Traditions in his family are weird, If I have to do that. I will do it myself!!!

[newmumy2022]

My partner's family tradition is weird.
Must have had earrings in my daughter's ears when she was three months old.
I was resistant. But if I really had to do it, I would do it myself.

Is there anyone in or around Liverpool who has done Baby ear piercings?
Any good places to recommend?
And what kind of earrings should I prepare?

I wonder if maybe this kind of mini earrings could fit?

https://www.trendollajewelry.com/collections/nap-earrings/products/trendolla-king-crown-earrings-ball-back-earrings-nap-earrings

Help!!!
FFFF!!!

The PP didn't make it a direct comparison, & the more FGM is openly discussed & denigrated, the better.

OP, are you for real? That's what you took from that post? Not there's a chance your baby could get a life threatening illness as this baby did?

Please don't cause harm to your baby just because you're worried about losing your partner.

You think hurting your child is a great way to ‘keep’ this man?

If this is the case you are deluded and a danger to your dd.

I get the feeling that OP actually wants to do it and is after recommendations but is blaming the father's family take the heat off herself...

As the mum it should completely up to you, I would stand my ground if it’s something you’re really against.

it’s completely normal in my family for babies to have their ears pierced very young I personally had mine done when I was three months and I’m glad my parents did it makes life so much easier and I could not wear earring for years without worrying about it closing but as the mum it should definitely be your choice.

i definitely don’t think it’s cruel however.

I'm Indian and I would definitely NOT be getting my daughter's ears piercing done as a baby. She can decide when she is old enough whether she wants one or not.
What are your in-laws explanation for it being done now?
Culture needs to move to what is better for the child rather than culture.

There's a slightly dodgy piercing place in my city. They just shrugged when I asked which of their earrings were hypoallergenic. Even they don't pierce under 5s. Nobody's going to give you recommendations on some back-alley place where you can hurt your daughter just to make your husband happy.

I personally had mine done when I was three months and I’m glad my parents did it makes life so much easier

In what world does having pierced ears "make life so much easier"?

And it's not rude to call "cultural" things weird if they are damaging.

And if you need to hurt a child to keep a man, you need to dump the man and find a nicer one.

You're happy to mutilate your baby for the sake of keeping your partner happy. Jesus.

I'm sorry but I struggle to see how you can't see that it's cruel?
How is sudden unexpected pain on a young baby NOT cruel?

Reputable places don't pierce babies.

The ones that do it don't care about their customers (it is not good for baby health, reputable places would profit from doing it if there was no problem) and are unlikely to be safe in other respects (because they don't care much about their customers).

I know lots of people on here hate Claire’s but I’ve heard positive things and you can ask them to do both ears at the same time so you can comfort your baby straight away when it’s done

also I’d recommend getting a piercing with a screw on ball it definitely won’t fall out on its own which could be a choking risk

The more of the op's comments l am reading, the more my troll radar is going off - absolutely ignoring everyone's comments and almost trying to wind people up.

Thank you, everyone, I guess I have made the decision.

So it's 'tradition'? So - it's going to happen whether you want it or not, is that what you are saying?

Your DH will leave you if it doesn't happen?

Your InLaws will make it happen if you don't, is that what happens in your 'culture'?

If it is, and you really DON'T want it to happen your baby, I'd threaten them with the Police if they abuse and mutilate your child without your consent. Anyone who does, will be charged with assault (and mean it)

And if your 'D'H is on their side, rethink your marriage. This is your helpless child - what else is 'culture' and 'tradition'? Education until 12 for girls? Marriage at 14?

I think there’s a very real possibility of the involvement of hairy hands in this one.

What did you decide? I hope one that put your dd’s welfare first?

As one of the few people left who actually doesn't see ear piercing as a crime against humanity - you're talking bollocks.

There is nothing - NOTHING - good to say about Claire's Accessories and piercing.

I don't think she is. She skipped past the risk of infection warning from the poster and settled instead on "so others do it?"

OP take that single brain cell and use it to not inflict harm on your daughter.

Ear piercing infants and circumcision are cultural "traditions" on my husbands side. Did I have my daughters ears pierced as a baby or my sons foreskin cut off? Did I fuck.

It's child abuse. Don't do it.

i dont see how hurting a child who cant consent for fashion purposes is allowed

but you clearly dont care op so crack on