealthy chemistry 🧐

So, met Mr Sleazy. Not for me, though was a fine date, but not only gave I acknowledged he’s not for me, I’ve actually told him. This has been a brilliant way to use my new found boundary skills and growing confidence 💪

Worsy, @ibelieveinmirrorballs ,slothy…Mr O called me out of the blue this afternoon. He was happy we didn’t go any further on first date and is looking forward to second. I will see him the moment I get back to London. Basically it made me feel a lot better talking to him because it feels quite natural really. He’s number 1 and he felt exactly the same the moment he saw me.
I will take it all with a pinch of salt but he’s planning what we do second date. I’m happy with that too. I had a weird day today and I vented a bit with him. He’s just…I can’t say nice because he’s just so damn big and sexy and I’m sure there’s an orderly queue of ladies 🤪😍
Mr A has done a clear declaration too he fancies me crazy…this is all mental. He’s a really good iron too and I’m not ready to drop him either. He’s way too eager though and I feel slightly love bombed ( a bit like MrEx on that side… super love demonstrating…)
I’m just enjoying everything and not looking at any more men

Awesome empowerment. I find it really difficult to tell them face to face to be honest…I sort of go very quiet and don’t message back and try not to get confronted

GoldenMirror

well it’s a good thing you didn’t arrange a sex
only date isn’t it
as can you imagine how awkward that would have been 😂

was he at all hot ?

@Mila14 wow, you are an in demand lady! Have fun choosing between them all 😊

I had a chat with Mr Beard about the message from his ex and his response reassured me it was all innocent. Thanks everyone who suggested talking to him and getting it off my mind, feeling better now.

Good to talk nagging doubts. Happy for you and Mr Beard!😊

Agree too - I've dated some really nice guys, who gave the impression they were decent, honest and thought the world of me, but that spark just wasn't there. I stuck one out for three months hoping things would grown but they just didn't, so if it's not a YES straight away I don't pursue it; for me it's either there or it's not.

@Mila14 I go quiet too, if I don't want to see them again, hoping they'll pick up on the fact I'm not interested. I know the signs of someone not being interested after a first date so I assume they will too.

@Daisysunset … totally agree with you. I have also tagged along a few dates knowing I wasn’t feeling what I should. I don’t want to compromise …

🥰

I’m glad to hear that.. it’s easy to think the worst (especially if you spend much time reading around the Relationships board) but there’s often a simple explanation.

Daisysunset

it’s doesn’t work when you go quiet with guys
mainly , they like the chase !!!

I ignored one
I liked him but he sent a text I didn’t like
and he’d been vague anD flakey

he sent me 3 texts even though I left him unread !

madness

Stayingstrongish

good . I hoped that would be the case

That's so true!

@Thisisworsethananticpated yes! Thank goodness! He wasn’t unattractive to look at, but just came across pervy not flirty, and too pushy.

Really glad I did the meet though, it’s been educational. It was easy to be boundaried with him though, as no temptation!

A bad text is a huge turn off but that’s because we can’t stand BS…if he’s attractive I would give second chance
how are you Worsy ?