Good morning dear Dating Thread posters.
Hello @SortingItOut for setting up this thread and others who were around when I was last active in this world around two years ago.
I deleted the apps, got a dog, started a Masters degree, sold my house downsized/ relocated, parented a couple of suicidal teens and helped a third leave home 🍾🥂.
Had no thoughts of ever dating again. Gave me a major 🤢to think of all the dire blokes I'd found myself entangled and naked with in my wanton 2 year heyday.
Then I couldn't sleep one night late June and felt sad and lonely - it was the day my XH announced his engagement to the OW (bless him he broadcast it out on socials before even mentioning to his kids and when he did it was by text - once a nobhead always a nobhead).
Anyhoo. Eleventymillion left swipes and a single right swipe saw me being penfriends over the summer with an interesting sounding one. I told him I'd not entertain the idea of writing to someone before we met but nevertheless we shared humour, pics and coincidences once or twice a week while he was away.
He returned to my area this week and we met up. It was a great first date. He bought dinner (paid while I was in the loo) lots to chat about very easy company, stayed drinking cocktails for about 4 hours. He's urgent for another date, really likes me and fancies me a lot so he tells me.
I've said (haven't mentioned how I've learnt this with all the shaggy lovebombers of the past) I'll be wanting to take things slowwwly.
I'm a bit confused as get turned off (like a loser) by people who like me and find me attractive (ffs) plus he's not super-model jaw droppingly gwargeous (again my toxic trait is to go for these types) but tall, slender, pleasant face and asks questions, has interesting stories, appears to be well balanced with kids the same age as mine.
There was a fair bit of hand holding, arms round waists and (shy awkward - me) kissing at the end
Then immediate thanks for a great evening mutual floatiness and blimey what just happened texts.
Mainly just logging this here as wasn't part of my game plan to get involved with someone until I'd finished the masters (as an arbitrary date for no reason). This guy seems very eligible and ticks the boxes I would have. And it is quite boring being a single parent with no close mates nearby (left them behind when I moved house)
I definitely do want to see him for Date #2 and thanks to this thread I know that's all I need to ask right now. Already getting a bit stressed about the probably inevitable sleeping together. Not sure why I'm the most body confident I've ever been. More what if we're not compatible or it's a disappointment as others have been.
Can't do anything other than trust the process of discovering if we are a good match in all ways and if we're not c'est la vie.
As an iron I'm not sure what to call him. MrArt I guess. Or MrDorset, MrTall...